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My ex was abusive and we broke up just three months ago. I am an emotional mess. I have daddy issues and a low self-esteem.
I can laugh about it now...but I'm also being honest.
I can laugh about it now...but I'm also being honest.
Hi so sorry to heartbeat has happened to you..gosh what's wrong with humanity??
I really appreciate your honesty though..my heart goes to you at this time..
I am sure with gods help you will be adding your comments on a different thread entitled
"reasons why you SHOULD date me!"
Man, this is a great thread.
The problem is, I have an entire list of funny reasons why no one should date me AND an entirely different list of serious reasons why no one should date me, and I'm not quite sure which one to post.
I guess I'll go with the serious ones, since a lot of people ask me why I'm single:
1. No one should date me because when I meet all his female friends, I will be sizing them all up and wondering why in the hee haw he isn't dating any of them, and I will assume he is missing out.
2. No one should date me because I won't tolerate controlling, manipulative people (even if it's his own mother.) If he already knows how to stand his ground, great, maybe it could work. But if he lets them run right over him and won't stand up to them, I will--and it won't be pretty.
My two most serious relationships ended partially because of one mother who tried to manipulate and another who wanted us to become Jehovah's Witnesses and wouldn't take no for an answer. It did not go well in either case because I'm obviously not kinda gal who listens when someone says, "Just shut up and do what I say!"
Even at 18, I held my ground, so you can only imagine how much worse I've become with age.
3. No one should date me because I think God has assigned me as The One Who Helps Prepare Them For a Girlfriend, But Not The Actual Girlfriend. Almost every guy I've talked to in the past 10 years has met someone else either while he was talking to me or soon after, and in some cases, even got married.
Therefore, I usually tend to keep a guy at a bit of an arm's length away... even if I really like him... Because I often expect that he'll wind up with someone else anyway.
The problem is, I have an entire list of funny reasons why no one should date me AND an entirely different list of serious reasons why no one should date me, and I'm not quite sure which one to post.
I guess I'll go with the serious ones, since a lot of people ask me why I'm single:
1. No one should date me because when I meet all his female friends, I will be sizing them all up and wondering why in the hee haw he isn't dating any of them, and I will assume he is missing out.
2. No one should date me because I won't tolerate controlling, manipulative people (even if it's his own mother.) If he already knows how to stand his ground, great, maybe it could work. But if he lets them run right over him and won't stand up to them, I will--and it won't be pretty.
My two most serious relationships ended partially because of one mother who tried to manipulate and another who wanted us to become Jehovah's Witnesses and wouldn't take no for an answer. It did not go well in either case because I'm obviously not kinda gal who listens when someone says, "Just shut up and do what I say!"
Even at 18, I held my ground, so you can only imagine how much worse I've become with age.
3. No one should date me because I think God has assigned me as The One Who Helps Prepare Them For a Girlfriend, But Not The Actual Girlfriend. Almost every guy I've talked to in the past 10 years has met someone else either while he was talking to me or soon after, and in some cases, even got married.
Therefore, I usually tend to keep a guy at a bit of an arm's length away... even if I really like him... Because I often expect that he'll wind up with someone else anyway.
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You should not date me because I don't adhere to commonly accepted ideals of what a "man" should act like. I've always done my own thing, my own way, and *spit* on what anybody else thinks about it. I'm polite yet not friendly. I'm kind yet not "nice". I'm agreeable yet not a pushover. When I choose to remain silent about a matter, it's not because I agree with your silly position, it's merely not worth my time to sink to your level and put your stupidity on display.
You should not date me because I am not freely giving of compliments or praise. If your self esteem needs the padding, look elsewhere. I'm more than willing to praise somebody or pay them a compliment, but only when they've earned it.
You should not date me because it's a lot of hard work. Supposing you show up on my radar, you must capture and keep my attention. Next, you must earn my respect. Then you must earn my trust. So far, no woman has had the endurance to bother trying. Too bad.
You should not date me because I am not freely giving of compliments or praise. If your self esteem needs the padding, look elsewhere. I'm more than willing to praise somebody or pay them a compliment, but only when they've earned it.
You should not date me because it's a lot of hard work. Supposing you show up on my radar, you must capture and keep my attention. Next, you must earn my respect. Then you must earn my trust. So far, no woman has had the endurance to bother trying. Too bad.
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You should not date me because I have a weirdest laugh that will creep you out every time I laugh....something which I so much like to do
my goodness,....looks like if you date someone you might need to kindly give them headphones to wear 'to avoid them hearing your laugh'...(but just disguise it as a romantic gesture)!!lol
And here I could have sworn that was my job, maybe I'm just the pleasant stopover before meeting the one and not doing any actual prep work.
As to reasons guys shouldn't date me, the most compelling one is that romance and dating and attraction just don't compute for me.... dating me would be like dating an android that's trying to understand and combat the virus that's scrambling all it's programming.
Also, I keep telling the same jokes over and over; they're not nearly as funny the 20th time you hear them.
As to reasons guys shouldn't date me, the most compelling one is that romance and dating and attraction just don't compute for me.... dating me would be like dating an android that's trying to understand and combat the virus that's scrambling all it's programming.
Also, I keep telling the same jokes over and over; they're not nearly as funny the 20th time you hear them.
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MY GOODNESS...I can hear your laughter all the way in london..
...and Nkirah..your right about that laugh of yours...gosh..it IS freeking me out..
(Gosh..gotta find those headphones of mine............(searching for them)................they just gotta be here somewhere.......
.................will let you know the minute I find them...lol