Why Are Women Expected to be the Gatekeepers of Virginity?

[seoulsearch]

Greetings Brother and Welcome to the CC Forum, I hope you enjoy it here and believe that you are off to a very engaging start. Congratulations on being saved this past April and joining the forum last month... I think you will like it here, lots of outspoken and engaging Christian folks, lots of strong opinions and lively debates, but lots of well intended Christians.

Not sure what your beef/grievance is with @seoulsearch , but you should know that she is well regarded within this Forum and is Prided as the Queen of our Christian Singles DISCUSSIONS... So while you are fairly new to the Forum and Fairly new as a Believer it is important that we as Christians try to see the Good in Others, strive to Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions... THIS IS A CHRISTIAN CHAT FORM after all...

Just a quick little snapshot you can see that Seoulsearch is VERY POPULAR in this FORUM with a +107% favorability rating (by my calculations), with a measly 1% of negative reactions with over 7,000 reactions to her POSTS... Whereas in comparison in less than 2 months you are off to almost 10% Negative Reactions after only 269 reactions received so far....

I would also point out that the Yellow-zoned (Half-Half) categories for 'Sad' or 'Informative' reactions can be interpreted as either reactions to the POSTER or reactions to the CONTEXT of the Post itself...
Just Saying... Again, welcome to the Forum and hope you enjoy it here... God Bless...

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Oh my goodness Sole, you caught me off guard with an entire chart , but I thank you so much for your time.

I just wanted to say of course that in the end, God has the final say, and He's corrected me plenty of times (I'll go to write something and I can feel Him telling me NO.)

I would say that the thing I'm REALLY known for on this forum -- is talking a lot and asking A LOT of questions.

I'm not wanting to seem ungrateful to anyone so thank you so much again.

At the end of the day, my goal is always just to try to bring up topics of interest for people to think and talk about, and hopefully get to know each other in the process. I know there will always be a wide variety of experiences and opinions, and that's why we write threads in the first place -- to start a conversation.

Every friend I've made here has been in the forum discussions (by getting to know people through their posts,) so I'm trying to pay that forward by creating the same opportunities for other people.

I'm just happy to have the chance to get people talking about important subjects, what they feel needs to be done about them, and hopefully meet a few people along the way.

 

[Desdichado]

Proof positive that women think of things more relationally than men do.

The world is too liberal. Even when he says nonsense, it's at least a kind of nonsense that gives things ultimate balance. He doesn't fill some sort of gravitational need of mine.

I'm glad you've found someone whose thoughts you mesh with, Desdi.

We're all built to gravitate towards different people, and I'm glad you've found yours.

 

[mindfulzen]

Greetings Brother and Welcome to the CC Forum, I hope you enjoy it here and believe that you are off to a very engaging start. Congratulations on being saved this past April and joining the forum last month... I think you will like it here, lots of outspoken and engaging Christian folks, lots of strong opinions and lively debates, but lots of well intended Christians.

Not sure what your beef/grievance is with @seoulsearch , but you should know that she is well regarded within this Forum and is Prided as the Queen of our Christian Singles DISCUSSIONS... So while you are fairly new to the Forum and Fairly new as a Believer it is important that we as Christians try to see the Good in Others, strive to Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions... THIS IS A CHRISTIAN CHAT FORM after all...

Just a quick little snapshot you can see that Seoulsearch is VERY POPULAR in this FORUM with a +107% favorability rating (by my calculations), with a measly 1% of negative reactions with over 7,000 reactions to her POSTS... Whereas in comparison in less than 2 months you are off to almost 10% Negative Reactions after only 269 reactions received so far....

I would also point out that the Yellow-zoned (Half-Half) categories for 'Sad' or 'Informative' reactions can be interpreted as either reactions to the POSTER or reactions to the CONTEXT of the Post itself...
Just Saying... Again, welcome to the Forum and hope you enjoy it here... God Bless...

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"Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions " Elaborate please. And christianity is not a popularitycontest. Me telling people that some sins and notdo's will result in hell, is not as comforting as telling sinners they can sin and still go to heaven, so popularity explained easy. I am a 1%er here, hardline. So hardline, that I will go to hell unless I get my shit together soon. People tend to not like to hear that. Not likeharvesting, and not lying to get likes, bluntspeak only. And I am focusing on the hard books as orthodox, daniel, and other books about the actual rules, not the loveydoverystuff. So selfexplanatory. Why would I need your approval or seek it, if we disagree about scripture/denomination? We probably do not agree on religion, and can make another dislike on me if you want, and I do not dislike, so you will not get a strike.

