Does anyone believe in falling in love?

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Dino246

Dino246

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Great question, and some great responses so far.

I think 'love' has been adequately defined above, so I won't add to that. Perhaps I can offer a thought on the "falling in" part though. What is felt in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship is no less real than what is felt several years into a healthy, vibrant, Christ-centred marriage, but it is very different. It is intense, exhilarating, wonderful, and dangerous, as it can trump rational thought and spiritual commitment. Handled well, it can help you to bond to another person enough to get to know them, and to open up to them, fostering development of real love. Handled poorly, it allows you to bond too much and in the wrong ways. So it needs to be handled with prayer and godly guidance.

In some ways "falling in" is like alcohol (please let's not derail; this is just an illustration), it is not a requirement, but where experienced, it is to be treated with care, taken in moderation, and not given the place of control. Within those boundaries, it may be shared and enjoyed for what it is... when you're at an appropriate level of maturity otherwise. :)

PS, regarding dating; Arigirl, if you haven't done so, may I recommend prayerfully reading Joshua Harris's books "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and "Boy Meets Girl". His certainly isn't the only perspective, but there is wisdom in those pages.
 
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Ugly

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Arigirl said:
Being at a young age, I understand little of life nor relationships. Though from what I have known, there is a huge consequence to some love and that is through heartbreaks. And even those who last and get married, many will become miserable years later. And people are so specific about being with another person. They put demands on another person. they make them into their hopes, dreams, and expectations, rather than that person just being them. They're not really in love just because they love someone. They're 'in love' just so they are not alone.

So, then, does anyone believe in falling in love? Is anyone satisfied to just fall in love?

Or are relationships all about filling an empty space in your heart? Do you want to get married so that your expectations will be filled?

I'd really love to hear your opinions on this. It's been bugging me for so long now.

God bless!
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Love exists. And i think many people do fall in love, some just think they do. The problem is, in the long term relationship, their priority shifts from caring about the other persons needs, to looking out for their own needs.
In some cases people view relationships as finding someone to fulfill them. But ultimately marriage is about being selfLess. Soon as your priority switches from the other person to yourself your relationship falls apart. And if you think a relationship is all about finding someone to do for you, instead of what you can do for them, then you're going in for the wrong reasons.
But because humanity is sinful it's easy to become more self oriented. It is an active process you have to take on daily. To forgive. To remind yourself they need to be what is important to you, not yourself. It's possible. But few people will have the discipline to endure.
 
Yeraza_Bats

Yeraza_Bats

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Im friends with a Christian older lady at work, and we have talked about being in love and what it is many times before. The earthly idea always seems to be more vain and selfish than what the bible makes love out to be. Like, Christ loved the world so much that He gave His life entirely so that they could be with Him, and this means everyone, even those of us who were once His enemies, and hated who He was. He did it for no other reason other then the fact He felt love for them.
But if you look at the earthly idea of being in love, theres almost like a glitz and glam-ness to it. People look for that one person whos really "hot" or really "cool", and consider what they can get out of that person. Then people make a big show of their being in love. And they enjoy it to its fullest until they get tired and bored of it, and then they decide to live "free" and separate all so they can go out and enjoy that high again. And theres an idolatry to "love", too. I hear these songs all the time at work, theres one thats so bad that the lyrics literally go on about only those who have faith in falling in love will fall in love, that all you have to do is believe in it with all your heart, and your greatest desire will come true. I think thats totally wrong, its only preaching to put all your heart and soul into an earthly idea, and not into the One who came to save us. Someone here asked, do you believe in falling in love, or being in love with the idea of falling in love? I liked this, the whole idea of loving someone has become really earthly and all about pleasing yourself, and I dont really like that kind of love.


I do believe in love, and I believe in falling in love. God created us with love, and His love was proven on the cross. And He created man and woman, and wanted them to be together, so yeah God wanted us to love, too :p And He gave us the gift of having children, what good parent wouldnt put their child before themself?



TL;DR- I believe in love, I believe that a man and woman should totally come together to love each other, and love their future children too. But be careful to not let yourself become obsessed with the idea of "being" in love, because I do believe that that entire fantasy is more earthly than anything, and is not really pleasing to God. When I find a woman to love one day, I want to find one who wants to love and admire our Lord together, and praise Him. Not a woman who wants us to exalt each other as if were each others god :p
 
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Jeshuvan

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first of all there are different kinds of love.there is feleo love from feelings.then there is Agape which is from God who is love according to the Bible which means without conditions and its eternal.Im in love with my Lord,but he states in his Word=Bible if you really love me,you will obey my commands thats the proof.I love my wife,who is Gods child first and a gift,treasure,valuable,very useful to God and me.But to have a true love relationship with another human being,you must be truly in love with God,the creator of relationships.Amen God Bless You
 
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Arigirl

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I see. Thank you for your answer. :)
 
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Arigirl

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Thank you for your comment! I definitely agree with you. I'll be sure to check those out sometime.
 
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Arigirl

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I completely agree with what you're saying. Thank you for leaving your opinion. :)
 
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Arigirl

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Very very true. :)
 
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Arigirl said:
Very very true. :)
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Using 'Reply With Quotes' makes it so others know who you are responding to. The few above posts you made, no idea who any of them are for.
 
Tinkerbell725

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Praying for discerning wisdom...to be able to choose well the one to love and to hold forever in your walk to righteousness...

Proverbs 8:11 NKJV

For wisdom is better than rubies, And all the things one may desire cannot be compared with her.

Christ is the power and wisdom of God.
 
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jeremyPJ

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not sure...I know I fall in love. But I'm not really sure how this works for others.

I've seen where others have referred to it that way all my life. But in my experience in the general population, and with my past two spouses, well I'm just not sure.

Since I've become Christian I haven't pursued love yet, not quite ready. I have a couple of health issues to take care of first. One surgery was supposed to happen last Friday, but I caught a terrible Sinus infection that made me feel worse than I have in years. So maybe soon I will get re-scheduled.
 
Lynx

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I gave you plenty of time and you never supplied the line. Somebody had to do it...

I thought you would thank me for taking up your slack. :p
 
wisebeardman

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Lynx said:
I gave you plenty of time and you never supplied the line. Somebody had to do it...

I thought you would thank me for taking up your slack. :p
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no such thing as giving me plenty of time, I move at my own speed good sir
 
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ServantStrike

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I don't know that people should be falling in and out of love at the flick of a switch. It makes for good music though.

[video=youtube;as5wEWNRouc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=as5wEWNRouc[/video]


And true love doesn't fade, although there's going to be some sacrifice, and some pain involved along the way.

But yes, people can fall in love. Generally it requires emotional maturity and good communication with one another or it's not going to work too well.
 
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Evan1989

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I absolutely believe in falling in love. I was in prison for a few years when I was 18 and when I finished my sentence at 21 I started getting involved in the community and I met a beautiful woman who would become the love of my life. I knew the second I said hello that I wanted to spend forever with her.

We had a daughter when I was 22 and got engaged shortly after.

Unfortunately she was taken from this world in 2013 before our wedding but I still love her with all my heart. So yes, I do think love at first sight/falling in love exists and I think that's what God wants for us.
 
Addison

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Anyone who doesn't believe in falling in love has never had bacon.
 
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Gateway

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No, or not sure!
 
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