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Of course my English ancestry thinks we should both be drawn and quartered for high treason 
It's a good thing I'm not confused. No, wait. I'm. Wait, what?
Put your big boy pants on!!!!!!
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Well, if we're going there, me being an Irish/Scottish/English/German/Polish/Czech/Cherokee Indian/African American/Schnauzer mixed-breed means I should be ready to fight me at all times and totally confused with myself.
It's a good thing I'm not confused. No, wait. I'm. Wait, what?
It's a good thing I'm not confused. No, wait. I'm. Wait, what?
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Moving to a new house.
Here's a tip for those who might be moving soon:
When Time-Warner cable says they are going to come out and install your internet and phone, what they really mean is that they will send out a subcontractor who will cut all the existing phone lines on your house, drill random holes through the wall, attempt to run a cable strung 5-feet in the air (instead of being buried underground), then pack everything back into his truck and leave when you question his methods.
When Time-Warner says that your internet and phone will be installed in a few days and it'll only take 1 1/2 hours, what they really mean is that it will take hours spent on hold listening to muzak, three more appointments, and a solid month for the second set of subcontractors to figure everything out while you rock slowly in the corner of the room drooling and muttering things like 'bury the cable' and 'don't drill through the siding again' to yourself because you've caught contagious stupidity and are going through involuntary internet withdrawal.
Here's a tip for those who might be moving soon:
When Time-Warner cable says they are going to come out and install your internet and phone, what they really mean is that they will send out a subcontractor who will cut all the existing phone lines on your house, drill random holes through the wall, attempt to run a cable strung 5-feet in the air (instead of being buried underground), then pack everything back into his truck and leave when you question his methods.
When Time-Warner says that your internet and phone will be installed in a few days and it'll only take 1 1/2 hours, what they really mean is that it will take hours spent on hold listening to muzak, three more appointments, and a solid month for the second set of subcontractors to figure everything out while you rock slowly in the corner of the room drooling and muttering things like 'bury the cable' and 'don't drill through the siding again' to yourself because you've caught contagious stupidity and are going through involuntary internet withdrawal.
This is parental (or paternal) and well intended.
One more thing, I think I have learned, once you have got that one you think "she was the one you needed", be ready to keep that fire on. Otherwise, she could feel you were not the one she needed and, since human beings do not live in a church, those pagan friends you think you have will tease her around to woo (same way like wild animals) (I think that was why GOD commanded not to covet a person or his household).
Have a look and see girls and women keeps on asking things. If you are not a giver (or a frequent provider) make your choice.
One of the things I enjoy reading is how RACHEL made her BLIND decision on behalf of ISAAC.
Materialistic or not, she said "YES" because she felt economically assured by the gifts she saw and received. (That´s on the O.T. of the Bible)
OF course! There are worldwide exceptions (like Tina Turner, for example)
One more thing, I think I have learned, once you have got that one you think "she was the one you needed", be ready to keep that fire on. Otherwise, she could feel you were not the one she needed and, since human beings do not live in a church, those pagan friends you think you have will tease her around to woo (same way like wild animals) (I think that was why GOD commanded not to covet a person or his household).
Have a look and see girls and women keeps on asking things. If you are not a giver (or a frequent provider) make your choice.
One of the things I enjoy reading is how RACHEL made her BLIND decision on behalf of ISAAC.
Materialistic or not, she said "YES" because she felt economically assured by the gifts she saw and received. (That´s on the O.T. of the Bible)
OF course! There are worldwide exceptions (like Tina Turner, for example)
I don´t the truth, but I´m blind and still guess (although I might look antifemenist) (a thing I am not, but neutral).
A smart woman here posted a very inteligent thread (though sarcastic, like this) saying why women are evil (a thing I disbelieved).
That day, on my way out, I confimr a thing someone said: REJECTION leads to sodomy (or lesnianism).
When I saw that person, inside of me, I felt a tear. "Yes! She was right, I said to myself." I never realized why some were facing rejection, to the point they were going to men, instead of girls or women.
Yes! We can boast. We can say things aloud. And that´s why many hid their faces in avatars to "freely" vent personal frustrations and false macho or feminist success.
Yes! The standard is not Christ, but worldly conventions.
David´s first wife criticized him for public dancing. What was her backgroung before being in the court? Did David forget where he came from before being a King?
I have seen how some Jewish writers have called David "a quean" and not a king (just for having Jonathan as friend). I don´t know how it was that love, but I see God set HIs eyes on this man for a reason.
David married another woman who respected him well, after leaving the corpse of her stingy husband LABAN...
