Oh I know its easier said then done.I had a relationship with a guy for a year.Promised to never leave,asked me to marry him.Didnt mean a bit of it.It was all based on lies and I wasn't objective enough to see it because I was lonely and everyone around me was married. He took a job on the other side of the country and promised me he'd return and everything was going to be ok. So we started a long distance relationship.I was faithful as an old hound dog.Then when I began to call he began to change.Things he told me didn't add up.Still,blind as a mole I thought I was in love and he was coming back.I happened to call his mother and she said "dear I think he's been dating another woman out there" I almost dropped the phone.His brother told me the truth and that he would not be coming back.This guy gave me a sob story about not being able to afford a bill.My dumb butt sent him $100. He was living with a woman at the time,yep I said living!! I mourned for that guy so long,too long.I cried till I couldnt any more.At Christmas,usually my favorite time of year,I stood in a store with tears flowing.I told my mother I didnt want to put up a tree,didn't want Christmas at all.She tried to cheer me as mothers do and said "By next year you could have someone,you dont know the future"! I actually snorted at that.I was dejected and rejected.You know what? by the next Christmas I had someone.That someone I'm married to today.He didn't make a lot of promises he just did it,he showed me he didn't just flatter me.And he helped me grow. When he told me he wasnt going to leave and he was a good guy I actually laughed at him! I said "the last guy said that" He said this...That guy knew what you wanted to hear and he told you all the right words.But he was not a man.A man doesn't do that.Guys like that make it bad for those of us who are good men.They break a womans trust and make them cynical.They ruin women for good men".He has never left my side.We went though extreme family issues,he kept coming back.I had trust issues,he kept coming back.He lived in a town over an hour away,worked all week and dragged himself over to see me every weekend for 4yrs.He kept coming back. Now we're married.Real men dont disappear.Went others run away,a real man runs toward you to be your protection.Real men are accountable and you dont have to search to find them.You're worth a real man my dear,dont settle for anything less.You'll be selling yourself short.
