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Yes, God hates divorce. However, it is important that you don't fear filing for a lawful divorce simply because you think you will be displeasing God. While God hates divorce, His displeasure is directed at the guilty party in the divorce. So, if the person who files for the divorce is the innocent party, he or she is not sinning by seeking the divorce. In fact, there are verses where Paul, inspired by the Holy Spirit, considers it an advantage for the godly to be able to put away his or her godless spouse. (Read over 1 Corinthians 7 -- when the ungodly spouse gives a just cause for divorce, the godly are said to be "free", etc.)
An anology: God hates war, too. But that doesn't mean that he is angry with the country that defends itself against an unlawful invasion.
That said, I hate divorce, too, and I'm glad to see that you do, too. We all should hate whatever God hates. So, I'm very sorry to hear about the situation your husband has put you in, and I admire your desire to keep your marriage together. Just remember that there are good reasons God permitted divorce for cases like this, and don't remain married just because you would feel guilty to file for divorce. From what I can tell, filing for divorce may be the best thing for you and your family at this point. But get counsel from godly people who know more about all the details of your situation.
I'll pray for you.
An anology: God hates war, too. But that doesn't mean that he is angry with the country that defends itself against an unlawful invasion.
That said, I hate divorce, too, and I'm glad to see that you do, too. We all should hate whatever God hates. So, I'm very sorry to hear about the situation your husband has put you in, and I admire your desire to keep your marriage together. Just remember that there are good reasons God permitted divorce for cases like this, and don't remain married just because you would feel guilty to file for divorce. From what I can tell, filing for divorce may be the best thing for you and your family at this point. But get counsel from godly people who know more about all the details of your situation.
I'll pray for you.
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Wow, a bit surprised at the advice given on this "christian" chat. While I understand that perhaps it comes from one's own bad experience I serve a God of restoration. After all, His son died so I could be restored. I do not know what the future holds. What I know is that I am not ready to make a decision to divorce and as long as it is wrong for me I will not do it. Perhaps I will not have a choice if he files. My hope has and always will be reconciliation.
That being said, please understand the hurt is deep - by far the most painful experience of my life. I can look back on this awful year and see how God has sustained me and my kids and that is my hope.
That being said, please understand the hurt is deep - by far the most painful experience of my life. I can look back on this awful year and see how God has sustained me and my kids and that is my hope.
The worst thing that a spouse can do in a marriage is to betray the trust of the other. Your husband did a horrible thing to you and there is no excuse for it. If you do not feel right in filing for divorce then don't but try to be sure that is God's feelings also.
To have healing for the hurt and devastation it may be necessary to at least make plans for going forward in your life, for your sake as well as the kids.
I have said a prayer for you that God may resolve this situation and bring back to you a certain measure of peace and comfort.
To have healing for the hurt and devastation it may be necessary to at least make plans for going forward in your life, for your sake as well as the kids.
I have said a prayer for you that God may resolve this situation and bring back to you a certain measure of peace and comfort.
It is ultimately you're decision. There is no right and wrong on if you divorce or not, because you're in the situation to where you can. With God, everything can be done, including repairing your marriage. It takes both parties to make that happen, though, and it doesn't sound like he doesn't want to fight for it. I mean, his kids aren't even important enough to do so. I will be praying for your situation, and do suggest you don't get your hopes up too much, or you might be hurt worse than you already are. It'll take you two to go to counseling together to find all these issues out and work through them.
Mae, if your heart would rather see your marriage, husband and family restored than just cut ties and get a divorce then go ahead and do so 
I don't know the how's but prayer is a good start and try not to underestimate what God is able to do..oh and also listen out to Gods heart on the matter.
I've heard numerous testimonies of spouses going AWOL and through a desire for restoration, diligence and prayer they had returned and continued to live a happy successful marriage in time.
I don't know the how's but prayer is a good start and try not to underestimate what God is able to do..oh and also listen out to Gods heart on the matter. I've heard numerous testimonies of spouses going AWOL and through a desire for restoration, diligence and prayer they had returned and continued to live a happy successful marriage in time.
God can do ANYTHING, but it seems to me that after a YEAR of him leaving you and the kids, and everything else, to have an affair (which IS still going on) should tell you that he's not interested in reconciling your marriage. His decisions alone should tell you that. God hates divorce but he also uses it sometimes to introduce something better for one, or both parties. Seek His wisdom on this, but don't waste your life waiting for hubby to come back home, because it's very probable that it won't happen. He has chosen who and what he wants to be with, and unfortunately, it's NOT you and his kids. File for divorce and cut him loose, because as the bible says, "he is not pleased to live with you." You and your kids deserve alot better than what you're getting right now. Don't prolong the agony.