What do G-dly women look for in men??
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The complete and utter opposite of a person who reaches an adult age filled with the following ideas that are ignorant, uneducated, completely offensive and made me sick:
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/128605-what-do-men-look-woman-2.html#post2423721
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/128605-what-do-men-look-woman-2.html#post2423721
Zero,
I'm looking at my bank account right now and I might only have $20
but all my bills are paid and it's MY $20. (I'd better add that it's on loan from God, before someone jumps right in and gives some super-spiritual corrective answer before I even finish this post.)
I could use it to take you to McDonald's. (We could even splurge on shakes and dessert.)
Truce?
I'm looking at my bank account right now and I might only have $20
but all my bills are paid and it's MY $20. (I'd better add that it's on loan from God, before someone jumps right in and gives some super-spiritual corrective answer before I even finish this post.) I could use it to take you to McDonald's. (We could even splurge on shakes and dessert.)
Truce?
I have already paid you back the $50.00 that I owed you. Now, you owe me $20.00. Let's not club the two together and make it complicated.
We can go to an upscale buffet for $20.00, even if that means we have to knock out a couple of people and steal their passes. Maybe we can leave them a nice "Thank you for your cooperation" note.
I have already paid you back the $50.00 that I owed you. Now, you owe me $20.00. Let's not club the two together and make it complicated.
We can go to an upscale buffet for $20.00, even if that means we have to knock out a couple of people and steal their passes. Maybe we can leave them a nice "Thank you for your cooperation" note.
We can go to an upscale buffet for $20.00, even if that means we have to knock out a couple of people and steal their passes. Maybe we can leave them a nice "Thank you for your cooperation" note.
Can't we just toss them some leftover wontons on the way out?
I still don't understand how you work your math (must be some sort of Indian cultural practice I'm not familiar with... "Steal someone's avatar and they have to take you out to dinner") , but once we get around all that tasty food, I'm bound to forget.
They're probably seeking the same ole cliches you see in women's singles ad's;
1. "Looks not important, but must have a good sense of humor"
2. "I'm looking for a man who can make me laugh"
3. "I'm a Christian, so no druggies, alcoholics, or smokers"
4. "Must be honest, someone I can trust"
5. "Love to travel, eat out, and quiet walks on the beach"
6. "Must loves kids and cats"
7. "If weight or looks are your only priority, then don't waste my time"
8. "Must be financially secure"
9. "Enjoy quiet nights by the fireplace with a good book or cuddling"
10. "Must be fit, and no one who watches football all day on Sundays"
I imagine most men have 3 strikes before they finish half the list of demands. And when you see some of the pictures these women post of themselves, you wonder how they can afford to be so fussy?
1. "Looks not important, but must have a good sense of humor"
2. "I'm looking for a man who can make me laugh"
3. "I'm a Christian, so no druggies, alcoholics, or smokers"
4. "Must be honest, someone I can trust"
5. "Love to travel, eat out, and quiet walks on the beach"
6. "Must loves kids and cats"
7. "If weight or looks are your only priority, then don't waste my time"
8. "Must be financially secure"
9. "Enjoy quiet nights by the fireplace with a good book or cuddling"
10. "Must be fit, and no one who watches football all day on Sundays"
I imagine most men have 3 strikes before they finish half the list of demands. And when you see some of the pictures these women post of themselves, you wonder how they can afford to be so fussy?
Who's going to have time to write thank-you notes while we're too busy stuffing our faces?
Can't we just toss them some leftover wontons on the way out?
I still don't understand how you work your math (must be some sort of Indian cultural practice I'm not familiar with... "Steal someone's avatar and they have to take you out to dinner") , but once we get around all that tasty food, I'm bound to forget.
Can't we just toss them some leftover wontons on the way out?
I still don't understand how you work your math (must be some sort of Indian cultural practice I'm not familiar with... "Steal someone's avatar and they have to take you out to dinner") , but once we get around all that tasty food, I'm bound to forget.
And regarding the math, just trust me on it. I come from the land that gave the world '0'!
*Cringe*
That right there is a massive warning sign. The sort of person to stay away from. How could a women possibly have standards like being able to trust someone when she's just so plain. She should really knock back those "fussy" standards because where does an unattractive girl get off?!!! Oh the audacity!!
I imagine most men have 3 strikes before they finish half the list of demands. And when you see some of the pictures these women post of themselves, you wonder how they can afford to be so fussy?
Part of the problem with this topic (what do men/women seek) is that the world talks about people as if they are commodities and not people. So, less attractive women don't have a high-value in a consumeristic world. Of course, lots of things lack value in a consumeristic world--the poor, the aged, the infirm, people are handicapped or learning disabled, the mentally ill, etc.
