Artsie wants to go home

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ArtsieSteph

ArtsieSteph

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I hate to say it but it's true. It's like...this job started out great. The way they presented it it's like they wanted you to stay home if you were sick, they provided things for you, they took care of you. Now it's like that magic sparkle has died and I'm just not happy.

I'll admit the job as tough but I could handle that. But then my stomach issues started reading around, and the managers said for even one sick day you had to have a doctors note. That was a red flag. Then I heard stories of one of my coworkers getting a stomach flu and instead of sending him home he spent all day puking in a trash can. And then one of the first days I was there, another coworker had no one to take her lunch perdiod, and they expected her to not have lunch at all. She said "I'm sorry but I'm not gonna pass out for them." Is that how they treat people?


Now I just have these sentences just constantly ringing in my head, "I wanna go home." "I want my mom." I don't know why. I have OCD so my head latches onto things when I am upset. And I am very upset. I cannot stop crying. I just don't want to be here anymore. I don't know if the benefits will ever be worth me being like this.
 
tourist

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I don't blame you for wanting to go home. If you have a car you can just simply get in and leave. Otherwise maybe you could take the bus home. I believe that you said you were in Flagstaff. I was in the bus station there in 1972 passing through. I was going home too.
 
ArtsieSteph

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I guess it's just whether I should try to leave immediately or try and give two weeks notice. Two weeks is the proper thing but I just don't know how well I will perform.
 
tourist

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ArtsieSteph said:
I guess it's just whether I should try to leave immediately or try and give two weeks notice. Two weeks is the proper thing but I just don't know how well I will perform.
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I think that a week would be sufficient notice and the proper thing to do.
 
ArtsieSteph

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I'm just bummed. Crazy bummed. Everyone says I haven't failed but it sure as heck feels like it
 
blue_ladybug

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You moved there just a short while ago. You're still getting acclimated. You can either give up and leave because it's too hard or uncomfortable for you, OR stay and stick it out and see if things get better. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. :)
 
ArtsieSteph

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blue_ladybug said:
You moved there just a short while ago. You're still getting acclimated. You can either give up and leave because it's too hard or uncomfortable for you, OR stay and stick it out and see if things get better. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. :)
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i appreciate that miss Blue, thank you. But sadly part of it is my mental health. My OCD goes bananas and I sometimes have suicidal thoughts. Recently I had one about jumping off the ledge of the canyon. It's scary and I need sadly to be home to help me deal with them.
 
ArtsieSteph

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Granted these thoughts are not like seriously considering them, but whenever I have even a slight one I'm supposed to tell my doctor. And sadly she isn't up here.
 
blue_ladybug

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ArtsieSteph said:
Granted these thoughts are not like seriously considering them, but whenever I have even a slight one I'm supposed to tell my doctor. And sadly she isn't up here.
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Can you call or email her? Or send a message by carrier pigeon? lol.. Have you told these thoughts to God? He IS the ultimate healer. :)
 
ArtsieSteph

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Oh yeah I have. Believe me I have. I just called to page her so I should hopefully hear back soon.
 
ArtsieSteph

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Got the call back, took some anti-depression meds (my usual med but just right now as opposed to before bed) and am probably gonna get fired. *sigh*
 
blue_ladybug

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You gotta think positively, Steph. You won't get fired for being sick. :)
 
ArtsieSteph

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Well they told me that "this is becoming a problem with you" which I think is code for "you are in hot water." Plus with my mental state my father has opted to bring me home.
 
blue_ladybug

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ArtsieSteph said:
Well they told me that "this is becoming a problem with you" which I think is code for "you are in hot water." Plus with my mental state my father has opted to bring me home.
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Well, no matter what happens, it will all work out for the best for both you AND God. :)
 
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Artsie, right now just concentrate on the things that make you strong. Not your job, not your thoughts, not why you went there or anything anyone there has said to you.. Just the things that make you strong... God... Jesus... Home.... Family..... Friends... The love people have for you.... The love God has for you.... The are none passing any kind of judgement at all on anything that you are doing.... We're glad your going home... We're glad there were folks here to talk with you... We're glad your dad is bringing you home... We're glad you can start over.... God love ya...
 
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ArtsieSteph said:
I hate to say it but it's true. It's like...this job started out great. The way they presented it it's like they wanted you to stay home if you were sick, they provided things for you, they took care of you. Now it's like that magic sparkle has died and I'm just not happy.

I'll admit the job as tough but I could handle that. But then my stomach issues started reading around, and the managers said for even one sick day you had to have a doctors note. That was a red flag. Then I heard stories of one of my coworkers getting a stomach flu and instead of sending him home he spent all day puking in a trash can. And then one of the first days I was there, another coworker had no one to take her lunch perdiod, and they expected her to not have lunch at all. She said "I'm sorry but I'm not gonna pass out for them." Is that how they treat people?


Now I just have these sentences just constantly ringing in my head, "I wanna go home." "I want my mom." I don't know why. I have OCD so my head latches onto things when I am upset. And I am very upset. I cannot stop crying. I just don't want to be here anymore. I don't know if the benefits will ever be worth me being like this.
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You had the flu. You stayed home. You still have a job.

You hear a rumor. It's a rumor. It may be true. It may not be.

The boss hands down a new rule about needing a doctor's note for even one day sick, and yet the boss tells a co-worker she has to stay without lunch and she didn't. She's still working there.

You<--------------------------------------->Bridge

It is impossible to cross a bridge before you get there. You're stuck worrying about bridges you may have to or may not have to cross one day.

To tell you the truth, I thought you'd want to go home way before this. It's called "homesick" for a reason. The longing of the safety and security at home are so big, and the insecurity fuels it. It is a physical sickness about it, even if a doctor can't find a temperature. You may not make it on the job. You may. Nothing life-altering changes either way.

BUT, if you give up, it does change you, in the smallest degree. You've chosen the easier way out. Next time you'll remember how relieving the easier way was, and you'll know how easy it is to get to that door.

You have hints the job is bad. Stick around to find out if it really is. It's good practice for the rest of your life.

And, yes, I've both quit and been fired from truly horrible jobs, but I still have this -- I gave it my best effort until there was no choice.
 
AbigailZeke

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One sick day does require a doctor's note, at least that is the norm for us here from the other side of the world. But hey it hasn't been that long, maybe you're still adjusting?
 
ArtsieSteph

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Welp, I ended up having to go home for other reasons anyway. So I'm job searching still -_-;;; It has changed me a little because I have been a little....impatient with myself maybe?

And the lady who was getting her lunch taken away didn't actually, she brought her food up to the store even if she got in trouble.
 
RickyZ

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I understand the stick it out thing but obviously the bosses were out of line. I'm glad you went home Artsie. God bless and lead you from here.
 
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ArtsieSteph said:
Welp, I ended up having to go home for other reasons anyway. So I'm job searching still -_-;;; It has changed me a little because I have been a little....impatient with myself maybe?

And the lady who was getting her lunch taken away didn't actually, she brought her food up to the store even if she got in trouble.
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Good. As long as you didn't give up. That's all I was worried about.

And you? Impatient with yourself? Noooooooooo!


(LOL Yeah, I've noticed that. I wish I could tell you that's easy to get over... and I will. As soon as it becomes easy to get over.
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