Amen!!! All this "love less" idea makes it seem as if there is not a word for that as in "like" why doesn't it read Jacob I loved, Esau I liked? Because He didn't like Esau He hated Him, I don't fully understand it, but I must submit to it.
Hate does not really mean hate, just love less. So love does not really mean love, but God tolerates His children a little bit more.
Wrath does not mean wrath, but indignation. I confronted someone on another forum with this view of wrath.