I dont love my wife...

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Demi777

Demi777

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this remnded me so much of by father that I could puke. Before I was born he was all happy and do. When I was there he wouldnt come back from Kuwait and cheated and didnt give a dime about us anymore. Just left and went sleeping around partying while I was dying of fever. He didnt wanna take his responsibillity either. He always still to this day is only about himself. what he wants and needs and thinks he deserves.. His daughter aint important.. Not even talk about her unless to make himself look better. Bah Jesus..

kaylagrl said:
Not to discount the other great posts but once again sis you have gotten to the heart of the issue. Wise beyond your years dear sister. Well spoken.


ps, must spread some rep around, but I will get you :)
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tourist

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You have had 14 years to think about this and yet you decided to marry her. I see nothing in your post that would justify divorce. My advice is to put God at the center of your relationship and pray for guidance and strength. Your wife should join you in this prayer, but if not, do it by yourself. Pray daily for your wife and your marriage. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
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Demi777 said:
this remnded me so much of by father that I could puke. Before I was born he was all happy and do. When I was there he wouldnt come back from Kuwait and cheated and didnt give a dime about us anymore. Just left and went sleeping around partying while I was dying of fever. He didnt wanna take his responsibillity either. He always still to this day is only about himself. what he wants and needs and thinks he deserves.. His daughter aint important.. Not even talk about her unless to make himself look better. Bah Jesus..
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Its a great pity that some people never leave the party,they never grow up.
 
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WarriorForChrist

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kaylagrl said:
Not to discount the other great posts but once again sis you have gotten to the heart of the issue. Wise beyond your years dear sister. Well spoken.


ps, must spread some rep around, but I will get you :)
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Added Rep for you
 
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LaurenTM

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I feel like I deserve better than he
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maybe someone just like you?

God loved us while we were still sinners

He loves both of you

It's a shame that lust can produce a baby and love can do the same

wondering what the message is there
 
Demi777

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notmyown said:
my first thought-- aw! :)

my second thought-- hey, yeah, i love your wife, too. ♥
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Thats just making my creepo meter rise and explode right there
 
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notmyown

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Demi777 said:

Thats just making my creepo meter rise and explode right there
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well, i've considered her a friend for a while now, and i love her. :)

not the way Tourist does, obviously... but i do love JL, and i miss her, too. :(
 
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1 Peter 3:7 ►
New International Version
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
 
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mar09

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God, just hear and reach j214 where he is, as he confesses what's in his heart. You alone are able to put love in our hearts, just as Jesus loved and showed that it can be done. How we need You, not just day by day, but every hour. Please hear and have mercy, and grant that relationship be fixed as Jesus becomes the center of their lives.
 
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Rosesrock

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You know I've thought a lot about this today. And the Lord showed me a few things.
We started out on lust too. I was pregnant before I was married. I lost my dad when I was 14 and my husband didn't have a relationship with his father.
We too had /have struggled we fight through. Did I feel at one time or another that I didn't love him. Heck yeah. But I love my God more.
We walked to the divorce door and God slammed it in our faces saying.....y'all have got to be kidding me.
Selfishness abounds in these situations and I think what we're all trying to say is the answers are in Christ. And only him.
Not excuses or justifications of why you're thinking a certain way.

The one verse that makes so much sense to me is....
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean NOT to thine own understanding in ALL thy ways acknowledge HIM and HE shall direct thy path

Dwell on and in this verse.

Also sometimes we dont know where to start. And I find this verse helpful to get back to a clear mindset....
Ps 61:2
From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I

When things were going really bad with us.....I prayed these two verses.

After a year of praying and getting close to my God, me and hub started actually talking and he shared that he too prayed these verses.
This showed me that as we we're apart we were also together.
Fyi I was slower to come around. I'm stubborn that way. I'm so glad my hub prayed, believed, and was diligent. He didn't always love me. But he believed the promises of God.
 
tourist

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notmyown said:
well, i've considered her a friend for a while now, and i love her. :)

not the way Tourist does, obviously... but i do love JL, and i miss her, too. :(
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We both love you too. :)
 
Oncefallen

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J214 said:
What do yall think..
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I think that you most likely made this post hoping that people would pat you on the back and tell you all about how sorry they are for your terrible circumstances and that you are justified in leaving your wife.

More importantly, God thinks:

Matthew 5:31&32
You are only justified in divorcing your wife if she in actively engaging in unrepentant adultery.

Ephesians 5:25-33
You are actively sinning against God (and your wife) because of your lack of love for her. God didn't say to love your wife as long as she is treating you properly, He said to love your wife as Christ loved the church.
 
JesusLives

JesusLives

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notmyown said:
my first thought-- aw! :)

my second thought-- hey, yeah, i love your wife, too. ♥
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So sweet of you and love you too. Sorry some peeps seem not to understand friendship and that we can love each other as sisters and brothers in Christ. Nothing creepy about that.

To Original Post..... Maybe you should learn to love your wife. Love is suppose to be unconditional and seems like there are a lot of conditions you are both putting on each other. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 and go tell your wife you love her.
 
Tinkerbell725

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You don't love each other because if you do, you will not cheat. But if you repent and mend your ways God can fix your relationship and love will grow back. You will not find love elsewhere outside of your marriage because God will never approve of an adulterous relationship.
 
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Ugly

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Oncefallen said:
I think that you most likely made this post hoping that people would pat you on the back and tell you all about how sorry they are for your terrible circumstances and that you are justified in leaving your wife.

More importantly, God thinks:

Matthew 5:31&32
You are only justified in divorcing your wife if she in actively engaging in unrepentant adultery.

Ephesians 5:25-33
You are actively sinning against God (and your wife) because of your lack of love for her. God didn't say to love your wife as long as she is treating you properly, He said to love your wife as Christ loved the church.
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And the church often mistreats Christ, so it makes this comparison that much more valid.
 
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