It begins active and grows more passive as we begin to realize it is not us living and doing but is HIM living and doing in us. In our more active phase (which is normal, it is
not abnormal), we are doing well, we are hungering to be good and righteous and serve others.
When we go into a more passive state, it is when we realize that: the life I now live I live by the Son of God IN me. We become less and less busy about our growth and rely more and more on Him in us.
Passive doesn't mean lazy. Passive means accepting, calm, waiting on God.
Mary and Martha just make you love them. Don't you feel you will be able to immediately recognize them in heaven?
Martha was busy and active to serve others. This was not abnormal. Jesus didn't chide or yell at her. But when she wanted Him to make Mary get up and work to help her, feeling she was being lazy, Jesus said Mary had chosen the better thing. She was passively sitting and listening to Him.
Maybe you won't accept what I'm saying. Maybe you will later understand it. But if a man is in an active stage, he does well. If a man is in a passive stage, he does well too. Neither should chide the other. They are both in different stages or states.