 

[Solemateleft]

Oh my goodness Sole, you caught me off guard with an entire chart , but I thank you so much for your time.

I just wanted to say of course that in the end, God has the final say, and He's corrected me plenty of times (I'll go to write something and I can feel Him telling me NO.)

I would say that the thing I'm REALLY known for on this forum -- is talking a lot and asking A LOT of questions.

I'm not wanting to seem ungrateful to anyone so thank you so much again.

At the end of the day, my goal is always just to try to bring up topics of interest for people to think and talk about, and hopefully get to know each other in the process. I know there will always be a wide variety of experiences and opinions, and that's why we write threads in the first place -- to start a conversation.

Every friend I've made here has been in the forum discussions (by getting to know people through their posts,) so I'm trying to pay that forward by creating the same opportunities for other people.

I'm just happy to have the chance to get people talking about important subjects, what they feel needs to be done about them, and hopefully meet a few people along the way.

LOL, sorry to catch you off guard, and if that was a bit much, but I couldn't just stand-by and try to SHINE a LIGHT on YOU and ALL you DO and have done for and within this FORUM!!! Hoping you are okay with the chart - if it's too much we can have removed ...

I did intend to comment briefly here as I would have to agree that there is most certainly a double standard of the representation of Men of the Bible - given the Times (different culture); where many Men of the Bible had multiple wives and even concubines...

Hope you are well, and Love that you are still doing what you do so well - stimulating DEEP DISCUSSIONS...

God Bless...

 

[seoulsearch]

"Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions " Elaborate please. And christianity is not a popularitycontest. Me telling people that some sins and notdo's will result in hell, is not as comforting as telling sinners they can sin and still go to heaven, so popularity explained easy. I am a 1%er here, hardline. So hardline, that I will go to hell unless I get my shit together soon. People tend to not like to hear that. Not likeharvesting, and not lying to get likes, bluntspeak only. And I am focusing on the hard books as orthodox, daniel, and other books about the actual rules, not the loveydoverystuff. So selfexplanatory. Why would I need your approval or seek it, if we disagree about scripture/denomination? We probably do not agree on religion, and can make another dislike on me if you want, and I do not dislike, so you will not get a strike.

No big thing (meaning it isn't a nitpick because it happens occasionally on the site,) but I'll ask the mods to please edit the 4-letter word.

 

[Lynx]

"Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions " Elaborate please. And christianity is not a popularitycontest. Me telling people that some sins and notdo's will result in hell, is not as comforting as telling sinners they can sin and still go to heaven, so popularity explained easy. I am a 1%er here, hardline. So hardline, that I will go to hell unless I get my shit together soon. People tend to not like to hear that. Not likeharvesting, and not lying to get likes, bluntspeak only. And I am focusing on the hard books as orthodox, daniel, and other books about the actual rules, not the loveydoverystuff. So selfexplanatory. Why would I need your approval or seek it, if we disagree about scripture/denomination? We probably do not agree on religion, and can make another dislike on me if you want, and I do not dislike, so you will not get a strike.

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[mindfulzen]

No big thing (meaning it isn't a nitpick because it happens occasionally on the site,) but I'll ask the mods to please edit the 4-letter word.

So, for some reason the ignorefunction is gone now, and you get to censor the word hell, is that right? Is that where it is at? Mods, I get replies from a nick that is on ignore.

 

[seoulsearch]

So, for some reason the ignorefunction is gone now, and you get to censor the word hell, is that right? Is that where it is at? Mods, I get replies from a nick that is on ignore.

You should just be able to hover over my profile and the choice of "Follow" or "Ignore" should come up.

I don't have anyone on Ignore, so I'm not sure if it's malfunctioning or not.

 

[seoulsearch]

"Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions " Elaborate please. And christianity is not a popularitycontest. Me telling people that some sins and notdo's will result in hell, is not as comforting as telling sinners they can sin and still go to heaven, so popularity explained easy. I am a 1%er here, hardline. So hardline, that I will go to hell unless I get my shit together soon. People tend to not like to hear that. Not likeharvesting, and not lying to get likes, bluntspeak only. And I am focusing on the hard books as orthodox, daniel, and other books about the actual rules, not the loveydoverystuff. So selfexplanatory. Why would I need your approval or seek it, if we disagree about scripture/denomination? We probably do not agree on religion, and can make another dislike on me if you want, and I do not dislike, so you will not get a strike.

