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ServantStrike

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How about the heroine who loves the Lord her God with all of her heart (even more than she loves her husband). I haven't seen too many roles like that sadly :(. Here is the 20 minute long and depressing search in the depths of my mind (and IMDB).

I honestly couldn't think of a woman from a movie who I would think is wife material. They are all so one dimensional. A pretty face but the heart isn't really where I'd want it to be.


I was initially going with Scarlett from gone with the wind because that movie was awesome, but then I remembered how spoiled she was.

So I tried to think about comedies and I was reminded of young Frankenstein, but both of the female leads committed adultery in the movie, so I wouldn't want to marry a woman like that either. Frau Blucher actually gets a nod there as she was pretty uptight so maybe she was a Christian. It was dang funny when she told Frankenstein to put on a tie when she caught him committing adultery. That and the horses always neighing.


So then I figured the heck with it I'll go with fantasy.
I was trying to think of a movie with a female lead who had strong moral character and used either a sword or a bow (because both of those things are awesome), but I couldn't think of one.

So then I went with action movies. I was almost set to go with Jamie Lee Curtis True Lies. She ends up being a spy which was pretty dang cool, and she's been vocal about the body dysmorphia in hollywood. I remember she did a photo shoot 5 or so years back where she refused to be airbrushed (so people could see what hollywood stars really look like). But her character on screen never really would have been wife material to me.

But, then I was reminded of sitcoms on TV and then there was a glimmer of hope. You get to see a lot more character building over a series than a movie.

So, my first thought was Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond. She's able to put a good face on it when her husband Ray is constantly putting his foot in his mouth, and she keeps him in line (because it would be boring to be married to a woman who never told you not to be selfish or kept you in line). She kept it clean and I really liked that.
 
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So I tried to think about comedies
I don't know about guys, but I could personally relate to the female lead in You've Got Mail and The Wedding Planner. Maybe men just don't actually watch romantic comedies, lol. I dunno.


So then I figured the heck with it I'll go with fantasy.
I was trying to think of a movie with a female lead who had strong moral character and used either a sword or a bow (because both of those things are awesome), but I couldn't think of one.
There are some amazing female leads in Lord of the Rings. (Just watched The Two Towers last night.) Eowyn maybe? Her character was fierce, loving, loyal, brave, compassionate... (she was a shield maiden and had a sword...)

It's a lot easier, for me at least, to capture the character of a person via books rather than movies which I agree are more two-dimensional since you can't hear their thoughts.
 
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MissCris

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Yes - that's because you and NodMyHead are deeper than I am. What I said went way under your head. I can't even explain it well! See - I think women read a book or see a movie and get all into a guy because he has character, is loving, compassionate, good dad, high ideals, good virtues, listens, blah blah whereas men just want Catwoman. Really just a girl in the catwoman suit would be ok. And its because we're shallow.

Now what we might look for in a mate - a wife, at least for me, is her independence I think. Her ability to swim alone. And when I'm in that deep end I get in from time to time, I'd like to think she was a good enough swimmer to get me out - just like I'd do for her.

It's probably still not clear but now my head hurts.
Ohhh, I get it now. Sorry to have given you a headache over it...but on the bright side, what you said makes women seem a lot better than men.

Just kidding! Good grief, I don't even know why I said that.

Except it made me laugh a little as I typed it.
 
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ServantStrike

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I don't know about guys, but I could personally relate to the female lead in You've Got Mail and The Wedding Planner. Maybe men just don't actually watch romantic comedies, lol. I dunno.

There are some amazing female leads in Lord of the Rings. (Just watched The Two Towers last night.) Eowyn maybe? Her character was fierce, loving, loyal, brave, compassionate... (she was a shield maiden and had a sword...)

It's a lot easier, for me at least, to capture the character of a person via books rather than movies which I agree are more two-dimensional since you can't hear their thoughts

I do occasionally watch romantic comedies, but Wasn't You've got Mail about adultery in that there is a couple's swap in it? Haven't seen the wedding planner. I would prefer to watch romantic comedies with a woman present though as it would be a fun date, especially if we just stayed home so we could talk during the movie (because yay for human interaction).

I do have this incredibly nerdy plan to buy Gone with the Wind on laser disc and watch it with whoever I know I'm serious about marrying, maybe after we're engaged. I always found that movie kind of romantic, and I love laser discs because I can be a bit of a nerd.


And I don't know about Eowyn. I think I'm still sticking with Debra from Everybody loves Raymond if it's got to be from Hollywood.

But if I get to chose from literature, well where do I start? How about Esther from Bleak House. Not only is Esther a pretty name from a strong Biblical woman, but the Esther in bleak house was selfless to a fault. She loved others so much, and Dickens always did weave a bit of religion into his stories, so I'm pegging her as a Christian. She'd be the kind of woman you'd love to spoil because she'd love you right back.

I'm going with Esther now.




I think I may have ruined a perfect exercise in fantasy and turned it into something entirely too practical.
 
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But if I get to chose from literature, well where do I start? How about Esther from Bleak House. Not only is Esther a pretty name from a strong Biblical woman, but the Esther in bleak house was selfless to a fault. She loved others so much, and Dickens always did weave a bit of religion into his stories, so I'm pegging her as a Christian. She'd be the kind of woman you'd love to spoil because she'd love you right back.

