Where's the Line Between Being Available, Desperate, and a Stalker?
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Being available - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime?
Being desperate - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime? (after the other person agrees) Shall we go out now?
Being stalker - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime? (after the other person agrees)
That's wonderful! I've made a reservation for us at 4pm tomorrow at XYZ cafe, where you like to have the Cafe Mocha with lots of whipped cream, along with chocolate chip cookies. I figured that 4pm would work for you because it takes you one hour to commute from office, and it's 2 hours before you go to the dinner party hosted by Sally tomorrow.
Being available - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime?
Being desperate - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime? (after the other person agrees) Shall we go out now?
Being stalker - hey, would you like to hang out and grab a cup of coffee sometime? (after the other person agrees)
That's wonderful! I've made a reservation for us at 4pm tomorrow at XYZ cafe, where you like to have the Cafe Mocha with lots of whipped cream, along with chocolate chip cookies. I figured that 4pm would work for you because it takes you one hour to commute from office, and it's 2 hours before you go to the dinner party hosted by Sally tomorrow.
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Basically that line (stalker) can be controversial, as to whether the other person is as interested in you as you are them.
I can remember when someone like that wasn't considered a "stalker". As with other things in modern "society", the word has been taken to maximum horizons for no good purpose.
The word used to be used to refer to someone who was preying on someone to possibly rob, hurt or cause harm in someone's life.
what about the shy teen who is watching his crush but hasn't quite worked up the courage to ask her out...used to be kind of cute, or gross if the girl didn't like him. Now he'd be a "Stalker". No wonder our world is messed up...
I can remember when someone like that wasn't considered a "stalker". As with other things in modern "society", the word has been taken to maximum horizons for no good purpose.
The word used to be used to refer to someone who was preying on someone to possibly rob, hurt or cause harm in someone's life.
what about the shy teen who is watching his crush but hasn't quite worked up the courage to ask her out...used to be kind of cute, or gross if the girl didn't like him. Now he'd be a "Stalker". No wonder our world is messed up...
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Sure I'll throw my thoughts in here. For me the difference between available and desperate usually boils down to does it feel like a person's interest is in me personally or is it more of an "any relationship will do I just need a relationship" vibe. And the other aspect would be time boundaries, clingy or jealous of my other friends and activities looks desperate at best and stalkerish will this person respect my wishes if we get even closer at worst.
