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I know this might sound really cryptic and therefore may be unhelpful, but what it really comes down to is that you have to find a joy that is greater than pornography. That's the only way that your heart will be turned away from it. That joy doesn't necessarily have to be God in order for you to be drawn away, but hopefully it is because He is the only joy that would keep you satisfied.
S
Hey, I only jumped on that one poster because she was advocating something that was clearly wrong. I don't get frustrated with people when they ask a genuine question.
You're correct, no self stimulation as you call it. If I'm watching a movie and there's a nude scene, I fast foward it or close my eyes. If there are too many of them (more than one) I usually will stop watching the movie completely. Personally I can't see an image of a naked woman on a screen without feeling something, maybe some guys can I don't know. Me personally, I know that image is going to come back to haunt me later and I don't want that.
The images on the phone or the computer and on the internet are all controllable. One can look at a number of perfectly acceptable things via any of those avenues - I usually like to go with red roses as a background image, but that's a personal preference I suppose
You're right though, images do get burned in our minds. That is why it is so important not to put the wrong things in our minds to begin with - they will come back at the worst possible times and in the worst possible ways. How horrific it is to think that you might be with someone you marry and images from long ago flood back into your mind.
Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
You're correct, no self stimulation as you call it. If I'm watching a movie and there's a nude scene, I fast foward it or close my eyes. If there are too many of them (more than one) I usually will stop watching the movie completely. Personally I can't see an image of a naked woman on a screen without feeling something, maybe some guys can I don't know. Me personally, I know that image is going to come back to haunt me later and I don't want that.
The images on the phone or the computer and on the internet are all controllable. One can look at a number of perfectly acceptable things via any of those avenues - I usually like to go with red roses as a background image, but that's a personal preference I suppose
You're right though, images do get burned in our minds. That is why it is so important not to put the wrong things in our minds to begin with - they will come back at the worst possible times and in the worst possible ways. How horrific it is to think that you might be with someone you marry and images from long ago flood back into your mind.
Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
K
Yes you should do a thread to show others who are struggling with this addiction how you over came it.
For we are called to give our testimonies and that is exactly the reason we are put through those trials, so that we can show others that it is possible to stop committing those sins and not have them control you any longer. For we are by Christ to have overcome and have victory over sin !!!
Hi All, not sure if this is permitted, but there is a web app called Covenant Eyes (based on the passage in Job; Google it)) which monitors all your internet usage and sends a report to someone you designate, who (hopefully) follows up on anything questionable. It's a small monthly cost for one measure of accountability. For it to work well, you need to have people in your life who you trust and will hold you accountable in a loving and supportive way.
Blessings,
Dino
Blessings,
Dino
S
Try to be less confrontational when responding to sincere questions. Im sorry i asked because your response is sarcastic and comes off holier than thou.
You also take anything someone says regardless of intent & make it seem as if they are deliberately thwarting you.
I asked because as a women, a human im tempted too, it's always nice to learn boundaries so you dont sin unknowingly & if you have then you know for next time.
I was trying to to tell you stop being so hard on people, your not God yet you come across as all knowing & judgemental. Be nice it wont kill you, i promise
You also take anything someone says regardless of intent & make it seem as if they are deliberately thwarting you.
I asked because as a women, a human im tempted too, it's always nice to learn boundaries so you dont sin unknowingly & if you have then you know for next time.
I was trying to to tell you stop being so hard on people, your not God yet you come across as all knowing & judgemental. Be nice it wont kill you, i promise
In this area, I make no excuses. I have two and a half decades working with Sex Offenders... most of whom began with simple porn. People sugar-coated nonsensical advice to them, and in most cases, it probably helped ruin their lives.
So, if I don't stroke people and approach this most dangerous and destructive obsession as just "a bad habit", as you think I should. Too bad. I know the vile destructiveness of this stuff, and I hope that I never sit quietly by and try to make someone feel good about engaging in it.
So, if I don't stroke people and approach this most dangerous and destructive obsession as just "a bad habit", as you think I should. Too bad. I know the vile destructiveness of this stuff, and I hope that I never sit quietly by and try to make someone feel good about engaging in it.
