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""About 50% of first marriages for men under age 45 may end in
divorce, and between 44 and 52% of women's first marriages
may end in divorce for these age groups. The likelihood of a divorce
is lowest for men and women age 60, for whom 36 % of men
and 32 percent of women may divorce from their first marriage by
the end of their lives. A similar statistical exercise was performed in
1975 using marital history data from the Current Population Survey
(CPS). Projections based on those data implied that about one-third of
married persons who were 25 to 35 years old in 1975 would end their
first marriage in divorce."
""About 50% of first marriages for men under age 45 may end in
divorce, and between 44 and 52% of women's first marriages
may end in divorce for these age groups. The likelihood of a divorce
is lowest for men and women age 60, for whom 36 % of men
and 32 percent of women may divorce from their first marriage by
the end of their lives. A similar statistical exercise was performed in
1975 using marital history data from the Current Population Survey
(CPS). Projections based on those data implied that about one-third of
married persons who were 25 to 35 years old in 1975 would end their
first marriage in divorce."
The marriage rate has fallen nearly 30% since 1970 and the divorce rate has increased about 40%.Ahlburg and DeVita, "New Realities," 4-12. Cited on page 5 ofThe Abolition of Marriage, by Maggie GallagherEnough for me.
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@Pwemm "I watched a show last night where a woman had an affair and got pregnant... She did not tell her husband it was the other mans wich was of a different culture... When the baby was born, he walked into the room and saw a child, he didn't even notice it's ethnicity, he picked up the child with all the love a father could have on his face.. he never addressed his wife , he looked at her and said " what should we name Him?". the man never said a word about the affair, or
Paid any mind to the child's ethnicity... the family is still together today ... it is a true story .... give no place for the devil to get a foothold"
I had something like that etnicity.
She was too blond and blued eyes. (Beautiful she was and I gave the ENEMY a foothold).
It took me a full year to accept HER (emotionally) as mine. Soon after she died and MY problem wasn´t the baby, but that affair that could happen (and I was married to a woman who viewed herself as a leader in her church).
Today, the one I was married with, had another baby (surely out of my body or mind) and I loved this young girl from the very begining, although I paid nothing to see her joy, her good manners and sound attitudes... I wish women could see this from men shoes and, if you lacked "men´s" feeelings, see it here: Eze 23:2-29
If God is jelous as he is, perhaps any women would feel like Samson felt: Jdg_14:1 Jdg_14:20
Men and women alike seek safety and exclusivity, and something seems to be missing that this (a safe marriage) sounds like another tale we like to read.
What a woman feels when reading about david, the king, and his wrong doing with Bathsheba... the wife of Uriah the Hittite.
2Sa 11:3 - 12:3 But the poor man had nothing except one little female lamb that he bought. The poor man fed the lamb, and the lamb grew up with this poor man and his children. She ate from the poor man's food and drank from his cup. The lamb slept on the poor man's chest. The lamb was like a daughter to the poor man.
Well! It doesn´t matter what it is said: Statistically, by checking the internet, some things are predictable.
Paid any mind to the child's ethnicity... the family is still together today ... it is a true story .... give no place for the devil to get a foothold"
I had something like that etnicity.
She was too blond and blued eyes. (Beautiful she was and I gave the ENEMY a foothold).It took me a full year to accept HER (emotionally) as mine. Soon after she died and MY problem wasn´t the baby, but that affair that could happen (and I was married to a woman who viewed herself as a leader in her church).
Today, the one I was married with, had another baby (surely out of my body or mind) and I loved this young girl from the very begining, although I paid nothing to see her joy, her good manners and sound attitudes... I wish women could see this from men shoes and, if you lacked "men´s" feeelings, see it here: Eze 23:2-29
If God is jelous as he is, perhaps any women would feel like Samson felt: Jdg_14:1 Jdg_14:20
Men and women alike seek safety and exclusivity, and something seems to be missing that this (a safe marriage) sounds like another tale we like to read.
What a woman feels when reading about david, the king, and his wrong doing with Bathsheba... the wife of Uriah the Hittite.
2Sa 11:3 - 12:3 But the poor man had nothing except one little female lamb that he bought. The poor man fed the lamb, and the lamb grew up with this poor man and his children. She ate from the poor man's food and drank from his cup. The lamb slept on the poor man's chest. The lamb was like a daughter to the poor man.
Well! It doesn´t matter what it is said: Statistically, by checking the internet, some things are predictable.
Statistically speaking, we should all be a whole lot of things that we're not, you know? Statistics wouldn't say if someone had been divorced a hundred times and then came to know Christ and became a new creation. I'm just pointing that out as a counterpoint to biscuit's advice to look at the family tree if you want to know "what type of woman you're marrying".
Statistics wouldn't say if someone had been divorced a hundred times and then came to know Christ and became a new creation. I'm just pointing that out as a counterpoint to biscuit's advice to look at the family tree if you want to know "what type of woman you're marrying".
My ex-husband was raised in a devout Christian home with no divorce anywhere in his family that I know of. Aunts, uncles, parents, grandparents all married many many years. His father, grandfather, and great-grandfather were and are all pastors. He was raised to remain faithful, live for the Lord and be a good husband and father.
That did not prevent him from having a secret affair and forsaking his family and God to live a life of sin.
