Recovering Love Addict
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I believe that life without a partner is viewed as meaningless in our culture. I believe that, because we tend to believe this lie, we also believe that being single is somehow less of a blessing, that God can't work with that... that is all a lie. Being single has beautiful purpose for God's glory. When we trust in that, we can focus on His purposes rather than our own desires.
All this to say... singleness is reallllly hard. I was there for many years. I failed many times at being content with the fact that that is where God had me. I encourage you to take one day at a time and accept His 'bread' of today. He has big things for you!!
All this to say... singleness is reallllly hard. I was there for many years. I failed many times at being content with the fact that that is where God had me. I encourage you to take one day at a time and accept His 'bread' of today. He has big things for you!!
I see where McGee is coming from Lynn. You see, we have a guy here finding life "meaningless" and "worthless" because he has no life partner (yet).
People are trying to encourage christianguitarist that God is enough which is true and I think you agree as well. Whether he wants a life partner or not, He can only really depend on God. To say that that is not enough is not only unhelpful, I don't think Gal understands the implication of that to him.
If I'm depressed and I come here asking for help and people tell me I can't find that kind of help from God. I'm doomed.
Like I said, it is good for man to have a partner, but it is also not that bad to not have one. Maybe it is good for him to get married. But since he is not (yet), life is still worth living. I think that's the point we're all trying to make.
People are trying to encourage christianguitarist that God is enough which is true and I think you agree as well. Whether he wants a life partner or not, He can only really depend on God. To say that that is not enough is not only unhelpful, I don't think Gal understands the implication of that to him.
If I'm depressed and I come here asking for help and people tell me I can't find that kind of help from God. I'm doomed.
Like I said, it is good for man to have a partner, but it is also not that bad to not have one. Maybe it is good for him to get married. But since he is not (yet), life is still worth living. I think that's the point we're all trying to make.
Guitarist,
Yes, I have and do have strong feelings on the topic of having a 'life-partner'... From the time of a young boy growing up in a christian family with 5 siblings - after my father passed-away at a young age (36) - our mother raised 6 kids all by herself and to this day at 83 has never felt compelled to remarry. Why - because she had married and lost her one-true soul-mate and devoted the rest of her life to her kids, now her grand-kids and great-grand-kids - more than fill her void for fulfilling love and companionship...
We are all different - we all have different journeys - different feelings and experiences.
In my case - my life's dream has been to grow-old and spend the rest of my life with my soul-mate (like my mother). Along my journey - I met, fell in love and married my soul-mate; unfortunately after 26 years and three kids she has been 'lost' to a severe depression and is pursuing a separation...
While I am heart-broken, empty and longing for her companionship - I have to find peace in the lord - and continue to pray to the lord for her lost-soul... I pray to the lord to give her the time and the space that she needs to help her find her way and pray for her recovery from depression. I continue to pray that they lord will answer my prayers and bless me with my soul-mate.
To the point of your question - I too struggle with the potential of the chance of complete loss - the chance that she will not recover from her depression and will never find her way home.
I do struggle - knowing that my love language is loving affection (ref: The Five Love Languages: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch. I find peace by praying for the lord to bless me with a life-partner that can return the same amount of unconditional love and attention that I am able and willing to give...
For now - the lord has blessed me with a 6 month old GoldenDoodle - the exemplar example for us mere humans of what it means to be 'loved unconditionally'...
Keep your faith in the lord brother - I will pray for you and for the lord to bless you with the strength to focus upon becoming the best version of yourself - such that you will find strength in knowing that you are deserving of receiving the love your heart desires thru the lords blessings...
Yes, I have and do have strong feelings on the topic of having a 'life-partner'... From the time of a young boy growing up in a christian family with 5 siblings - after my father passed-away at a young age (36) - our mother raised 6 kids all by herself and to this day at 83 has never felt compelled to remarry. Why - because she had married and lost her one-true soul-mate and devoted the rest of her life to her kids, now her grand-kids and great-grand-kids - more than fill her void for fulfilling love and companionship...
We are all different - we all have different journeys - different feelings and experiences.
In my case - my life's dream has been to grow-old and spend the rest of my life with my soul-mate (like my mother). Along my journey - I met, fell in love and married my soul-mate; unfortunately after 26 years and three kids she has been 'lost' to a severe depression and is pursuing a separation...
While I am heart-broken, empty and longing for her companionship - I have to find peace in the lord - and continue to pray to the lord for her lost-soul... I pray to the lord to give her the time and the space that she needs to help her find her way and pray for her recovery from depression. I continue to pray that they lord will answer my prayers and bless me with my soul-mate.
To the point of your question - I too struggle with the potential of the chance of complete loss - the chance that she will not recover from her depression and will never find her way home.
I do struggle - knowing that my love language is loving affection (ref: The Five Love Languages: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch. I find peace by praying for the lord to bless me with a life-partner that can return the same amount of unconditional love and attention that I am able and willing to give...
For now - the lord has blessed me with a 6 month old GoldenDoodle - the exemplar example for us mere humans of what it means to be 'loved unconditionally'...
Keep your faith in the lord brother - I will pray for you and for the lord to bless you with the strength to focus upon becoming the best version of yourself - such that you will find strength in knowing that you are deserving of receiving the love your heart desires thru the lords blessings...
As someone who had relationships as an idol at one point i hope i can help first off i don't recommend getting any romantic relationships while your trying to get past this it will ruin everything, second you have to remember there will be a time when you die and go to Heaven there isn't gonna be marriage or wives or anything like that so being with someone forever if it ain't Jesus stop dreaming, last but certainly not least this is a heart issue everyone is different but we all end up trying to find something or someone to fill that void in us but no matter what you do you'll never fill it with anything but Christ he has water that will never run out no matter how much you want he will always be more then enough! Isn't that great news especially for you? The song of Solomon shows that we should somewhat look at Christ intimately so much so they compare it to a women and her love he has everything you need and he will satisfy you now that doesn't mean you'll never be lonely and it doesn't mean you wont need a wife marriage is a very important tool for sanctification but you need to understand al though marriage is great it's just two people trying to run this race better together even then its about Christ so i woukd move my thoughts for romance or whatevs and point it towards Christ hope this helps God bless cx.