Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?
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That doesn't change a fact the temptations will always be there? I'm not sure where you're going with that. With my sponsor 20 plus years clean of drugs and alcohol, he still has a feeling of wanting to every now and then. But it's not as bad as it was in the beginning because he took recovery a day at a time. Which is the case of someone battling porn. Those temptations are still going to be there, especially heavy in the beginning. So if you expected conquering would be getting rid of the temptations, that just doesn't happen.
Thing is, porn is one of those things that just is negative. I don't imagine any woman doing that says ''I found the best job everrrr...I have wanted to be a porn star since I was a kid.'' lol It's usually because they don't feel good about themselves, that is what leads many women into that. If we were atheists, we could say, well these are just people expressing themselves, but since we are followers of Jesus, we should look at sex a little differently. It's not just about ''getting off.'' It's about bonding with someone special that you love. Porn has no love in it, at all. It's all about creating selfish ways of looking at sex, IMO.
Jsr, no offense, but it amuses me how often that you misinterpret my replies. I KNOW that the urges and temptations are still there and always will be. The fact that your sponsor "struggles well" with his addiction, just means that he is keeping in good control, but DOES still have the temptations for it.
When you say something like conquer, it's kinda difficult to interpret that hen you said what you said at the very beginning. Kinda gives a vibe that because you've been what you've been through, every other man needs to have it completely together simply because one man or a few men in the past took advantage and were sociopaths.
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NOW we're getting somewhere. See, we can't just treat the outer layer (finding a girlfriend) - that's a temporary solution. This will derail your thread though, for obvious reasons.
You know, the moment you truly realise how accepted and valued you are by God, other peoples' acceptance won't matter. And I know this sounds cliche but most of us here have been through that.
As for every other addiction, the root is our relationship with God, after all. If we work on that, like the branches that we are, getting help from the vine, we will bear fruits (and that's the freedom we all long for, the girlfriend you desire and MORE).
You know, the moment you truly realise how accepted and valued you are by God, other peoples' acceptance won't matter. And I know this sounds cliche but most of us here have been through that.
As for every other addiction, the root is our relationship with God, after all. If we work on that, like the branches that we are, getting help from the vine, we will bear fruits (and that's the freedom we all long for, the girlfriend you desire and MORE).
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That's only partly true, the battle is in the mind, so even if you went technology free for a week, but went to the mall/saw a billboard you could have bad thoughts b/c of the porn you've watched in the past...
It starts with a heart/mind change transformation which can only be done through prayer and reading the Bible to help cast down these vain imaginations.....technology freezing alone won't help....
It starts with a heart/mind change transformation which can only be done through prayer and reading the Bible to help cast down these vain imaginations.....technology freezing alone won't help....