The Holy Spirit does not promote fear (but rather conviction). For what spirit are you speaking?
What you base your position on is that the translators fully understood and accurately and completely represented the original sense of the original language. Basing your position on the English of isolated verses, and then continually preaching warnings for those who "disobey" your interpretation, doesn't hold water and adds nothing to your position.
If, as you claim, this "boils down to how much you fear God," (which I don't accept) then I suggest you fear Him enough to make absolutely sure that your interpretation of the relevant passages is absolutely watertight. That means dealing with the material that Angela presented on pages 5 and 7... at a minimum.
How about you (and everyone else with a complementarian perspective) completely drop the "fear God" trump card and actually try to understand and respond calmly and rationally to the arguments presented against your position(s).
I guess you do not know, Fear and trembling, in the Bible towards GOD and obedience to HIS WORD, involves, REVERENT RESPECT FOR GOD, A FEELING OF UNWORTHINESS, TOTAL SUBMISSION, AND A DEEP SENSE OF CONVICTION OVER YOUR UTTER SINFULNESS, KNOWING WHAT YOU REALLY DESERVE, BECAUSE OF YOUR LACK OF OBEDIENCE. I wouldn't be so hasty to criticize FEAR and TREMBLING if I was you.
Psalm 2:11 (ESV)
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11 [/SUP]
Serve the LORD with fear, and rejoice with trembling.
Mark 5:33 (HCSB)
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33 [/SUP] Then the woman, knowing what had happened to her, came
with fear and trembling, fell down before Him, and told Him the whole truth.
1 Corinthians 2:2-3 (ESV)
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2 [/SUP] For I decided to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ and him crucified.
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3 [/SUP] And I was with you
in weakness and in fear and much trembling,
Acts 16:28-30 (ESV)
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28 [/SUP] But Paul cried with a loud voice, “Do not harm yourself, for we are all here.”
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29 [/SUP] And the jailer called for lights and rushed in, and
trembling with fear he fell down before Paul and Silas.
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30 [/SUP] Then he brought them out and said,
“Sirs, what must I do to be saved?”
2 Corinthians 7:15 (ESV)
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15 [/SUP] And his affection for you is even greater, as he remembers the obedience of you all,
how you received him with fear and trembling.
Ephesians 6:5 (ASV)
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5 [/SUP] Servants, be obedient unto them that according to the flesh are your masters,
with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;
Philippians 2:11-12 (NASB)
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11 [/SUP] and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
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12 [/SUP] So then, my beloved, just as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence,
work out your salvation with fear and trembling;
{meaning if your ARE SAVED, manifest it in your lifestyle of Obedience and your attitude towards GOD.}