* Do you consider yourself to be pretty open, or do you like to stay more reserved and "mysterious"? Why or why not?
I'm very reserved with people I don't know. Definitely wouldn't call myself mysterious by any stretch of the imagination, though! If you ask me about something, I will either tell you outright that I don't think you know me well enough to be asking that, or I will give you the answer. But I don't volunteer much info at the beginning of a friendship, so...reserved, yes. Mysterious, hardly. Any reserve is because I am shy and have been hurt before by people knowing too much.
* When looking for a significant other, do you prefer THEM to be very open, or more held back, and why?
Mystery is bothersome to me. That doesn't mean they have to spill everything out. RESERVE is fine, but when you begin being reserved for the sake of mystery, that's a bit strange and I don't find that extremely attractive, more like you're trying to hide something
. I find it easier to communicate with an open person, since openness will make me open up. But I understand reserve better. Either one.
* Where are the boundaries? When is someone too open, and when are they being so "mysterious" that they come across as detached or distant?
There are things in life that God never made to be talked about between a man and a woman outside of marriage. Just sayin'. You'd better have a ring and a promise before you start talking about sex...unless it is something in the past that could affect your relationship. But keeping back information when asked, or knowing that it might affect your relationship and not telling is too mysterious. Also, only talking about yourself will make a person seem detached.
* What if both people are the "mysterious" types... Would that hinder communication? And what if one is a sharer and the other holds back--would they still be able to work out a good line of communication?
YEP. If they're both mysterious, things won't get communicated. And usually when one is open and the other reserved, the open one gets really frustrated. At least that is my observations. However, sometimes reserved people make more time for communication, because they know it is their weak point. So it can work both ways.
