So it is shallow for me to allow attraction to an individual play any role in my choices because its bad judgment to take that into consideration? Wowza....if that was truly the case then thank God for "shallow" people or the human race would have died out long ago and i wouldn't be here...lol. Your mistake is in assuming ALL i care about is getting me a chubby guy and all else is irrelevant. I'm after love, not a fetish
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Also, it was only an example. I have been attracted to guys of all shapes and sizes for different reasons. I just had to use a specific example.
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Yes its shallow to allow PHYSICAL attraction to play a role in your choices. Attraction can be physical or based on the inner person your considering.
It sounds like you think physical attraction is the only thing that exists and that's why you think the human race is alive. That's not true because people can be attracted to others... without being physically attracted to them.
I'm not assuming all you care about is physical attraction. I'm assuming your shallow based on caring about the exterior.
My point that its ideal for you and all of us in our Christian community to look at ourselves as God see's us... just our souls. It benefits us. Forget the exterior and focus on a Godly heart... we'll all be much better off.
I'll leave room for except and say perhaps there is a way to value the exterior but then that gives you and everyone 2 choices...
Value the exterior to some extent and let that have some weight in your choice...
Or let that person's heart and inner self be the only weight in your choice...
I think its clear which one is wiser. And which choice will just give you an unnecessary bullet point to keep in mind. Also, this will expand your pool of potential people you'd be able to date. I think its wise.