R
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Eph 6:12
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7
I didn't read other responses and I'm sorry if I'm repeating anyone. Any kind of stronghold is hard to break free from. But in your post you are coming to the place of realizing this sin and wanting to break free.
Prayer is powerful. And pray specifically. God's not surprised or shocked. He wants your heart, that's all. If you continue to repeat the sin, you up your prayer game. Pray out loud. Remember you are a child of God. He owns you. You take it step by step,decision by decision.
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 2cor 10:5
Change your schedule, find an accountability partner (someone you trust wholeheartedly), throw out your tv, change computer habits. You know when and where the strong urges come to sin. Change your actions. Again, pray. When you get serious about this, the repeat will stop. You will find victory. The Lord is your strength and redeemer. Get mad at Satan for using you. God is power. He will break you free
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7
I didn't read other responses and I'm sorry if I'm repeating anyone. Any kind of stronghold is hard to break free from. But in your post you are coming to the place of realizing this sin and wanting to break free.
Prayer is powerful. And pray specifically. God's not surprised or shocked. He wants your heart, that's all. If you continue to repeat the sin, you up your prayer game. Pray out loud. Remember you are a child of God. He owns you. You take it step by step,decision by decision.
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; 2cor 10:5
Change your schedule, find an accountability partner (someone you trust wholeheartedly), throw out your tv, change computer habits. You know when and where the strong urges come to sin. Change your actions. Again, pray. When you get serious about this, the repeat will stop. You will find victory. The Lord is your strength and redeemer. Get mad at Satan for using you. God is power. He will break you free
This might be slightly off the original topic, but...
Apart from the obvious reasons for increased porn usage--accessibility and cultural acceptance, I think part of the problem with pornography within the Church has to do with how the church deals with the sexuality of singles. Which is to say, the church pretty much says, "don't" and leaves it at that.
The "don't" was perhaps more effective 100 years ago when most people were married by the time they were like 22. Now, there is a much larger single population (to the tune of about 30% of the adult population). If churches aren't willing to engage in discipleship with singles regarding their sexuality, how do they propose that people learn how to handle it? Trial and error?....Well, yeah, pretty much.
I've talked to a lot of long-time singles about how their churches deal with some of these issues, and most churches don't. Some might luck into a great singles group, or a spiritual mentorship, but there are few churches that prioritize the internal lives of singles. Most singles are just expected to sort it out as best they can--which leads to a lot of isolation and shame around some of these issues.
Besides that, there are actual skills available to people regarding the building of a principled interior life. And a lot of valuable advice from singles who've "been there." I wish there was more access to this within the church.
Apart from the obvious reasons for increased porn usage--accessibility and cultural acceptance, I think part of the problem with pornography within the Church has to do with how the church deals with the sexuality of singles. Which is to say, the church pretty much says, "don't" and leaves it at that.
The "don't" was perhaps more effective 100 years ago when most people were married by the time they were like 22. Now, there is a much larger single population (to the tune of about 30% of the adult population). If churches aren't willing to engage in discipleship with singles regarding their sexuality, how do they propose that people learn how to handle it? Trial and error?....Well, yeah, pretty much.
I've talked to a lot of long-time singles about how their churches deal with some of these issues, and most churches don't. Some might luck into a great singles group, or a spiritual mentorship, but there are few churches that prioritize the internal lives of singles. Most singles are just expected to sort it out as best they can--which leads to a lot of isolation and shame around some of these issues.
Besides that, there are actual skills available to people regarding the building of a principled interior life. And a lot of valuable advice from singles who've "been there." I wish there was more access to this within the church.
You want to know the truth? Something as serious and detrimentally damaging as porn very definitely requires that we all get angry about it. Without understanding that this is destroying your life, your future, your morals, and especially the fabric of your family if you are married... and your relationships if you aren't, you may never get serious enough to really DO something about this emotional cancer.
This is not a fun topic just to be bantered around on a forum. This takes serious psychological surgery.
This is not a fun topic just to be bantered around on a forum. This takes serious psychological surgery.