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The funny thing is, to many Christians I've run into, even this is not enough, and they still tell me I can't remarry. The even worse thing is, those who are divorced shouldn't have to tell others what they want through just to try to get the another person's justification. It's something that should be between them and God, but people demand public answers that are really none of their business.
I was saying in another thread that divorce gets the spotlight because it's a public matter, like a pregnancy. Everyone wants to know who and what caused it, who was more at fault, and whether or not the person asking personally thinks it's right or wrong. It keeps some people busy and distracted from what's going on in their own lives and marriages, because it's so much easier to judge someone else's.
Thank you for your kind words.
And I just wanted to say Gojira, I greatly enjoy the honesty (and in other threads, humor) you put into your posts.
I am very sorry about the loss of your wife. I find your stories of moving forward with what God has for you to be very inspiring, and I pray God will lead you into seasons of great things!
I was saying in another thread that divorce gets the spotlight because it's a public matter, like a pregnancy. Everyone wants to know who and what caused it, who was more at fault, and whether or not the person asking personally thinks it's right or wrong. It keeps some people busy and distracted from what's going on in their own lives and marriages, because it's so much easier to judge someone else's.
Thank you for your kind words.
And I just wanted to say Gojira, I greatly enjoy the honesty (and in other threads, humor) you put into your posts.
I am very sorry about the loss of your wife. I find your stories of moving forward with what God has for you to be very inspiring, and I pray God will lead you into seasons of great things!
As for the looks topic, I don't think it's vanity. I think it's part of the human equation, plain and simple. It becomes vanity if you're worried about what everyone else thinks about whom you got in your arms. It becomes adolescent if you have a perfectly fine mate at home, but you still have to have that adrenalized thrill your spouse may not be able to provide.
Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's clichéd, but true. I think Halle Barry has been one of the most beautiful women in Hollywood. Yet, I once ran into a man who was unimpressed with her. I don't think people should be so put off by this topic.
I remember a woman in church years ago, our Sunday school teacher. I liked her personally, but could never ever ever ever ever see myself with her. Yet, another man could and even proposed to her. So, there ya go!
I'd have to challenge those who would say you could not remarry after your husband ran off with another woman. Sorry, but Matthew 19:9 seems to indicate that you are free to remarry -- unless these folks have a handle on Scripture that I don't.
Thank you for the comments about my late honey, but I do not seem to be moving forward at all. There are three major droughts I am in, and there is only an iffy possibility one of them might break soon. But, I've had so many iffy possibilities vanish on me over the past 4.75 years, I'm kind of waiting for this one to go poof, too.
These droughts have me profoundly depressed. I broke down in my car a couple of weekends ago and sobbed like a 5-year old, begging God to lift whatever it was He has been doing. I have no real reason to get up every day, except to make survival possible. But, for what am I surviving? To satisfy the instinct for survival?!? I want to live. Not merely exist. I'm supposed to find my joy and satisfaction in God alone, ultimately, but I do not. I am seeking God for this, but until it happens...
Anyway.... in my opinion, you're free to remarry.
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