To (finally) address the OP: You know I'm not an expert at relationship stuff, so this is just what I have observed. From what I've seen it never works to start with a list of stuff and find someone who fits most of the list. What I have seen work is when two people get together and then they start finding things they like to do together. Maybe he will start walking with her early in the morning or maybe he never will get around to it. Maybe she'll find she like watching Jeopardy with him and start trying to get more answers right than he gets. Maybe they'll both decide "Hey let's try flying a kite" and find they both really enjoy it. Maybe not.
But when they do find something they both like to do, it will be special to them because it will be something they have found that they both genuinely enjoy together. It won't be forced on one side, something one of them does just to make the other person happy.
Of course I do know people who do it the other way. They have a list and they try to make their spouses fit it. You can tell which ones go this route because they're always complaining about their partners' perceived shortcomings. That's the voice of frustration, and the inevitable end result of this route.
Mind you, this is just what I have observed. As one with no personal experience I could very well be way out in left field.