CAN A CHRISTIAN BE PRO-GAY MARRIAGE?

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Can a mature Christian support gay marriage?

  • Yes, a mature Christian can support gay marriage

    Votes: 15 10.5%
  • No, a mature Christian cannot support gay marriage

    Votes: 128 89.5%

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Deidre

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Yes.
The reason why homosexuality "seems" to be spoken out against the most is the fact that it is brought up the most by the world in order to trip up Christians. If someone brings another sin up, you better believe we should speak against it.
Divorce is high among Christians. No politicians speak out against it. Not many Christians in general speak out against it, because divorce is actually the highest among evangelical Christians. The only reason I bring this up is that many heterosexual Christians don't speak out against heterosexual marital and sexual sins, but have no issues ranting about the sin of homosexuality. This is why many people who are not believers look at Christians as cherry picking the Bible. It's just an observation. If I do see someone struggling in sin, I'll share my faith experience, and the love of Jesus, and how He changes lives. Maybe we all have a different style, and we have to meet people where they are in their lives.
 
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Mitspa

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But, does this extend to other ''sins?'' It seems that many Christians get caught up in the sins of others committing homosexual acts, but don't really speak much to others in terms of other sins. Like if you know someone who is prideful, do you speak up? If you know someone who is viewing porn on a regular basis, do you speak up? If you see a married friend of yours hitting on women at a bar, do you speak up? If you knew a married man was secretly going to strip clubs, would you speak up? Or do we only pick and choose the sins that we think we should speak up about? That's the problem I have with this topic tbh. Homosexuality isn't the only ''sin'' that the Bible speaks of, but for some reason many feel most justified in speaking out against it, than other sins.
You got to see the difference in trying to force Christians to approve and even promote a certain sin ..and allowing that the world and people are sinful. We don't have threads that say we need to get behind and approve adultery or fornication ..do we? If we did?..we would have many people speaking up. We have the porn issue brought up a lot in here and ..its already legal ..but in no way should we as Christians promote it.
 
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Divorce is high among Christians. No politicians speak out against it. Not many Christians in general speak out against it, because divorce is actually the highest among evangelical Christians. The only reason I bring this up is that many heterosexual Christians don't speak out against heterosexual marital and sexual sins, but have no issues ranting about the sin of homosexuality. This is why many people who are not believers look at Christians as cherry picking the Bible. It's just an observation. If I do see someone struggling in sin, I'll share my faith experience, and the love of Jesus, and how He changes lives. Maybe we all have a different style, and we have to meet people where they are in their lives.
Regardless if people don't bring it up, we should still speak out against it and not shy away from it.
Homosexuality is actually something that takes a jab at God's order that He established in the Creation. This is why He calls homosexuality an abomination along with some other sins.

I have heard of and seen churches addressing sins in the congregation. Usually via teaching or the pastor taking the individual aside to talk. Sin must be addressed in the church. A little leaven leavens the whole lump does it not?

Politicians are tools of the world. Politics is where you see a lot of compromise with worldly principles and values. Christian politicians should not compromise one mote with what the world agrees with and condones if it is contrary to God's truth and values. Divorce is something that is rampant in the "professing" church, but that is an issue that should be brought up with the pastor to the two individuals. We should not see a divorce rate this high in the church.
 
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Mitspa

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Divorce is high among Christians. No politicians speak out against it. Not many Christians in general speak out against it, because divorce is actually the highest among evangelical Christians. The only reason I bring this up is that many heterosexual Christians don't speak out against heterosexual marital and sexual sins, but have no issues ranting about the sin of homosexuality. This is why many people who are not believers look at Christians as cherry picking the Bible. It's just an observation. If I do see someone struggling in sin, I'll share my faith experience, and the love of Jesus, and how He changes lives. Maybe we all have a different style, and we have to meet people where they are in their lives.
Again if someone came to the forum and started promoting divorce or cheating ...lots of people would speak up ... and divorce is not a eternal sin that God cant forgive and restore a believer into righteousness . A "Christian" who had no respect for marriage would in fact be in a condition of rebellion against the Will of God and if a true believer? God would deal with that believer as the bible clearly teaches.
 

Deidre

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Regardless if people don't bring it up, we should still speak out against it and not shy away from it.
Homosexuality is actually something that takes a jab at God's order that He established in the Creation. This is why He calls homosexuality an abomination along with some other sins.

I have heard of and seen churches addressing sins in the congregation. Usually via teaching or the pastor taking the individual aside to talk. Sin must be addressed in the church. A little leaven leavens the whole lump does it not?