No big thing (meaning it isn't a nitpick because it happens occasionally on the site,) but I'll ask the mods to please edit the 4-letter word.

So, for some reason the ignorefunction is gone now, and you get to censor the word hell, is that right? Is that where it is at? Mods, I get replies from a nick that is on ignore.

It's interesting that you see "hell" as the 4-letter word in your original post that would be edited.

If the mod changes it, you'll know what it is.

It's generally a word they edit out here, and have been doing so for the entire time I've been part of the community.

And yes, I've read your posts in which you said that real Christians do not report, so you can just add that to the list of sins you're accusing me of.

After all, why stop now?

 

[Solemateleft]

"Not Judge or be Impatient, and at a minimum strive to be Respectful and Christian-LIKE in our discussions " Elaborate please. And christianity is not a popularitycontest. Me telling people that some sins and notdo's will result in hell, is not as comforting as telling sinners they can sin and still go to heaven, so popularity explained easy. I am a 1%er here, hardline. So hardline, that I will go to hell unless I get my shit together soon. People tend to not like to hear that. Not likeharvesting, and not lying to get likes, bluntspeak only. And I am focusing on the hard books as orthodox, daniel, and other books about the actual rules, not the loveydoverystuff. So selfexplanatory. Why would I need your approval or seek it, if we disagree about scripture/denomination? We probably do not agree on religion, and can make another dislike on me if you want, and I do not dislike, so you will not get a strike.

Brother, you make a lot of good points, and it is evident that you are well read and have a strong passion of your beliefs and interpretations... So many others are lost, confused and will benefit from your sage perspectives...

My comments speak for themselves... None of which were intended to offend nor to put you upon the defensive nor were they expected to be taken out of context (much of your response suggests that lots of unsubstantiated assumptions were made that were not said nor intended)...
One of the main points that I guess I over-looked is that the thing that @seoulsearch does so well here within the 'Singles' Forum within CC is to stimulate DISCUSSION... That's all... She's simply a vessel for stimulating discussions...

Most of the time she is looking to have people to respond and share their perspectives to the TOPIC that she takes the time to frame for DISCUSSIONS... On occasion, she will offer an opinion solely as a means to stimulate DISCUSSIONS...
I agree, you do not need my approval, nor do I need to answer to snipping...
Just a thought for consideration, but I think that your MESSAGE and INSIGHTS (as I am genuinely intrigued and always open-minded and willing to learn) will be much better received if they are FOCUSED upon addressing the TOPIC of INQUIRY rather than engaging in an aggressive personal attacks upon fellow Christian People, especially those who are valued servants of this forum... Just a thought...

Again welcome to the Forum Brother Christian...

 

[seoulsearch]

Mkay, So on ignorelist, gotcha. Simple task, had to fail it, your choice. And for future reference, you do not want questions answered, you want to make a speech, to say nothing, gotcha. If we encounter eachother in new threads, just accept reality, that you will read comments on point, on topics. No concern of mine if you just type to get a participationtrophy in offenseolympics and virtuesignal league. Not going to give you sweet comforting lies even if that is what you seek. Certainly not on Gods day. Football and God today. Not doing dishonest replies pretending like your fake sexiosm exist, and that you are not just advocating about social engineering, and oppression of christians and other free people. Jesus would never reply to your strawman, he would tell you the truth, so must I.

So, for some reason the ignorefunction is gone now, and you get to censor the word hell, is that right? Is that where it is at? Mods, I get replies from a nick that is on ignore.

You should just be able to hover over my profile and the choice of "Follow" or "Ignore" should come up. I don't have anyone on Ignore, so I'm not sure if it's malfunctioning or not.

This is just my sense of humor, but I couldn't help but find this ironic:

Person A (the one choosing to put someone on Ignore): "Ok, I'm putting you on Ignore!"

"Ok, the Ignore function isn't working."

Person B (the one being put on Ignore): "Ok, I could be wrong about this, but this is how you put someone on Ignore..."

It made me smile.

 

[Solemateleft]

This is just my sense of humor, but I couldn't help but find this ironic:

Person A (the one choosing to put someone on Ignore): "Ok, I'm putting you on Ignore!"

