Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason WHY?

[Jorina]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

struggling is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you are determined not to give up.

Thats very true! Nicely said Ringer.

 

[GreenNnice]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

I can relate to that wisebeardman.

This is exactly why I'm single approaching the mid 40s. Now I have some female friends wondering why I'm not in relationship. One of them has tried unsuccessfully to hook me up with a relative and I did go on date where I was told "why don't you get married and have kids". I have had one gf and got screwed over.

I regretfully have to say that if I am actually good enough then they had their chances when I was younger. If I'm not good enough then logic says don't bother. I don't find most women attractive these days anyway. Far too aggressive and masculine and lack kindness and compassion.

You need to NOW give God a chance, not girls a chance, and, see what happens, be careful then, because you just never know how God may work your heart over and 'surprise' you, Firesecured The Lord leads

 

[GreenNnice]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Thats very true! Nicely said Ringer.

The Lord leads, but, I hope, pray, maybe, the Lord puts on some other girls hearts to comment on this thread, I know, I KNOW, I did say, at first, for girls to stay by the wayside and just let guys speak, but, the Lord leads, and, I felt led to open it up to all after reading PowEm's comment and realize that with Jorie commenting it is confirmation that girls, indeed, are quite encouraging and insightful, laced with wisdom with their spirit from Him speaking, quietly, yet, boldy.

Edit: almost fergets, julieannie's one word comment was insightful too, as I think that let's us guys know that not the majority of girls are going to get that upset after a motorcycle ride concerning 'hair' as was the case with frenchhorningcatherder

 

[GreenNnice]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Green, I apologize.

My response to your thread was...unnecessarily grouchy. I don't know specifically why it touched a nerve and set me off (but that also might be because it's 3am and I got out of bed because I wasn't feeling good about this). But I do know that historically, you're a Godly man with only the best, loving intentions toward all of us here. I'm sure you post was intended to provoke thought, but not necessarily provoke the offence that I took, needlessly. So, honestly, and truly, I'm sorry for responding the way I did.

Carry on.

shouryupony, no worries, the Lord leads, and, I KNOW, that the words I say sometimes are tough to hear, and, I don't always say things right, I just hope and pray I always do say what He has on my heart to put out there for you all to read, and, I hope and pray, be blessed with, by Him

 

[CatHerder]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

The Lord leads, but, I hope, pray, maybe, the Lord puts on some other girls hearts to comment on this thread, I know, I KNOW, I did say, at first, for girls to stay by the wayside and just let guys speak, but, the Lord leads, and, I felt led to open it up to all after reading PowEm's comment and realize that with Jorie commenting it is confirmation that girls, indeed, are quite encouraging and insightful, laced with wisdom with their spirit from Him speaking, quietly, yet, boldy.

Edit: almost fergets, julieannie's one word comment was insightful too, as I think that let's us guys know that not the majority of girls are going to get that upset after a motorcycle ride concerning 'hair' as was the case with frenchhorningcatherder

haha - I was confused at this at first, forgetting I had posted that story. It was actually a bicycle ride. Someday I will be cool enough for a motorcycle.

 

[Jorina]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

haha - I was confused at this at first, forgetting I had posted that story. It was actually a bicycle ride. Someday I will be cool enough for a motorcycle.

You already are cool enough ofcourse, you just need to start believing it. Just go for it: its awesome

 

[CatHerder]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

You already are cool enough ofcourse, you just need to start believing it. Just go for it: its awesome

Thank you! My pocketbook says otherwise. Getting out of a rental first, getting some other things in order....priorities.....priorities.....it's on the list of priorities, but just not that high up that list....someday.

 

[Jorina]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Thank you! My pocketbook says otherwise. Getting out of a rental first, getting some other things in order....priorities.....priorities.....it's on the list of priorities, but just not that high up that list....someday.

Hmm so its not that you're not cool enough, but rather that it seems not real smart to buy one now. Well ive got kind of the same problem here: just cant afford it yet. Comes a lot extra costs with it unfortunatly but indeed.. SOMEDAY

 

[CatHerder]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

yes.....right now I have to be practical. I have to use my car for work, which includes having developmentally disabled passengers. So a motorcycle would be for fun and hopping around town running errands, not for my commute. I am cool enough without a motorcycle though.

 

[Sleeis]

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I like your posts I wish I could live alone and not rely on physical relationships to get me through tough times.

 

[fourleaf]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

age 24
single
height 5
favorite color purple
favorite song for now is bones by hillsong
" food any chinese dish
" band casting crowns..i used to be an incubus fan..sometimes i still listen to their songs (i know they are worldly!)
" hobby playing computer games
" sports i only know how to play badminton and table tennis but i prefer badminton
" books the little prince
" author bob ong - filipino author
" movie for now is the vow directed by micheal sucsy
" dessert chocolate truffle -im chocolate lover, i love vanilla too
pet - male japanese spitz
crush - i haven't meet him yet
love of my life - first God, second family, third my ministry and friends
i love cute and funny things
i'm attracted to a hilarious yet incredibly humble genius guy i dont care if he's fat or how he looks..as long as he can make me laugh and taught me good things and love me for what i am.

 

[fourleaf]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

hey i don't mean to be pushy.

 

[GreenNnice]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

This thread might seem jumpy and making one feel guilt-stricken for not asking that girl out.....


Hey, forget about me, man, there is only one who will never let you down, that's God.

