I’m gonna make a real talk post: bit of self examination. And when I ask this, I am asking what you do now. Not what SHOULD you do, but what do you actually do....
How do you deal with people you dislike? People you hate even?
Are you cold to them? Do you try to talk them out of their behaviors? Do you harass them? Are you passive aggressive to them? Do you try your best to reach out to them? Or do you just have indifference?
Again I guess by asking this I’m hoping we all take time to look inward and think about what Christ wants us to do to our enemies, and what we actually do...
I think I have a tendency to sadly go the cold/avoidant route. I don’t talk to them if I can help it, and if I do have to interact I make my conversations as brief as possible. Ironically I end up arguing more with people I care about. Someone who I knew wouldn’t be worth trying to work it out I’d just throw up my hands.
I pray for them, but before i pray that prayer i forgive them (not always face to face because most of the time they don't even know whats going on). Then later i pray and bring it up and affirm in that prayer that i indeed forgave, i also confess if i sinned or did anything weird so all things in me are forgiven. Then i add onto the prayer two decrees, one that i am within Christ, in the house of God and in righteousness while the person in question i have prayed for is not because they are causing chaos and discord. The second decree is that this person i have prayed for is judged by God and that this person causing discord is divided from me and pushed along to wherever it is they need to go that is most suitable for their mindset. ( and when i pray like this i visualize the whole thing)
After that i just remove myself emotionally, detach from it, leave it, don't wait for something to happen, and go do something else, the seed has been planted. I then pour all of my attention/focus on something else so there is no time to give real attention to the person. 99 percent of the time they leave or just something ends up happening. What i always find funny is how they will leave and they think it's their idea. God is powerful like that, and He will cause events and or just have a person think that they are in control of wherever it is they "think" they are going.
As for me personally i don't hate or dislike people but i do dislike and hate what they bring. I had to learn to divide people from their actions or whatever it is they are carrying. i try to have as little interaction as possible to the situation after prayer is done, pretty much washing my hands of it. Doing passive aggressive stuff or getting into internal or external arguments battles with them only prolongs things. Doing extra things isn't necessary, actually the more of me by my own hand i put into it negatively the longer it takes, and in most cases it will negate the prayer.
As for just normal people who do things that are annoying but not really doing anything to hurt me, or getting in the way i just forgive and go back to focusing on something more relevant. The more i focus on annoying people i dislike the more power i give to them attention-wise. I have found that giving attention to things i don't like gives life to them. Focusing on something more relevant pushes the annoyances back, and when i am so focused on the relevant thing the annoyance is denied life and has no power.
