Do ‘looks’ matter to YOU?

At the beginning of this thread i stated that attraction is subjective and does not mean 'commercially hot' by default. Just in different words haha. I would suspect that the more focused one is on 'commercially attractive' people the less depth there is.

My point was that often times people who say looks don't matter tend to automatically assume it's a shallow mindset. Obviously we all have some differences in what we're looking for, but the general notion of having something beyond appearance and with a strong emotional connection can be just as important for someone that's interested in someone that also wants what they deem attractive. The two are not mutually exclusive. That was my point. You took a broad concept and turned it into a specific one, hence the misunderstanding.
Most people have been, or are, in those shoes. Anyone looking for an in depth, close, personal, sincere relationship feels exactly that way. They did long before you and will continue to long after.

So clearly that's not your reason for being single. But we both knew that already =P

Do looks matter when pursuing or getting to know someone on a deeper romantic level - whether it’s online, in real life, on text, phone etc.

As a whole, male or female, do you think attraction in the opposite sex should matter?

Yes. I won't pretend they don't matter in the slightest when it comes to romantic relationships. It's reasonable and human. The first thing I notice about anyone is their appearance. It's not the only thing that matters, but it catches attention and opens the door. I would certainly hope that I'm physically attracted to my girlfriend/wife, etc. I would not be interested in them if I wasn't.

It is interesting that you brought up about the new creatures in Christ. A woman who is a new creation in Christ will reflect this beauty inside and out. If nothing good is in the inside it doesn't matter what's on the outside.

I agree but a man will ONLY see her spiritial beauty if HES looking through spiritual eyes and not human ones

You raised a very good point. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but if the beholder does not see clearly any beauty that may exist is lost. Spiritual beauty is paramount for me.

Well g'mornin everybody, I overslept it's after...7:30! that's nearly 2 hrs late 4 me. Reading your posts made me rember a phenonena that's happened to me a couple of times. While physical attraction was often the hook that had gotten me interested. During conversation a persons face or countenance appeared to somehow change before me, not always for the good mind you but has me desire to be with or get away from that person. After that happens, my perspective of them never changed back. I can't explain it but I was wondering if that has ever happened to anyone else?

Youre cute..surprised youre single...

I have YET to have a man come up to me and say "hi..just wanted to tell you..you have a very pretty spirit".. Lol..theres OTHER things men habe come up to me and said..but not that..lol

Actually, that's kind of sad. That would be a pretty good compliment for a woman to receive.

Yes it IS and yes it WOULD be

We guys actually notice a pretty spirit a lot... Or at least I do. But if I ever said that, it would sound like an incredibly lame pick-up line. So I never say that to a girl.

Lol..this is how i look at it..if you HAVENT said it before n r still single you might want to TRY saying that and it MIGHT change your single status (but youd have to let her see your face first .. No avitar )

What’s with your obsession with people not showing their face in their avatar? It’s their choice remember lol.

Some people ain't trying to change their status.

I ain't mentioning any names, but some people aren't interested, and work damn hard to be single.
I ain't mentioning any names, but if someone doesn't ask you out, they are not interested in you.

Yup it is...mostly teasing but if were talking pizza party etc..people have to see you right or is this another cyber masquerade?

It's the internet. So there is that.

Are you licking your lips? Lol

Having a pizza party doesn’t necessarily mean one has to show their face though? Who’s rule is that? Lol.

I'll lick my chops for a nice piece of meat.