You've gotten 5 pages of replies, all doing a pretty good job at explaining how yes, a woman is to submit to her husband AND the husband is to love her as Christ loved the church.
Demanding submissiveness and
forcing your wife to do everything you want is not how Christ loves. It also takes away the point of being submissive. Submissiveness is voluntary, it is an act of giving someone else trust. Trust that they have prayed about each decision they are making in that position of authority (and that they are also praying WITH their wife), trust that they have the wife's interest in mind, as well as the marriage unit.
Women are to submit whether their husbands are loving or not, and men are to love even when their wives aren't submitting. It doesn't say "Women, submit when your husband is perfect and loving all the time" or "Husbands, love your wives but only when they are submitting and not being stubborn." Now, we aren't to submit to sin or just let things slide, but that's the point of working
together as
one unit. One has authority, but how is he going to use it? One has the job of being a helping warrior, but how will she use it?
God does not tell husbands to hold their wives under their thumb, because "I'm the head of the household and you must listen to me, woman!"