Politicians are tools of the world. Politics is where you see a lot of compromise with worldly principles and values. Christian politicians should not compromise one mote with what the world agrees with and condones if it is contrary to God's truth and values. Divorce is something that is rampant in the "professing" church, but that is an issue that should be brought up with the pastor to the two individuals. We should not see a divorce rate this high in the church.
Well, at least you know where I'm coming from, thanks for your comment.
 
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Christians are not to endorse nor support sin. If anything people should be telling those involved in homosexual marriages to repent.
 
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RBA238

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While I don’t support gay marriage and realize that it is a sin, I do think that it should be legal. Following the golden rule, we wouldn’t want the government to tell us that we can’t practice Christianity, so why is it our place to tell gay people that they can’t marry the person that they want to? They were given free will just like us, and their judgement day will come. God doesn’t honor those marriages anyway, so you can’t really argue that it degrades traditional marriage. I do disagree with the way that gay marriage was legalized, however; the constitution does not talk about marriage and the supreme court is supposed to base their decisions off of the constitution, so this case had no place in the supreme court. Anyway, just my thoughts. I want to make it completely clear, however, that I do NOT support gay marriage, I just don’t think that it should be illegal.
The things of The World belongs to the World . let the world do what it wants. I serve The Lord and know what is Wrong and what is Right. The people who think this is the way to do things, are fooling themselves. They all need and get converted. God can take away all the perverse behavior and thinking..
 

Deidre

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You got to see the difference in trying to force Christians to approve and even promote a certain sin ..and allowing that the world and people are sinful. We don't have threads that say we need to get behind and approve adultery or fornication ..do we? If we did?..we would have many people speaking up. We have the porn issue brought up a lot in here and ..its already legal ..but in no way should we as Christians promote it.
This is true, but I believe that once people feel the love of Jesus, they will understand why certain acts are sinful. I think that many try to tell people who are not believers that they are sinning, and the message of hope and love is lost. Jesus came to people in love, and also told them to 'go and sin no more.' But, He wasn't in the habit of merely chastising or rebuking, He was in the habit of building relationships with those He wanted to bring to Him. Likewise, we are to not merely chastise, and speak out against sin, we are to be the Light of Christ for those to see, and they too will want to know that Light. It's in that relationship and in that Light, that people's hearts change. This is how I see it. You can witness however you wish, we all have our own style I guess.
 
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No.To be pro-gay would be another way of saying 'pro-lying'. Good question.

Can a mature Christian be pro-gay marriage?

There are a number of individuals within the Church that categorize themselves as evangelicals who are promoting gay marriage.

Many of them are younger Christians, and they tend to be gay or bisexual themselves. However, some churches, as we know, support gay marriage and even gay leadership within the church.


My position is that this is one of the issues which sort out true Christians and organizations that God is working through from those that are not true Christians and organizations that he is not working through. It is going to become plainer and plainer which people and organizations belong to Him and which people and organizations are in rebellion against Him, despite their claims.
 
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Mitspa

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This is true, but I believe that once people feel the love of Jesus, they will understand why certain acts are sinful. I think that many try to tell people who are not believers that they are sinning, and the message of hope and love is lost. Jesus came to people in love, and also told them to 'go and sin no more.' But, He wasn't in the habit of merely chastising or rebuking, He was in the habit of building relationships with those He wanted to bring to Him. Likewise, we are to not merely chastise, and speak out against sin, we are to be the Light of Christ for those to see, and they too will want to know that Light. It's in that relationship and in that Light, that people's hearts change. This is how I see it. You can witness however you wish, we all have our own style I guess.
You are clearly right De...that its Gods love that changes people ...and when most of us on here see someone being judgmental apart from the Love of Christ, I think folks speak up. But that same love also upholds what is good and keeps it pure ..The church must stay pure and learn to deal with sinners from a place of love ... That can look different as each individual is lead by God to witness to sinners.
 
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RBA238

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Luke 6:37-38
[SUP]37 [/SUP]“Do not judge, and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned. [SUP]38 [/SUP]Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.”

We are not to judge the Gay's. Nor are we to judge if they want to marry each other.
I've heard this argument about "Judging" People for years. If they come to Church or attend a Group Bible Study, Would you avoid the subject so noone get's "Offended" or using The Holy Word of God and with Compassion and firm voice warn them that what they are doing is wrong, and tell them how they can rid themselves of this perversion.. Or "Sugarcoat" it and buy into apeasement ?
 

