I love loving men with my heart, not mouth, never will do that and no amount of money given will be taken, as for the opposite, if a husband feels free in this I wouldn't try to tame him, but don't force others when it is uncomfortable. Some hot topics, how about more verbal words of love,,, I'll take it... and just to be sure I would tell the man the Lord gives me, I don't do that, what you do is between you and God.