Is Dating Biblical
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I think if you are just taking a girl out to dinner or such to get to know eachother better, then there is nothing wrong with that. If you're screwing around, well, you've just committed to a lifelong relationship, so go buy a ring and notify eachother's parents, or whatever be your formal wedding ceremony custom to formalize your marriage.
exactly! i'm going to re-post a little rant i posted in another thread about this very topic:
i'm not sure when christians decided that the term dating is not christian. while i'm not a fan of labels in general, i especially hate that dating has been stolen to mean something perpetually purposeless and primarily for reasons that serve only the world's interests or intentions. i'm pretty sure that dating came into vogue while it was still considered a synonym of courtship.
i'm not a big fan of the word courtship either. it sounds way too... prairie dress and butter churn.
however, if i say "my friend and i hung out together this weekend, ate dinner and played scrabble" that might infer something different, especially for the purposes of this forum.
sigh.
i think we need to forget about the labels, because they all mean different things to different people. i date, and it'd be pretty hard for someone to convince me that my version of dating isn't biblical. that said, people can, under the guise of "courtship", fall short of what is considered God's best for His children as well, even if their intentions.
biblical basis, intention and actual conduct will always supersede the labels.
i'm not sure when christians decided that the term dating is not christian. while i'm not a fan of labels in general, i especially hate that dating has been stolen to mean something perpetually purposeless and primarily for reasons that serve only the world's interests or intentions. i'm pretty sure that dating came into vogue while it was still considered a synonym of courtship.
i'm not a big fan of the word courtship either. it sounds way too... prairie dress and butter churn.
however, if i say "my friend and i hung out together this weekend, ate dinner and played scrabble" that might infer something different, especially for the purposes of this forum.
sigh.
i think we need to forget about the labels, because they all mean different things to different people. i date, and it'd be pretty hard for someone to convince me that my version of dating isn't biblical. that said, people can, under the guise of "courtship", fall short of what is considered God's best for His children as well, even if their intentions.
biblical basis, intention and actual conduct will always supersede the labels.
I would not date a woman that I would not consider marrying. I met my late wife on-line many years ago and we had a beautiful long distance courtship. It was extremely romantic as well. After 2 months I flew up to Maine and brought her back with me to Florida. We were married less than 2 months later. Now, I suppose that the period of time between getting to Florida and being married may be considered dating even though we were living together. After we were married she confessed to me that she felt guilty about what we had done. I told her that I was extremely insensitive to her feelings and sorry that I acted like some sort of animal. We both confessed to God and went forward from there. I will spare you all of the details about our dating experience as I have been told more than once that this is not a dating site and is frowned upon by this establishment.
No. Getting married does not retroactively pardon your fornication. And getting married just to have sex without guilt cheapens a holy covenant. Creating a life-long partnership with someone you were fornicating with will only compound your problem, not solve it. Like Jesus said to the woman caught in adultry: Go and sin no more.
That being said, courtship is a variety of the over-arching category of dating. The defining characteristics are the level of parental involvement and the physical-affection limitations.
That being said, courtship is a variety of the over-arching category of dating. The defining characteristics are the level of parental involvement and the physical-affection limitations.
Lol what do you mean by retroactively pardon your fornication? What fornication is there for a man and woman to become one flesh and to stay loyal to eachother? Sex indeed isn't the point of marriage, but it is the binding of marriage. Marriage is about loyalty and committment to one person and to God.
If you're having sex with someone, you're married to them forever. My point is if you all ready done that, hold fast and stay loyal to your one woman (or in case of you being a woman, your one man.) My goodness, it's simple.
All the more reason to be prudent in choosing your mate before marriage, and going through the formalities of whatever your culture's wedding ceremony might be so as to prove your loyalty and commitment to your one and only mate given to you by God.
All courtship/dating is simply the selection process of finding that mate. Where this has gone wrong in modern times is people screwing around and then breaking up so they can screw around some more. Can we not see the ill effects this has had in society? Is it not apparant to anyone with eyes? If you are going to date, date, and don't screw around, save that for when you are ready to commit.
If you're having sex with someone, you're married to them forever. My point is if you all ready done that, hold fast and stay loyal to your one woman (or in case of you being a woman, your one man.) My goodness, it's simple.
All the more reason to be prudent in choosing your mate before marriage, and going through the formalities of whatever your culture's wedding ceremony might be so as to prove your loyalty and commitment to your one and only mate given to you by God.
All courtship/dating is simply the selection process of finding that mate. Where this has gone wrong in modern times is people screwing around and then breaking up so they can screw around some more. Can we not see the ill effects this has had in society? Is it not apparant to anyone with eyes? If you are going to date, date, and don't screw around, save that for when you are ready to commit.
Neither "dating" nor "courting" are actual words found in scripture.
So arguing over which is better is kind of silly, as either term can be defined however you like.
What I DO find in scripture is Rebekah being purchased from her family for quite a lot of gold and jewels.
So in order to follow scripture, I'm currently stockpiling gold and jewels...
then I'm getting on my camel and going shopping.
: )
So arguing over which is better is kind of silly, as either term can be defined however you like.
What I DO find in scripture is Rebekah being purchased from her family for quite a lot of gold and jewels.
So in order to follow scripture, I'm currently stockpiling gold and jewels...
then I'm getting on my camel and going shopping.
: )
Aye, belief based on the Bible and common sense.
1 Corinthians 6:16
[SUP]16 [/SUP]What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
Matthew 19:1-9
1 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
[SUP]2 [/SUP]And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Now don't lose heart here if this evil world has beguiled you into such a predicament, you can still be forgiven. As you goodly pointed out the woman with 5 illegitimate husbands, and of course the woman the Pharisees were going to stone for adultery. Jesus doesn't want us to be adulterers, but he is long-suffering towards us all and Jesus can forgive anyone of it, just simply ask him and do such no more.
1 Corinthians 6:16
[SUP]16 [/SUP]What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
Matthew 19:1-9
1 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
[SUP]2 [/SUP]And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Now don't lose heart here if this evil world has beguiled you into such a predicament, you can still be forgiven. As you goodly pointed out the woman with 5 illegitimate husbands, and of course the woman the Pharisees were going to stone for adultery. Jesus doesn't want us to be adulterers, but he is long-suffering towards us all and Jesus can forgive anyone of it, just simply ask him and do such no more.
I don't think watching a movie is mentioned in the Bible and that doesn't mean it prompts the question of whether it's biblical or not. Whatever it is, whether watching a movie or dating, do so in a manner that is pleasing and acceptable in His eyes; and that should be the filter or the lens that determines whether it is "biblical" or not.
Another important filter/lens, if I may add to this, is Jesus's new commandment - love one another.
Another important filter/lens, if I may add to this, is Jesus's new commandment - love one another.