I'm going with Esther now.
I'm loving that you've read Bleak House! *beaming*
 

Cee

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I like Grace Stamper as a choice, as well Liam.

I like sweet somewhat subtle, but also have a passionate fire for helping others.

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gocardinals25

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I used to be attracted to high maintenance women but as i got older the heart is what matters most, loving selfless women are the ones that know how to make a relationship last
 

AsifinPassing

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Half joking also means half serious (and Jullianna, I found this link for you: https://www.google.com/search?tbs=s...AHP7oC4Bw&ved=0CDsQsw4&biw=1920&bih=955&dpr=1):

The Kind, Unique, and Well-Loved Character -



The Strange/Fragile yet Passionate Visionary -



The longtime (not necessarily just limited to childhood) friend who's always loved you (somewhat), but only develops later:



Then there's always the tragic hero/heroine, unrequited love character:




...just to name a few...to be honest, I'm attracted to many...not all, but many...
 
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kayem77

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If by bad girl you mean the tough girl who's anti-fashion and typically against the idea of dating males who are chauvinistic pigs, ooooooh yeeeeaaah :)
Wait, that's not ''the bad girl'', that's actually the heroine in most stories. I was thinking more of a girl who acts selfish, carefree, the kind that plays with people's minds and feelings. But really...there are many ways a girl can be labeled as ''bad''.
 
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kayem77

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It's a lot easier, for me at least, to capture the character of a person via books rather than movies which I agree are more two-dimensional since you can't hear their thoughts.
I completely agree with that! Books give you this sense of intimacy with the characters that cannot be compared with the shallow perception a movie gives you. You see what's going on on the outside, but you don't know what's going on in their heads and hearts. You don't know the motives of their actions. That's why sometimes I wish people were books! .... and that must sound really controlling of me.
 
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I completely agree with that! Books give you this sense of intimacy with the characters that cannot be compared with the shallow perception a movie gives you. You see what's going on on the outside, but you don't know what's going on in their heads and hearts. You don't know the motives of their actions. That's why sometimes I wish people were books! .... and that must sound really controlling of me.
Each of us is an unread book. Its just that no one takes the time to get to really know us.

 

seoulsearch

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Just had to say... Thanks to the guys here who are attracted to real women. That's very encouraging and refreshing to read.

I was in a Christian dating site chat room last night and one guy in his late 30's bragged that he had set up a date with a 21-year-old Hooters waitress he'd met the night before. All the other guys were high-five-ing him and bragging about the Hooter's girls/Victoria's Secret models/Playboy wannabe's THEY had gone out with. And yes, this was on a very popular, if not THE most popular Christian dating site out there.

I'm not saying it's wrong to date a woman who works in an establishment that glorifies unrealistic bodies and superficial ideals. I'm just saying... Boy, is it ever discouraging.

Servant, I give you kudos for mentioning Debra (wasn't there an awards show years ago that the real actress walked out on because she was protesting the language used? I seem to remember a pastor mentioning that) and MUCH respect for naming Jamie Lee Curtis. The woman is still gorgeous and is more physically fit than a lot of women in their 20's.

I also loved Ugly's description of "the reluctant heroine." Awesome!! I like female action stars but hate the fact that they're all too thin to look like they could even carry a gun. I mean, seriously. They don't require male action stars to weigh 90 pounds while carrying 8 different guns, but you'll see that in every female-centered action movie.

Thanks so much, guys, for making me smile instead of wanting to toss on a mu mu and down a carton of Breyer's ice cream in despair!! :)
 
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Anna20fAustralia

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Intretesting, but I have NEVER fancied guys in movies or pop singers or anything like that. Some girls' rooms will have a million posters of their favourite boy band or whatever.

I never got that.
 
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zaoman32

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Yes - that's because you and NodMyHead are deeper than I am. What I said went way under your head. I can't even explain it well! See - I think women read a book or see a movie and get all into a guy because he has character, is loving, compassionate, good dad, high ideals, good virtues, listens, blah blah whereas men just want Catwoman. Really just a girl in the catwoman suit would be ok. And its because we're shallow.
Ummmm, no. As I stated above, it has just as much to do with the character of who she is.
 

seoulsearch

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For some reason, my temporary dyslexia (I AM NOT making fun of anyone with a learning disorder, I'm making fun of ME) always sets in when I read the title of this thread and it registers in my brain as, "ME WANT A GIRL LIKE..."

I keep expecting to read answers from either cave men ("Me want a girl who can take down woolly mammoth") or Cookie Monster ("Me want a girl who smell like chocolate chip. Om num num num num.")
 

TheAristocat

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LOL - now before this goes any further, what I mean is: Do you find yourself falling for a particular character as WIFE material.

Not just someone you think is sexy in a cat suit.
Typically someone who has daddy issues. Thinks they can beat up a man using any sort of martial art, do anything a man can do five times as well as he can do it, is pro-choice because its her own body and she can do whatever she wants with it. Who compares every man to her father, is a feminist bent on showing men how independent and strong-willed and intelligent women can be. Basically the kind of woman who really makes you feel appreciated and valuable as a man. Bonus points if she has a cat suit in her closet.