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what´s the cost of stepping up?
Jesus talked about wars, building a house... and marriage is part of it!
Luk 14:28 Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. What is the first thing you will do? Won't you sit down and figure out how much it will cost and if you have enough money to pay for it?
Luk 14:29 Otherwise, you will start building the tower, but not be able to finish. Then everyone who sees what is happening will laugh at you.
Luk 14:30 They will say, "You started building, but could not finish the job."
I would care too little on their laughing: Each house has its builders.
Jesus talked about wars, building a house... and marriage is part of it!
Luk 14:28 Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. What is the first thing you will do? Won't you sit down and figure out how much it will cost and if you have enough money to pay for it?
Luk 14:29 Otherwise, you will start building the tower, but not be able to finish. Then everyone who sees what is happening will laugh at you.
Luk 14:30 They will say, "You started building, but could not finish the job."
I would care too little on their laughing: Each house has its builders.
Brother!
If you buy your own piece of land, to build your own house, I won´t be so dependant like Isaac (his father blessed him a lot! But he tolied for nothing he had).
Will you wait for your parents to buy you a car or your new brand house? that´s your decision but, if you really work (like Jacob did) it ne nice to build it for yourself.
The laws of my country acknowledges whatever thing i have before being married. After marriage, whatever thing BOTH partners buy belongs to the community of good these both had so, if I had known it well, I should have finished my house before being married.
When a person dies here, his / her hears gets real state without sharing porperty with their spouse and, in the case of divorce (which is possible) each will keep what their parents left for them.
I myself do not care if I´m laughed or not if I failed building my house, or whatever thing I´ve planned to make my own living alone.
Adulthood challanges us to be independent and, marriage, challanges us to be inter-dependent.
If you buy your own piece of land, to build your own house, I won´t be so dependant like Isaac (his father blessed him a lot! But he tolied for nothing he had).
Will you wait for your parents to buy you a car or your new brand house? that´s your decision but, if you really work (like Jacob did) it ne nice to build it for yourself.
The laws of my country acknowledges whatever thing i have before being married. After marriage, whatever thing BOTH partners buy belongs to the community of good these both had so, if I had known it well, I should have finished my house before being married.
When a person dies here, his / her hears gets real state without sharing porperty with their spouse and, in the case of divorce (which is possible) each will keep what their parents left for them.
I myself do not care if I´m laughed or not if I failed building my house, or whatever thing I´ve planned to make my own living alone.
Adulthood challanges us to be independent and, marriage, challanges us to be inter-dependent.
For clarity's sake I'm not saying he was perfect at all..... but how many men will say 'no' to a woman being 'easy'?
She would call him & ask him to come over when her parents were gone..... she even seduced him once when her mother was across the hall! I DO blame him for allowing that to happen...... nevertheless she set him up, then a guy with a football scholarship in college who lost everything, & the 3rd guy I don't know. 3 kids in 5 years, still single, & no job all say she knew what she was doing.
As for your situation, I understand that also happens a lot. I'm sorry if I came across as totally one-sided, but then again, I'm a parent.
If I remember correctly, a man can't sign away rights without the wife allowing it. They usually do cuz they don't want the guy ever coming back..... a tough decision, yes. But since he left, you had full rights to child support. In Ky, a guy can sign away rights & still pay support.
She would call him & ask him to come over when her parents were gone..... she even seduced him once when her mother was across the hall! I DO blame him for allowing that to happen...... nevertheless she set him up, then a guy with a football scholarship in college who lost everything, & the 3rd guy I don't know. 3 kids in 5 years, still single, & no job all say she knew what she was doing.
As for your situation, I understand that also happens a lot. I'm sorry if I came across as totally one-sided, but then again, I'm a parent.
If I remember correctly, a man can't sign away rights without the wife allowing it. They usually do cuz they don't want the guy ever coming back..... a tough decision, yes. But since he left, you had full rights to child support. In Ky, a guy can sign away rights & still pay support.
If I wanted a "long-term" relationship i observed THAT, to avoid being hurt (or despised).
If she said "I was a gay" for not taking her wherever it was supposed to, I cared too little. Yet, before being a believer, I slept with whomever I liked, but no man is forced by "easy" girls or women.
That´s a lie male sex is forced!
If she said "I was a gay" for not taking her wherever it was supposed to, I cared too little. Yet, before being a believer, I slept with whomever I liked, but no man is forced by "easy" girls or women.
That´s a lie male sex is forced!
K
Well I know mothers are protective of their sons,I dont want to put him down.In many ways I'm sure he is terrific.But when you say "what man will say no to a woman being easy"? That is still an excuse kind of covering him.If he is going to be in the ministry,possibly in front of people,temptation will be there.Women find preachers,singers etc. attractive.He'll have to be strong enough and mature enough not to give in to women flirting with him.Remember the story of Joseph who ran leaving clothing behind.It's not easy,I totally understand but he needs to build up his faith so he doesn't make the same mistake twice.As to the girl,do you know her past? Many girls who have been molested when young or had a bad father figure tend to seek men to make them feel more secure and loved and therefore sleep around.Pray for her rather than simply judge her.
A
This whole post was amazing, Roh-Chris. What I find most intriguing is your insight into rushing into marriage and Indian customs. I went to a wedding last year in India and saw for myself the glitz and glamour they put into their weddings. It was breathtaking, and thankfully the couple getting married are two good friends of mine who kept a long distance relationship going for three years before tying the knot. Apparently the first "love marriage" in his family. The arranged marriages... I don't understand but it's not my place to say one way is better than the other. It's strange how many similarities there are between a young couples experience as a married couple no matter where you live and what kind of culture surrounds you. In the end I am in love with the idea of being a team, being two close friends and battling this life out together with God overseeing them. I love that idea and I wish it for everybody, myself included.
Also, you should be a writer! Your second paragraph gave me some great visuals!
Also, you should be a writer! Your second paragraph gave me some great visuals!
K
In this situation it seems that his mother,while I understand she loves her son dearly,is still defending him.To say what man cant turn down a loose woman,is still really putting the blame on his girlfriend. Therefore its seems he's a bit of a mommas boy.Maybe not,maybe Im wrong.She did say her son wasnt perfect so maybe I'm wrong.
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So, you're defining a momma's boy as someone who is incapable of having their own thoughts after puberty. I've never heard the definition used so planly before, but I can agree that someone who relies on their parents' judgment rather than their own isn't going to make a very good mate.
I thought you were referring to people who might live at home, or who rely on support from others (perhaps parents, perhaps not). I've seen it extended to people with roommates, or to people who will still call their parents once a week to say hi.
It's not a very popular girls name, is it?
I thought you were referring to people who might live at home, or who rely on support from others (perhaps parents, perhaps not). I've seen it extended to people with roommates, or to people who will still call their parents once a week to say hi.
It's not a very popular girls name, is it?