Deidre

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You are clearly right De...that its Gods love that changes people ...and when most of us on here see someone being judgmental apart from the Love of Christ, I think folks speak up. But that same love also upholds what is good and keeps it pure ..The church must stay pure and learn to deal with sinners from a place of love ... That can look different as each individual is lead by God to witness to sinners.
Nicely said. :)
 
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LitaVore

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No. Long and short, just as a Christian who is mature enough to understand sin ( all saved because that's inherant in salvation) can't make justification for sin, including any in their own life.

Now we can be pro-decency towards homosexuals: We shouldn't be theatening, physically harming or mocking them any more than we would do the same to say a drug addict or such. But treating people as The Christ would have us treat them is very different from compromising God's truth. After all, Jesus ate with the sinners and preached to them but he didn't stick around to say 'hey, it doesn't matter in the end because ...you know, whatever".
 
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Luke 6:37-38 [SUP]37 [/SUP]“Do not judge, and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned. [SUP]38 [/SUP]Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.” We are not to judge the Gay's. Nor are we to judge if they want to marry each other.
The Lord allows righteous judgement according to this word. If you have the opportunity to tell them to repent & you don't you will be held accountable as well.
 
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We are to bring the Gospel to the World. Last time i checked the Gays are in this World. We are to bring them the Gospel.

BUT, if we condemn them all the time, what does that do to our witness to them?? We cannot say to them, "accept Jesus", when we are showing no love or mercy towards them.

The Greatest Commandment God ever gave us was to Love our Neighbor as ourselves!

You will be able to bring the Gospel to more people when you treat them with Love. How many people do you think will listen to you when they see you treating them with contempt?
 
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We are to bring the Gospel to the World. Last time i checked the Gays are in this World. We are to bring them the Gospel.

BUT, if we condemn them all the time, what does that do to our witness to them?? We cannot say to them, "accept Jesus", when we are showing no love or mercy towards them.

The Greatest Commandment God ever gave us was to Love our Neighbor as ourselves!

You will be able to bring the Gospel to more people when you treat them with Love. How many people do you think will listen to you when they see you treating them with contempt?
Telling them of their sin & to repent is love. If they wont acknowledge their sin & seek forgiveness for their sin their sins will remain.Yes the gospel is about love but it's also about repentance & living holy for God
 

Bladerunner

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Quite correct and he loves them all the way to the Lake of Fire...His judgements and hatred of SIN is not the debate....someone stating GOD is not love all the time and to say so is false teaching is the debate. If she rushed to answer that's fine, but I am not going to let someone sit here and tell people that GOD IS NOT LOVE, despite the fact he hates sin and will judge it with righteous judgement.

I already used an example of a human Father with his own kids...to which not one of you even cared about.

I am done on this thread.
EPH610: Did I say something wrong to make you leave the thread? I read the article you wrote. I saw no reason to write something against it while at the same time saw not reason to write something in favor of it. It said everything that needed to be said.
 
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dalconn

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marriage is marriage, perversion is perversion.....period
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Divorce is high among Christians. No politicians speak out against it. Not many Christians in general speak out against it, because divorce is actually the highest among evangelical Christians. The only reason I bring this up is that many heterosexual Christians don't speak out against heterosexual marital and sexual sins, but have no issues ranting about the sin of homosexuality. This is why many people who are not believers look at Christians as cherry picking the Bible. It's just an observation. If I do see someone struggling in sin, I'll share my faith experience, and the love of Jesus, and how He changes lives. Maybe we all have a different style, and we have to meet people where they are in their lives.
Although divorce might be a problem too, its certainly not an issue the world is taking up in support of, and its not being used to make Christians look like a bunch of uneducated hateful hicks.

Homosexuality is the "civil rights issue" or our age, so of course people are talking about it. And of course, we should stand on the word of God.
 

Yeraza_Bats

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We are to bring the Gospel to the World. Last time i checked the Gays are in this World. We are to bring them the Gospel.

BUT, if we condemn them all the time, what does that do to our witness to them?? We cannot say to them, "accept Jesus", when we are showing no love or mercy towards them.

The Greatest Commandment God ever gave us was to Love our Neighbor as ourselves!

You will be able to bring the Gospel to more people when you treat them with Love. How many people do you think will listen to you when they see you treating them with contempt?
If you help them come to Jesus, you are going to have to tell them that homosexuality is wrong and they need to repent.

And no, we dont leave them for the holy spirit to do that, I had claimed I accepted Jesus for years before I did, still living as transgender and homosexual. No one ever told me about Deut 22:5 and I never knew until I went through something terrible and was shown the verse. There is nothing in the bible about not telling others about the danger of sin and leaving that part of the job for the holy spirit. In fact we are even told that if we do not warn others, their blood will be on our hands. That teaching is not biblical.