None of this reflects anything remotely Godly. People have value because they are made in the image of God, not because of some genetic attribute they lucked into, or because they were fortunate enough to be born in a certain place at a certain time, or because they had the right connections to get the right position, etc.
Instead of talking about people in terms of their values and seeking a partner with matching values, people are viewed as a *product* to be bargained for with what we "bring to the table." It's extremely degrading to everyone. I think it's very wicked to treat people like products, but we also demean ourselves because we end up treating ourselves like a product too.
It's particularly unfortunate that even the church has given over to this kind of thinking. Singles are encouraged to "develop" and "refine" themselves so they are worthy of marriage--as if they are a brand that needs marketing. If you marry you are a marketing success! If you're left on the shelf...tsk...tsk...we probably need to re-examine the value of this product.
Hey Laura, I read your replies on that thread. I'm sorry if I offended you. However, those are my thoughts and I'm not changing them. Not because I hate women or something to that effect, instead because I believe that G-d would want men to lead and love his family like Christ did for the church, G-d is against abortion and homosexuality etc. About husbands leading their wives. The more I think about it... the bigger the task looks like. My thoughts have changed various times... in how extreme the idea of loving and leading my wife like Christ will be. I doubt I can replicate exactly how loving and how great of a leader Jesus was, but I'll try to be like him as much as possible.
For example, the love of G-d for the Israelites was like the story of Hosea. I haven't read the story so... what I say may be taken carefully, but from what I've heard... G-d commanded Hosea to marry a prostitute... Hosea was to remain faithful while predictably the prostitute would not be faithful. She'd commit adultery. Hosea being faithful was a showing of faithful G-d is.
Hosea 11:8-9
“How can I give you up, Ephraim?
How can I hand you over, Israel?
How can I treat you like Admah?
How can I make you like Zeboyim?
My heart is changed within me;
all my compassion is aroused.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]I will not carry out my fierce anger,
nor will I devastate Ephraim again.
For I am God, and not a man—
the Holy One among you.
I will not come against their cities.
I want to be like that. I want to be like Jesus for my wife. If you knew me better, you'd see I'm not such a bad guy as you think I am. I doubt I'll change your mind in one post... if so, praise G-d. If not, you have a nice day.
P.S. - About respect, I believe it's earned. I plan on be respectable and in that way giving her many reasons to respect me.
For example, the love of G-d for the Israelites was like the story of Hosea. I haven't read the story so... what I say may be taken carefully, but from what I've heard... G-d commanded Hosea to marry a prostitute... Hosea was to remain faithful while predictably the prostitute would not be faithful. She'd commit adultery. Hosea being faithful was a showing of faithful G-d is.
Hosea 11:8-9
“How can I give you up, Ephraim?
How can I hand you over, Israel?
How can I treat you like Admah?
How can I make you like Zeboyim?
My heart is changed within me;
all my compassion is aroused.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]I will not carry out my fierce anger,
nor will I devastate Ephraim again.
For I am God, and not a man—
the Holy One among you.
I will not come against their cities.
I want to be like that. I want to be like Jesus for my wife. If you knew me better, you'd see I'm not such a bad guy as you think I am. I doubt I'll change your mind in one post... if so, praise G-d. If not, you have a nice day.
P.S. - About respect, I believe it's earned. I plan on be respectable and in that way giving her many reasons to respect me.
You're fine, nothing to apologise for at all.
Good way to be!
That's a fantastic thing to aspire for. I don't think you're a bad guy at all. I'd encourage you when you have some spare time to study the following discussion
[video=youtube;Jzcs4ti_bdI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jzcs4ti_bdI&ab_channel=IdeasAtTheHouse[/video]
about different aspects of feminism that I think you'd really benefit from learning about. Feminism is not so much what we're "infected" by, but experiences that have shaped us in our lives and the challenges that we face in the world as it is today as a result. I believe that's the way Jesus would've considered it and exercised due compassion.
That's a great way to be, I'm sure it'll be reciprocated in whatever God has planned for His will for your life. Thanks for your response.
Good way to be!
That's a fantastic thing to aspire for. I don't think you're a bad guy at all. I'd encourage you when you have some spare time to study the following discussion
[video=youtube;Jzcs4ti_bdI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jzcs4ti_bdI&ab_channel=IdeasAtTheHouse[/video]
about different aspects of feminism that I think you'd really benefit from learning about. Feminism is not so much what we're "infected" by, but experiences that have shaped us in our lives and the challenges that we face in the world as it is today as a result. I believe that's the way Jesus would've considered it and exercised due compassion.
That's a great way to be, I'm sure it'll be reciprocated in whatever God has planned for His will for your life. Thanks for your response.
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