And, that's all you need to know. Hurry, hurry, you still have over a week to go (until summer is officially gone)

The Lord leads

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Really? Because it really seems that the gist of it is, "You're all still single, and it's all your fault because you like someone, and you won't ask them out, or you won't let yourself like someone, so it's your fault." That's what I got out of it, anyway. I mean, sure, maybe your intent was to convince us to focus on Him, but tacking "The Lord leads" in to every paragraph really doesn't do more than leave a vague impression of, 'His will be done.' Well...YEAH. Of course, His will be done, whether I follow His lead or not. All I just read was a lecture on how miserable I must be, and how it's all my fault. Sure, your last two paragraphs tell us to trust in Him, but the umpteen paragraphs preceding it were basically nothing but a good ol' brow-beating. "Why ain't ya married yet? What's wrong with ya? Why're you still single?" Feels like I'm at a family reunion, or in the breakroom at work (which is specifically why I avoid going to the breakroom as much a possible.)

Do YOU know God's plan for my life? Has the Lord led YOU know what He wants for Tintin, or Ugly, or Tore? Because if you know God's plan for ME, then my question is, why is He telling YOU and not me?

Have you considered that perhaps it's God's plan for some of us to be single? Have you considered that maybe He's fixing some things with some of us before presenting us to who He intends? Have you not considered that maybe some of us might still be under His chastening (of which Jules wrote an extensive and very truthful post about)? Maybe some of us just WANT to be single, because we want to be single! Just because we're on the Singles forum doesn't necessarily mean we're looking; it just means we're single. Paul says it's better to be single, if it is within our power. What's your answer to that?

Things are far more complicated than, "Why won't you love someone? Find someone and get twitterpated!" Well, tell you what, why I don't I just go grab some random off the street, stick her in front of you, and issue your own edict. "Here's a girl! She's in front of you! Get twitterpated! Don't you wanna get twitterpated! WHY WON'T YOU GET TWITTERPATED?!" ​See how well that works for YOU.

I actually read through all this. I'm glad someone said something. It's not just in this thread, but a lot of Christians get too concerned with "teaching" other people what to do.

 

[FireWire]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

You need to NOW give God a chance, not girls a chance, and, see what happens, be careful then, because you just never know how God may work your heart over and 'surprise' you, Firesecured The Lord leads

Well I should've added that I don't believe it is Gods will that I should be married. I don't actually seek the company of women either because I don't desire it. I don't even know if I enjoy their company (the ones that are nice enough) when I happen to be around them.

 

[Shine4Jesus]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Well I should've added that I don't believe it is Gods will that I should be married. I don't actually seek the company of women either because I don't desire it. I don't even know if I enjoy their company (the ones that are nice enough) when I happen to be around them.

Are we really that bad? LOL!

 

[Shouryu]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Well I should've added that I don't believe it is Gods will that I should be married. I don't actually seek the company of women either because I don't desire it. I don't even know if I enjoy their company (the ones that are nice enough) when I happen to be around them.

Christ says in Matthew 19 that some men were made eunuchs from the womb. He doesn't say it with condemnation, and follows it with the point that some men make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom, and whoever can accept that burden should do so.

Good on ya, Fire. Stick to your guns on that one. Be who God made you to be, and when the words of men try to condemn you for it, let those words evaporate like the smoke and vapor that they truly are.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

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I don't even know if I enjoy their company (the ones that are nice enough) when I happen to be around them.

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[FireWire]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Christ says in Matthew 19 that some men were made eunuchs from the womb. He doesn't say it with condemnation, and follows it with the point that some men make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom, and whoever can accept that burden should do so.

Good on ya, Fire. Stick to your guns on that one. Be who God made you to be, and when the words of men try to condemn you for it, let those words evaporate like the smoke and vapor that they truly are.

That's what I believe to be true and been researching it lately. I'm trying to figure out what Paul means by the gift of celibacy. Most people don't have it but I've always been different. I used to be interested in girls when I was considerably younger but it was just hormone driven. There was nothing else substantial to justify ever getting married so I never did any chasing. I'm glad I didn't now because if I did I would've been committing emotional fraud.

People and particularly women just don't understand why I never married and had kids. I don't understand what all the fuss is about finding somebody and getting married and having kids etc and the excitement that goes with it. No I'm not a robot and I do have some emotions. I remember somebody years ago from work saying I didn't have any idea about companionship. He's right to a point. Suffice it to say he eventually got divorced.

I have a gut feeling that if it is Gods will then I'll likely be married a bit later probably in my 50s which isn't that far away. If not I'm happy to remain as is as Paul says.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

That's what I believe to be true and been researching it lately. I'm trying to figure out what Paul means by the gift of celibacy. Most people don't have it but I've always been different. I used to be interested in girls when I was considerably younger but it was just hormone driven. There was nothing else substantial to justify ever getting married so I never did any chasing. I'm glad I didn't now because if I did I would've been committing emotional fraud.

People and particularly women just don't understand why I never married and had kids. I don't understand what all the fuss is about finding somebody and getting married and having kids etc and the excitement that goes with it. No I'm not a robot and I do have some emotions. I remember somebody years ago from work saying I didn't have any idea about companionship. He's right to a point. Suffice it to say he eventually got divorced.

I have a gut feeling that if it is Gods will then I'll likely be married a bit later probably in my 50s which isn't that far away. If not I'm happy to remain as is as Paul says.

See there? The gift of singleness.