Did David wore a sword or a robe?
It was Judas who used a robe to end up.
A smart woman here posted a very inteligent thread (though sarcastic, like this) saying why women are evil (a thing I disbelieved).
That day, on my way out, I confimr a thing someone said: REJECTION leads to sodomy (or lesnianism).
When I saw that person, inside of me, I felt a tear. "Yes! She was right, I said to myself." I never realized why some were facing rejection, to the point they were going to men, instead of girls or women.
Yes! We can boast. We can say things aloud. And that´s why many hid their faces in avatars to "freely" vent personal frustrations and false macho or feminist success.
Yes! The standard is not Christ, but worldly conventions.
David´s first wife criticized him for public dancing. What was her backgroung before being in the court? Did David forget where he came from before being a King?
I have seen how some Jewish writers have called David "a quean" and not a king (just for having Jonathan as friend). I don´t know how it was that love, but I see God set HIs eyes on this man for a reason.
David married another woman who respected him well, after leaving the corpse of her stingy husband LABAN...
Did David wore a sword or a robe?
It was Judas who used a robe to end up.
For the sensitive ones pertaining to the content of this thread's OP, I'd like to engage with intent in another direction, to let you "nice guys" understand that there is someone out there for you. God has made each of us vessels unique and though the majority says, "man up", "get over it". There are others who are concerned with your tender heart. There is someone for everyone, for some it is Christ alone.
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Well said!! THANK YOU!!
At least I would know once I tell you about my High expectations, you wouldn't get scared or think no wonder why you're still single. I already know TWO guys that fits my High expectations, but they're both married, so I'm out and about. But at least my High expectations DO EXIST!!
Thanks again
At least I would know once I tell you about my High expectations, you wouldn't get scared or think no wonder why you're still single. I already know TWO guys that fits my High expectations, but they're both married, so I'm out and about. But at least my High expectations DO EXIST!!
Thanks again
Not meaning to be nitpicky, but I don't think "nice guys" should be the designated term. I consider myself to be a "nice guy", & was shy before I was married, but that didn't stop me from finding the love of my life.
True "nice guys" are those qualified to experience true love & marriage. When I say "qualified", I mean mature, honest, & having good christian character.
Perhaps the term we're looking for is something more akin to 'spineless', or just plain immature. We should NEVER loose sight of the fact that both men & women of the last 2 generations are generally much younger for their age than the ones before them. Some are also younger spiritually as well. I'm not saying this to sound insulting, for I'm in one of these generations myself. This has much to do with the last days we're living in. This immaturity will play right into the coming events before the Antichrist shows himself. And it's only going to get worse.
True "nice guys" are those qualified to experience true love & marriage. When I say "qualified", I mean mature, honest, & having good christian character.
Perhaps the term we're looking for is something more akin to 'spineless', or just plain immature. We should NEVER loose sight of the fact that both men & women of the last 2 generations are generally much younger for their age than the ones before them. Some are also younger spiritually as well. I'm not saying this to sound insulting, for I'm in one of these generations myself. This has much to do with the last days we're living in. This immaturity will play right into the coming events before the Antichrist shows himself. And it's only going to get worse.
I'll get it back on rail if possible.
I don't think men should have to "put their big boy pants on" because its insulting. It uses gender roles and shaming language to basically prod men to go up to a girl and asking them out, which will fail miserably because he never had the confidence in the first place. She will see this shy, slumped over man, nervously asking her on a date. The unattractiveness that oozes out of that will get him rejected, and he'll go back to his corner feeling more hurt and rejected than before.
So what advice do we give him? Tell him he's not a man, put his "big boy pants on" and go do it again.. and again... and again.. and again.
Its not loving, its not kind, it shows no empathy for him or his feelings. But boys aren't suppose to have feelings right? They are just suppose to be super-man, riding lifes waves and being their for women 120% of the time.
Reality check, men are human beings with hearts. We are strong on the outside, yet soft on the inside and all men already know this, but they already have their cuddle bug so they tow the same lines over and over again, striking at his heart, telling him he isn't worthy of the title manhood because he hasn't developed his confidence yet.
I say instead of culturally shaming these men, that rather why not go talk to them, find out why they are not confident and help them boost it. You can boost it in a variety of ways. Eating healthy, looking good, working out, developing your social skills.
Telling a man to "man up" is a cop-out from really giving him the help he needs, and this is how bitter broken men are born. And yet we as a society then complain about it? We produce these men in mass, then bicker how they are broken in the first place.. and put a rubber sticker of "man upz" on it in hopes of fixing it.
