How to avoid the church hug

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coby

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Ultimatum77 said:
Yea I hate that go to a new church and they say touch 3 people and say this or hug them....man i hardly know these people, hugs are only for people I know otherwise I question that person's integrity....

Hugs are a big deal....you don't hug someone you don't know...it's too personal...a shake hand is as far as it goes...I am annoyed with people who go uber-hugging everyone with such fake joyfulness (not all are like that but you know the artifical ones who are super joyful in church but outside of it are meaner than a gangster...)
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Lol my mom once jumped around a preacher's neck, it was really sincere but so weird here. Hahaha he said: Do I know her? What does she want from me?
 
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coby

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Miri said:
Ok so we have all been there the church service is over and out of
nowhere, a pair of arms throw themselves around you and squeeze
the living daylights out of you.

So any ideas of how to avoid this folks?


Here is a few I thought might be useful.

1) Ladies bend down and rummage around in your hand bag

2) Get out a tissue and pretend you have a streaming cold equivalent to
the bubonic plague

3) Pick up the tithe basket and start handing it around (people will disappear in
a flash)

4) Goose step out of the church.

5) Offer the hugger the use of your breathe freshener first.


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Next time dress up like this when you go to church:

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PeterJens

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Some people do not show emotion in a tactile way.

You do need to learn how to respect everyones emotional expression.

My son is not a hugger, but my daughters are.
One guy in church gets intimidated by hugs.

If you cannot respect these differences or boundaries you need to understand loving people is a mutual agreement without any forcing. The problem is "huggers" do not sometimes understand the language of others is different.
 
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Tintin

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PeterJens said:
Some people do not show emotion in a tactile way.

You do need to learn how to respect everyones emotional expression.

My son is not a hugger, but my daughters are.
One guy in church gets intimidated by hugs.

If you cannot respect these differences or boundaries you need to understand loving people is a mutual agreement without any forcing. The problem is "huggers" do not sometimes understand the language of others is different.
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*some huggers
 
PeterJens

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Tintin said:
*some huggers
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Sorry to all huggers of the world, "some huggers", I wrote in haste and exaguration. I hug now, but not that often, it was a change when I got tactile, made some people jump..
 
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Miri

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So many of you have had me laughing my socks.

Oh man bless all those
huggers out there. May their breathe always be fresh, may they always
smell sweet, teach them to walk slowly and act wisely. Lol
 
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Miri

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coby said:
Give them the look.
Once had that in a church service. Give the person next to you a hug. Eeehm nope.
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Please do tell - what is "the look"
 
Dude653

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coby said:
If you have a problem kissing a man you might wanna examine yourself. Jesus kissed His disciples LOL.
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so why should we have a problem with a simple hug? one morning, my pastors wife kissed me on the cheek as she hugged me. I thought nothing of it
 
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Miri

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coby said:
Guess so yes. The only place where I rarely get a hug from a woman is in church. The Dutch don't hug. Get out of my personal space!! We do 3 kisses on the cheek though. If you don't want that you can keep your arm straight.
Once in a church it was a guest speaker from America I think who said: give your neighbour a hug. A guy from my church sat next to me. A hug??? Are you nuts? No way! Gave him a friendly handshake.
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If someone tried to kiss me in church they would end up with a
fat lip! Assuming they didn't have one to start off with - that would
be even worse. Lol



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Dude653

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This conversation has become juvenile. unfollowing
 
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coby

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Dude653 said:
so why should we have a problem with a simple hug? one morning, my pastors wife kissed me on the cheek as she hugged me. I thought nothing of it
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I wouldn't, but I'm just not used to it. Lol men here only shake hands.
 
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coby

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We have this program on tv. 2 Women who were twin sisters hadn't seen each other in 40 years, because one moved to Australia. They called each other all the time and really missed each other. Then they had her come over as a surprise and lololol they just shook hands. Hey whassup?
Yeah we're not so clingy she says. So funny.
 
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Dude653 said:
if you have a problem with someone hugging you in church, you might wanna examine yourself because church is about love.
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If you have a problem with someone declining hugs in church, you might wanna examine yourself, because love isn't about control.
 
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kaylagrl

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sharkwhales said:
If you have a problem with someone declining hugs in church, you might wanna examine yourself, because love isn't about control.
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How does control have anything to do with it?

1 Cor.All the brothers send you greetings. nGreet one another with a holy kiss.

Im not up for kissing people in church but a hug seems harmless unless there is an impure intent behind it.
 
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coby

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Dude653 said:
This conversation has become juvenile. unfollowing
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If you have a problem with juvenile conversation..
oh I'll stop.
Let's not fight over hugs.
CC the only place where you can fight over hugs.
 
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coby

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kaylagrl said:

How does control have anything to do with it?

1 Cor.All the brothers send you greetings. nGreet one another with a holy kiss.

Im not up for kissing people in church but a hug seems harmless unless there is an impure intent behind it.
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Well if you have to hug someone because you're otherwise considered weird the hug loses its intention.
Wonder how many men kiss each other with a holy kiss. Hush hush! Go give them a kiss.
 
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Ah.... Im not okay with hugs : p I dont get angry about it, but Im really very shy and awkward, like I feel uncomfortable when they tell us to go introduce ourselves to the other members : p Having to hug is a huge leap forward : p

Im not against saying hello, and being friendly and kind, but I do it in a way thats comfortable to me. And hugging is a big thing to me, it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable. Its not anything against the people there, I just dont touch people that often, am very awkward about the whole thing.
 
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kaylagrl

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coby said:
Well if you have to hug someone because you're otherwise considered weird the hug loses its intention.
Wonder how many men kiss each other with a holy kiss. Hush hush! Go give them a kiss.
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I live in the south and hugs are a given. Im from Canada where hugs weren't acceptable. When I moved south and went back home I hugged my pastor and he acted like I had made a sexual move against him,his wife was right beside him! I said "they aren't repressed in the south,a little hug wont kill you". He laughed it off. My family doesn't even hug so when I moved to the south and fellow Christians greeted me with a hug I learned to loosen up.
 
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