Should I give him another chance... NO
I am so afraid he will hit me again... HE WILL. RUN AWAY.
May our Almighty Father blessed your new relationship!
No! Do not run away, this is not fleeing some girl coming on to you like Potiphar's wife did Joseph, and, he fled. THIS is marriage, and, what God has put together let no man tear apart. Scripture? You bet ! Now, you're husband is fighting for your marriage , he's made mistakes and,regardless of what you want to assume, mrspickle, YOU are seeing him ADMIT fault, he's told you God's 'changing' him. OK, so we're to this point. Now what? How does he show this change, how does he stop hitting you, why is he even hitting you, 20 years is a long time together and KIDS is reality. You are not in a relationship you are in what God PUT together: marriage.
What you and your husband need to do is counseling , the Lord leads, He can WORK through both Christian and non-Christian counselors. His word and His Holy Spirit, who is IN you, will guide you to His truth and His plan for your life, AND your husband.
YOUR husband MUST stop the abuse, WHY has he hit you? NO reasons are good for husband hitting wife. Period! But, what's triggered his episodes of anger fits? He NEEDS to get his fleshly actions there under control, and, he needs to come clean about the real reason WHY he has SAVED email messages of naked women. The Lord leads. I am praying for you to go to your knees and pray now, for His way to be heard, for His still, small, voice to minister to you His will for your life. Don't ever deftly for abuse but don't ever give up on God, until He TAKES you our of that marriage. IF your husband will not write you a letter of how he's changed, how he got naked picture on phone saved, how he truly feels about his past actions of ABUSE toward you, the next step is counseling. And, IF his mouth says 'God is changing me' , he will, indeed, be open to going to counseling. But, marriage IS forever, until He changes things. One last thing: STOP IMMEDIATELY THAT RELATIONSHIP (AFFAIR?) WITH THAT OTHER PERSON. THAT WILL KILL YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD YOUR HUSBAND. AND I'M NEARLY 100% SURE THAT 'NEW GUY' IS NOT RIGHT, NO, I AM 100% SURE, ADULTERY IS WRONG. IT'S wrong in God's eyes and you speak so highly of not wanting 'God to hate me,' well, then, that is good, but you need to tell your husband, ' you touch me one more time and I'm leaving for good,' and, you'be maybe said that, good. BUT, right now you need to pray and the Lord will.lead, I believe you should NOT go back to your house either until he goes to counseling and you BRING ACCOUNTABILITY OF ABUSE AND NAKED EMAIL.PHONE PICS AND YOUR AFFAIR TOO ALL TO THE TABLE. The Lord will be there for you, Scripture says this, milady, from Psalm 46:1 : I am an ever-present help in times of trouble.
. Blessings, pickled, seek Him, right now, with ALL your heart. Jeremiah 29:11-13
It is terrible when a spouse abuses us, and I am sorry you are experiencing this first hand.
Perhaps the bigger issue is your belief that divorce is a ticket to hell?
Remember how much God loves you; the choices your wife makes are not your responsibility.
If you don't think God has released you to obtain divorce, I respect that. Its not your job to save your wife, its Gods.
It is his desire , way more than yours, to have her inherit the kingdom.
I honestly hope she makes that choice.
blessings.
Dan, the Lord leads, He wants good things for you, keep Him strong in your life. Your longevity to keep your hope in your marriage is admirable. The Lord leads us through His spirit in us, follow Him. I'm pratingvfor you and your wife. I pray many on here yldo and you are part of church. God is in control. He reigns.