"Ok, the Ignore function isn't working."

Person B (the one being put on Ignore): "Ok, I could be wrong about this, but this is how you put someone on Ignore..."

It made me smile.

You are such a good CHRISTIAN and hilarious ta boot... hahaha

 

[mindfulzen]

Brother, you make a lot of good points, and it is evident that you are well read and have a strong passion of your beliefs and interpretations... So many others are lost, confused and will benefit from your sage perspectives...

My comments speak for themselves... None of which were intended to offend nor to put you upon the defensive nor were they expected to be taken out of context (much of your response suggests that lots of unsubstantiated assumptions were made that were not said nor intended)...
One of the main points that I guess I over-looked is that the thing that @seoulsearch does so well here within the 'Singles' Forum within CC is to stimulate DISCUSSION... That's all... She's simply a vessel for stimulating discussions...

Most of the time she is looking to have people to respond and share their perspectives to the TOPIC that she takes the time to frame for DISCUSSIONS... On occasion, she will offer an opinion solely as a means to stimulate DISCUSSIONS...
I agree, you do not need my approval, nor do I need to answer to snipping...
Just a thought for consideration, but I think that your MESSAGE and INSIGHTS (as I am genuinely intrigued and always open-minded and willing to learn) will be much better received if they are FOCUSED upon addressing the TOPIC of INQUIRY rather than engaging in an aggressive personal attacks upon fellow Christian People, especially those who are valued servants of this forum... Just a thought...

Again welcome to the Forum Brother Christian...

Thank you, but I am not well read, I have not read 50% of the bible yet. Not defensive, not in me anymore. I was not defensive, read again. Explenatory is all. You use words, but does not fit, I never took you out of context, that would be a lie. The nick you mention is gone, apart from stil being shown.

What aggressive personal attack did I make? None. We disagree. That is not aggressive. We do not agree on scripture, you call my faith hate, and make it verbotenspeak. That does not fly long, let me tell you. If you ask me to ignore Gods word, this is over.

 

[seoulsearch]

You are such a good CHRISTIAN and hilarious ta boot... hahaha

Oh, I'm a pretty terrible Christian.

I understand the validity of the Ignore function and why we need it, but people use it as a weapon so often that whenever someone says, "I'M PUTTING YOU ON IGNORE!!!"

Well...

All I can picture is Smeagol from Lord of the Rings, hovering over his prized... Ignore list... and hissing, "MY PRECIOUSSSSSSS!!!"

 

[Solemateleft]

Oh, I'm a pretty terrible Christian.

I understand the validity of the Ignore function and why we need it, but people use it as a weapon so often that whenever someone says, "I'M PUTTING YOU ON IGNORE!!!"

Well...

All I can picture is Smeagol from Lord of the Rings, hovering over his prized... Ignore list... and hissing, "MY PRECIOUSSSSSSS!!!"

You're killing me... lol....

 

[seoulsearch]

You're killing me... lol....

It's a coping mechanism, trust me.

Thinking like this is what gets me through the day (and right on posting.)

 

[Dino246]

Speaking of the Ignore function... I don't use it, because I have no need of it. I'm quite capable of skipping over certain people's posts, and not responding to garbage.

It disappoints me that so many use it to avoid dealing with views that differ from their own.

 

[Lynx]

Oh, I'm a pretty terrible Christian.

I understand the validity of the Ignore function and why we need it, but people use it as a weapon so often that whenever someone says, "I'M PUTTING YOU ON IGNORE!!!"

Well...

All I can picture is Smeagol from Lord of the Rings, hovering over his prized... Ignore list... and hissing, "MY PRECIOUSSSSSSS!!!"

No no no, it's more like sticking your fingers in your ears. And informing the person he is on your ignore list is like yelling, "LA LA LA, I CAN'T HEEEEAAAAR YOOOOUUUU!"

Yup. That's all over-use of the ignore list is. Going back to the good ole 1st grade days on the playground.

 

[tourist]

You are such a good CHRISTIAN and hilarious ta boot... hahaha

She certainly is. And so are you.

 

[tourist]

Speaking of the Ignore function... I don't use it, because I have no need of it. I'm quite capable of skipping over certain people's posts, and not responding to garbage.

It disappoints me that so many use it to avoid dealing with views that differ from their own.

I have never put anyone on ignore but I have put a few on Eeyore.