Truth is, no one cares about these men, its their problem and that IS the fundemental problem. No one cares or loves them, and that is why we will always have these men. We treat them with the swimming pool effect. Its sink or swim, throw them in the water, then walk away. No help, no guidance, no true empathy.
Its cold, its loveless, and it does not build character. We reap what we sow.
I don't think men should have to "put their big boy pants on" because its insulting. It uses gender roles and shaming language to basically prod men to go up to a girl and asking them out, which will fail miserably because he never had the confidence in the first place. She will see this shy, slumped over man, nervously asking her on a date. The unattractiveness that oozes out of that will get him rejected, and he'll go back to his corner feeling more hurt and rejected than before.
So what advice do we give him? Tell him he's not a man, put his "big boy pants on" and go do it again.. and again... and again.. and again.
Its not loving, its not kind, it shows no empathy for him or his feelings. But boys aren't suppose to have feelings right? They are just suppose to be super-man, riding lifes waves and being their for women 120% of the time.
Reality check, men are human beings with hearts. We are strong on the outside, yet soft on the inside and all men already know this, but they already have their cuddle bug so they tow the same lines over and over again, striking at his heart, telling him he isn't worthy of the title manhood because he hasn't developed his confidence yet.
I say instead of culturally shaming these men, that rather why not go talk to them, find out why they are not confident and help them boost it. You can boost it in a variety of ways. Eating healthy, looking good, working out, developing your social skills.
Telling a man to "man up" is a cop-out from really giving him the help he needs, and this is how bitter broken men are born. And yet we as a society then complain about it? We produce these men in mass, then bicker how they are broken in the first place.. and put a rubber sticker of "man upz" on it in hopes of fixing it.
Truth is, no one cares about these men, its their problem and that IS the fundemental problem. No one cares or loves them, and that is why we will always have these men. We treat them with the swimming pool effect. Its sink or swim, throw them in the water, then walk away. No help, no guidance, no true empathy.
Its cold, its loveless, and it does not build character. We reap what we sow.
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What about when the man in question refuses to talk, and instead clings to brokenness, deliberately encouraging others to do the same in some cases? Is that edifying for those around this person, is it showing the love of Christ to allow a culture of misery to form?
When they try to beat the person who reaches out to them, then what? Allow everyone present to be held hostage to a rising tide of nihilism?
When they try to beat the person who reaches out to them, then what? Allow everyone present to be held hostage to a rising tide of nihilism?
Rebuke a scorner and he will give you a blot, but rebuke a wise man and he will increase in his learning. The answer to that question is that you can only help those who want to help themselves. Some will want your help while others will not want it, and waste away in their negativity. This does not mean that because of a few, we cast away the many. You being in Christ, should be able to discern who wants help and those who just want to stew in their self-pity.
I can ask the same thing. Is telling men to "Man Up" edifying those around that person? Is it showing the love of Christ? Or is it just a quick flip of the finger because we really don't care to help those people and like to gloss on a quick-fix phrase to make things all better. Would Christ tell men to man up? Or would he be gentle and patient with them?
When someone refuses your help, then you move on. You can only help those who want to receive your help. I see a lot of men reaching out for advice and wisdom in what to do with their ever depressing state. "Man Up" is the last thing they want to hear and we as Christians should absolutely depise it because it is a worldy cultural invention. The strongest of the fittest. The Alpha of the Alpha's.
No one is perfect, no one ever will be. We should genuinely and sincerely help those who want it, and move away from those who don't until they do.
If a woman came crying about her situation, not a single man would ever tell her to "Woman Up" and stop whining about it. Yet we do this with men all the time as if we think it builds character. All it builds is hurt and rejected men.
I can ask the same thing. Is telling men to "Man Up" edifying those around that person? Is it showing the love of Christ? Or is it just a quick flip of the finger because we really don't care to help those people and like to gloss on a quick-fix phrase to make things all better. Would Christ tell men to man up? Or would he be gentle and patient with them?
When someone refuses your help, then you move on. You can only help those who want to receive your help. I see a lot of men reaching out for advice and wisdom in what to do with their ever depressing state. "Man Up" is the last thing they want to hear and we as Christians should absolutely depise it because it is a worldy cultural invention. The strongest of the fittest. The Alpha of the Alpha's.
No one is perfect, no one ever will be. We should genuinely and sincerely help those who want it, and move away from those who don't until they do.
If a woman came crying about her situation, not a single man would ever tell her to "Woman Up" and stop whining about it. Yet we do this with men all the time as if we think it builds character. All it builds is hurt and rejected men.