-
Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.
If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!
To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
T
I'm sorry Natania. I really don't have any advice. The only thing I can say is pray about it a lot, and I'm sure you're already doing that. If your mum isn't a Christian, she's a lost and hurting individual, even if she doesn't see herself as such. It helps me to remember that when I'm dealing with those kind of people. God bless you, dear sister!
Hi Natania,
You are wise to reach out for help. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is insanity. Based on my experience with my parents as a teen and an adult I had to accept some things were not going to change and I was only responsible for my actions and attitudes. Humility and respect was lacking on my part when I was younger. I learned to "Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger." Pray for yourself and your stepmom and let God do the changing. You sound like a mature young lady, and there is plenty of growth and maturity to acquire, so don't be too hard on yourself when you fail in your responses. Be careful who you voice your complaints to unless they can pray for you or offer objective help. Great to know you have decided to take some responsibility for the relationship and you are working on yourself. The things you are learning from this relationship will help you with other relationships in the future. May this bring you to a deeper dependence on God, as trials often do.
You are wise to reach out for help. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is insanity. Based on my experience with my parents as a teen and an adult I had to accept some things were not going to change and I was only responsible for my actions and attitudes. Humility and respect was lacking on my part when I was younger. I learned to "Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger." Pray for yourself and your stepmom and let God do the changing. You sound like a mature young lady, and there is plenty of growth and maturity to acquire, so don't be too hard on yourself when you fail in your responses. Be careful who you voice your complaints to unless they can pray for you or offer objective help. Great to know you have decided to take some responsibility for the relationship and you are working on yourself. The things you are learning from this relationship will help you with other relationships in the future. May this bring you to a deeper dependence on God, as trials often do.
I'd agree with Willie and suggest writing a letter. IF you decide to give it to her great...if not its a great way to arrange your thoughts and deal with the feelings around it before you actually discuss them with her. If you actually have a sit down conversation I'd suggest an outlined paper detailed what you want to say. And most of all I think you really have to decide if you actually want a long lasting relationship with your mom.....It sucks but sometimes people aren't really worth keeping contact with. No matter what don't underestimate the value of prayer.
A
Do you go to church? Perhaps your pastor can help. They are usually trained in counseling. Godly advice is the usually the best kind.
Do you go to school? Perhaps your guidance counselor can offer some suggestions like the community family center.
Not sure why you feel the need to tell your mother what she does wrong. ("she is always making me feel bad when I bring up what she does")
Honor your mother and father. That means even if they do not deserve it.
Not sure why you want to talk with your mother about your relationship (the title of this post). It sounds to me like you can act respectfully until you can legally emancipate yourself. Perhaps, with time, your relationship will get better after growing up, moving out, and living separate lives. Until then, you need to obey and honor.
Do you have friends you can talk with about this?
Do you go to school? Perhaps your guidance counselor can offer some suggestions like the community family center.
Not sure why you feel the need to tell your mother what she does wrong. ("she is always making me feel bad when I bring up what she does")
Honor your mother and father. That means even if they do not deserve it.
Not sure why you want to talk with your mother about your relationship (the title of this post). It sounds to me like you can act respectfully until you can legally emancipate yourself. Perhaps, with time, your relationship will get better after growing up, moving out, and living separate lives. Until then, you need to obey and honor.
Do you have friends you can talk with about this?
A
I just found a link to this in my inbox and thought of you. Not sure if you or your mother would agree to it, but here it is: Share the Prayer Email Course | CBN.com
Praying for you and your family!
Praying for you and your family!
T
.....my family is complicated haha..... a pastor or anything with religion will not help.
I can't explain in words what it is like over here.
It is constant screaming and crying, things have been thrown, I am automatically depressed just by walking through the door, she never cares about anything I may do, she's never come to a single event of mine, nothing is ever perfect for her.
I have anxiety and depression and I have been told it is situational due to my mother and our relationship.
I have 3 more years to go. It doesn't sound like much unless you are in a place where a hour feels like a week.
And to your comment about abuse, no this parent has not abused me.
I can't explain in words what it is like over here.
It is constant screaming and crying, things have been thrown, I am automatically depressed just by walking through the door, she never cares about anything I may do, she's never come to a single event of mine, nothing is ever perfect for her.
I have anxiety and depression and I have been told it is situational due to my mother and our relationship.
I have 3 more years to go. It doesn't sound like much unless you are in a place where a hour feels like a week.
And to your comment about abuse, no this parent has not abused me.
T
Hello Natania I do not understand why, if you had stopped arguing
with your mother, she brought it up as if there was still a problem
I do not understand why, if you had stopped arguing with your mother, she brought it up as if there was still a problem
So she thought it was getting better because I didn't show that it wasn't.