Thank you posthuman for being honest. That's what I was searching for. Not resolvation of the problem but honesty. It is difficult to talk about suicide and salvation because people think that you condemn to hell the person that comitted suicide only because you simply can't understand how the two (salvation and suicide) can fit together. I wasn't condemning people to hell, I just refused easy answers.
And I understand what both of you are saying.... but what I'm trying to get across is that becoming a Christian, with all that entails, does not "cure" us from physical or mental illnesses... if we are truly saved, but die of a heart attack from a bad previous lifestyle, or from a genetic disorder, we are no more at fault than if we take our own life, due to a mental/emotional illness.
I also understand the confusion as to "how" any Christian could drift that far away from the love of Christ... but we are looking at it as relatively healthy (mentally) people. Suicide DOESN'T make sense to someone who is not mentally "off"... we cannot see it.
It's much like an alcoholic who becomes a Christian.... they have repented, but they will ALWAYS be one drink away from disaster/failure/sin. If that alcoholic slips, and gets drunk, but comes back and starts over, have they lost their salvation? Or, were they simply human, and in their human weakness, messed up?
The big difference is that in the case of mental illness and suicide, the "slip" is a more permanent one, physically speaking. But it's no different, spiritually speaking. In my opinion, of course...