Being raised in a stable two-parent home obviously raises the chances of a healthy marriage, but it's definitely not a guarantee.
That did not prevent him from having a secret affair and forsaking his family and God to live a life of sin.
Being raised in a stable two-parent home obviously raises the chances of a healthy marriage, but it's definitely not a guarantee.
This (now) is not a secret, though I now it was a trick to get attention. Well done!
This sounded like, if my grandmother had dealing with prostitution, my mother could have experienced the same (Please! No offense on reading this, not in our thoughts).
That's not statistically true, however.
Sins are not inherited but individual choices. If God tossed those sins over passed generations, he also said that the curse of that blame will not on descendants anymore.
Being fair, I could tell women to check my family tree: My grandmother had dealings with prostitution, same way several of her brothers. My dad was engaged in prostitution and my mom told me he raped her somehow, etc. etc. So, I myself am responsible for their own faults? Sure I'm not. Each person is going to give an account for what EACH has done (and that's not a secret: We all are sinners).
Here's my family tree:
This sounded like, if my grandmother had dealing with prostitution, my mother could have experienced the same (Please! No offense on reading this, not in our thoughts).
That's not statistically true, however.
Sins are not inherited but individual choices. If God tossed those sins over passed generations, he also said that the curse of that blame will not on descendants anymore.
Being fair, I could tell women to check my family tree: My grandmother had dealings with prostitution, same way several of her brothers. My dad was engaged in prostitution and my mom told me he raped her somehow, etc. etc. So, I myself am responsible for their own faults? Sure I'm not. Each person is going to give an account for what EACH has done (and that's not a secret: We all are sinners).
Here's my family tree:
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Financial gains:
My mother married to leave my grandmother and grandpa (she told me so). Pss! A secret too: (these were baptists).
The woman who married me was for another reason I DON'T KNOW: I was poor and still being poor (However, she is a HARD worker)
Hmm! Perhaps she was to hard or tough for me that we divorced (not for money! It wasn't real love).
I'm completely with you!
Now, men and women are seeking safety.
If we men ever wanted, we want it the more, particularly in the sexual area (let it be acknowledged that some people get hurt more emotionally and other are economically damaged and crashed). It depends on where you live, you age and other limits like health.
That depends on where each person sets his / her heart.
Financial gains:
My mother married to leave my grandmother and grandpa (she told me so). Pss! A secret too: (these were baptists).
The woman who married me was for another reason I DON'T KNOW: I was poor and still being poor (However, she is a HARD worker)
Hmm! Perhaps she was to hard or tough for me that we divorced (not for money! It wasn't real love).
I'm completely with you!
Now, men and women are seeking safety.
If we men ever wanted, we want it the more, particularly in the sexual area (let it be acknowledged that some people get hurt more emotionally and other are economically damaged and crashed). It depends on where you live, you age and other limits like health.
That depends on where each person sets his / her heart.
Here is a link you could pay a visit... The "secret" was reveled (or revile). Ha! Ha!
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/94979-whole-family-rotten.html#post1598400
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/94979-whole-family-rotten.html#post1598400
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Your focus should be on the Lord, and if it is in His will for you to be married, He will bring the right one into your life. You can't look at statistics and think you have no chance of a good marriage. If you are focused on what can happen to you if it doesn't work out, it probably won't work out. If your focus is on God and your wife does decide to leave and take what she can, you still need to focus on the Lord. He will take care of you. There are no guarantees with anything in this life, marriage or otherwise.
Feminism is a huge blight on the family and marriage. I totally disagree with it and never will see that it has helped any female, let alone society.
I'm divorced because my husband of over 25 years molested our daughters. Totally turned our world upside down. I never in a trillion years would have thought he would even think of doing such a thing. Our marriage was, it seemed, to be pretty decent, neither of us even considered divorce no matter what we went through. I work a low paying job and have three kids to take care of. We lost everything, husband and father, house, pets, 2/3 of our income, because of his choice.
I dated a couple of men down through the past several years, and what terrible people they turned out to be. Supposedly Christian too. But I can't look at that and think all men are as bad as they were. I just trust the Lord to take care of us, and if He has somebody for me that's great. If not, I can have a full life without a husband. I know that is not your point but as I said, you can't take your focus off God.
Feminism is a huge blight on the family and marriage. I totally disagree with it and never will see that it has helped any female, let alone society.
I'm divorced because my husband of over 25 years molested our daughters. Totally turned our world upside down. I never in a trillion years would have thought he would even think of doing such a thing. Our marriage was, it seemed, to be pretty decent, neither of us even considered divorce no matter what we went through. I work a low paying job and have three kids to take care of. We lost everything, husband and father, house, pets, 2/3 of our income, because of his choice.
I dated a couple of men down through the past several years, and what terrible people they turned out to be. Supposedly Christian too. But I can't look at that and think all men are as bad as they were. I just trust the Lord to take care of us, and if He has somebody for me that's great. If not, I can have a full life without a husband. I know that is not your point but as I said, you can't take your focus off God.
There are good men out there but they are few and far between. I would rather be married to a sweet woman that does not know the Lord than a mean one that does. Christian means someone who mirrors the Lord. I have not met many of these in my travels. For most people it is a label that they have attached to themselves.