Why Are Women Expected to be the Gatekeepers of Virginity?
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Just curious... trying to read between your lines... Were you, or are you currently, doubting there's a big difference in the drives? I find it immensely fun poking holes in research, especially social science research. Just curious if you had doubts?
You mention, in a creative writing way, if it's God's intention for women to be the 'moral backup for both people within a couple'. I sense your 'negative' to that question. Or am violating the safety measures of your creative wordsmithing?
Er, I mean, or am I wrong about that? I'm just teasing you. Not accusing you of anything.
So on that moral backup issue. Just for fun... how about if I use this analogy... If two friends go out for fun, and one's an alcoholic and the other is not. If they are both come across an opportunity to drink alcohol, does the friend who isn't an alcoholic have any extra power and responsibility to steer them both from the collective decision to go drink together? And does this analogy relate reasonably to the 'moral backup' question?
You mention, in a creative writing way, if it's God's intention for women to be the 'moral backup for both people within a couple'. I sense your 'negative' to that question. Or am violating the safety measures of your creative wordsmithing?
Er, I mean, or am I wrong about that? I'm just teasing you. Not accusing you of anything. So on that moral backup issue. Just for fun... how about if I use this analogy... If two friends go out for fun, and one's an alcoholic and the other is not. If they are both come across an opportunity to drink alcohol, does the friend who isn't an alcoholic have any extra power and responsibility to steer them both from the collective decision to go drink together? And does this analogy relate reasonably to the 'moral backup' question?
I saw an article the other day about a 14-year-old girl whose parents are exploiting her for Tik Tok views and likes by posting pictures of her in halter tops and bikinis that one would see on the Kardashians.
Every woman, even Christian women, knows that in order to catch a man's attention, she has to be hot, and she has to "out-hot" all the other girls, no matter what the age difference is between them.
I don't know how this is affecting women's personal sex drives (as compared to a man's,) but one thing is for sure, there is an exponential increase in women's drive for sexual ATTENTION, if nothing else.
What's going to happen if women who are being trained to tantalize men in every sexual way possible are also somehow expected to be the gatekeepers of sexual purity at the same time?
And then what happens when the supposed safeguard or backup that women were expected to be simply no longer exists at all?
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Just curious... trying to read between your lines... Were you, or are you currently, doubting there's a big difference in the drives? I find it immensely fun poking holes in research, especially social science research. Just curious if you had doubts?
You mention, in a creative writing way, if it's God's intention for women to be the 'moral backup for both people within a couple'. I sense your 'negative' to that question. Or am violating the safety measures of your creative wordsmithing? Er, I mean, or am I wrong about that? I'm just teasing you. Not accusing you of anything.
So on that moral backup issue. Just for fun... how about if I use this analogy... If two friends go out for fun, and one's an alcoholic and the other is not. If they are both come across an opportunity to drink alcohol, does the friend who isn't an alcoholic have any extra power and responsibility to steer them both from the collective decision to go drink together? And does this analogy relate reasonably to the 'moral backup' question?
You mention, in a creative writing way, if it's God's intention for women to be the 'moral backup for both people within a couple'. I sense your 'negative' to that question. Or am violating the safety measures of your creative wordsmithing?
Er, I mean, or am I wrong about that? I'm just teasing you. Not accusing you of anything. So on that moral backup issue. Just for fun... how about if I use this analogy... If two friends go out for fun, and one's an alcoholic and the other is not. If they are both come across an opportunity to drink alcohol, does the friend who isn't an alcoholic have any extra power and responsibility to steer them both from the collective decision to go drink together? And does this analogy relate reasonably to the 'moral backup' question?
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Usually it's not so much how many times you have sinned as how bad your sin was. If I shoplifted a candy bar and you killed somebody, I can say my sin is not nearly as bad as your sin... you sinner!
But this thread is about how the SAME SIN is seen as much worse for girls than for guys.
But this thread is about how the SAME SIN is seen as much worse for girls than for guys.
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First of all, there are NO "evolutionary" gender roles as Mindfulzen describes. Are there Biblical gender roles? Oh yes.
Secondly, I agree with SeoulSearch that there is something of a double standard, but I think it's because -- and pardon my graphic commentary -- women are the ones entered. It is their "temple" that is invaded. The men are the invaders. So... it comes down to their respect for their own temple.
Or... maybe it's because men are expected to be baser in their behavior.
Or... perhaps it's both.
Is this fair? I'm honestly not sure. Is it sexist? Possibly, but again, not sure. However, the disparate treatment of men and women involved in sexual sin that SeoulSearch described is not scriptural, and those institutions she mentioned need to go back and examine God's word. God shows no favorites. The Bible's clear on that. Adulterers, both men and women, were to be stoned to death under the law. In the NT, Paul makes no differentiation between the sexes when it comes to sexual sin.
This whole thing she described actually pisses me off a bit, it is so wrong.
Secondly, I agree with SeoulSearch that there is something of a double standard, but I think it's because -- and pardon my graphic commentary -- women are the ones entered. It is their "temple" that is invaded. The men are the invaders. So... it comes down to their respect for their own temple.
Or... maybe it's because men are expected to be baser in their behavior.
Or... perhaps it's both.
Is this fair? I'm honestly not sure. Is it sexist? Possibly, but again, not sure. However, the disparate treatment of men and women involved in sexual sin that SeoulSearch described is not scriptural, and those institutions she mentioned need to go back and examine God's word. God shows no favorites. The Bible's clear on that. Adulterers, both men and women, were to be stoned to death under the law. In the NT, Paul makes no differentiation between the sexes when it comes to sexual sin.
This whole thing she described actually pisses me off a bit, it is so wrong.
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I'm so glad that this line of thinking is not found in Scripture. Christians will do well to heed Paul's writing to Timothy:
Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity (1 Timothy 5:1-2).
Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity (1 Timothy 5:1-2).
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