Sometimes people make it hard to like them.
Um my first self centered thought was dang that hurt, lol. Then most of my senses came flooding in as I thought about it, it is so true; all of us, even to ourselves, have unlikable, getting on nerves, moments. So I just wanted to say this about that... BAM, ain't that the truth, lol?!!
I think the general thought is that if we have people in our life, and sometimes even the more people, the better, we won't have any problems with loneliness.
Ironically, one of the biggest things that's helped me over the past few years is to slowly distance myself from one-side relationships. For example, I had a "friend" who called me and literally talked for an hour straight, and not once in that entire time did she ever ask anything about me or my life. After we hung up, I thought about the fact that our entire "friendship" had been pretty much been that way, and so that was a tie I chose to cut off.
I have nothing against people talking, of course--it just has to be a mutual, because I've found that just listening 100% of the time greatly contributes to my loneliness. I've also worked to distance myself from people whose unhealthy actions and/or frames of mind I knew I was actually enabling instead of helping, and I've had much more peace since then.
Yes, it's definitely led to me having far fewer people in my life, but I also feel a bit more clarity and focus.
However, I do struggle with the thought of selfishness, because I know that God calls us to serve, and we often do that best when we are giving to someone who can't, or won't, give back--even in the form of a one-sided conversation.
And yet, I also know that I have limited energy, so trying to find that balance of trying to be there for people, especially when they have nothing to give, and yet taking care of myself enough to be able to do so is always a personal challenge.