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I sent you the wrong link here is the correct one I do apologize sir.Transformation Garden
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ReinItIn, You ask why I am caring for the children and my wife works full time. As I mentioned in an earlier message. I had gone back to work as an accountant with a very good company when we had our second son. My wife began to experience severe post pardum symptoms and required a leave of absence, professional counseling and medication. She was not safe to be by herself or with the children. I resigned from my job to care for her after family and friends had volunteered all they could. Every since the birth of our second child she has had difficulty in caring for the boys by herself. I left two other jobs since that time for the same reason. Trust me when I say I would rather my wife be at home raising the boys. She was asked recently by a counselor if she would like to stay home and care for our sons full time and her response was "no". I am a workaholic and would have no problem working 2 or 3 jobs if I had to so that she could be home.
I do understand God has an order for things and that following that order yields life's best results. This has not been easy for me either. I was very successful in what I was doing and was even offer a promotion to stay with the company before resigning. I have sacrificed everything, career, hobbies, financial gain, to keep my family as safe as I could. I feel absolutely drained from this experiencing and often feel like I have nothing left...but I keep going with the knowledge our Father provides and that we will get passed this. So, that is why this hurts even more for me to hear her say she wants out. I am currently working just part-time, going to school part-time and caring for the boys and our home.
I am not angry at my wife. I love her and will do and have done anything for her. I'm not perfect and have confessed to God and her my shortcomings. I am not a man who has been stagnant in his walk through life. I have always tried to listen to my wife's needs and concerns always trying to improve. And that's the thing...she would acknowledge that much. I am in constant prayer and meditation for the healing of our marriage. I trust God with my life and am spending my time focusing on that relationship and allowing it to present itself in our marriage.
I really appreciate your feedback and everything you have said makes so much sense to me. I do want to and have been working at speaking to her heart and not just doing things for her. I just pray that she realizes that and can get to a point that she will at least consider some type of work towards reconciliation.
I do understand God has an order for things and that following that order yields life's best results. This has not been easy for me either. I was very successful in what I was doing and was even offer a promotion to stay with the company before resigning. I have sacrificed everything, career, hobbies, financial gain, to keep my family as safe as I could. I feel absolutely drained from this experiencing and often feel like I have nothing left...but I keep going with the knowledge our Father provides and that we will get passed this. So, that is why this hurts even more for me to hear her say she wants out. I am currently working just part-time, going to school part-time and caring for the boys and our home.
I am not angry at my wife. I love her and will do and have done anything for her. I'm not perfect and have confessed to God and her my shortcomings. I am not a man who has been stagnant in his walk through life. I have always tried to listen to my wife's needs and concerns always trying to improve. And that's the thing...she would acknowledge that much. I am in constant prayer and meditation for the healing of our marriage. I trust God with my life and am spending my time focusing on that relationship and allowing it to present itself in our marriage.
I really appreciate your feedback and everything you have said makes so much sense to me. I do want to and have been working at speaking to her heart and not just doing things for her. I just pray that she realizes that and can get to a point that she will at least consider some type of work towards reconciliation.
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Hello Steve
the problem is not prayer pls just go back to those things you were doing before marriage i bet you everything will be ok you stoped attending fellowship and the enemy came; in the bible says while men slept an enemy came and sowed so is time to root out everying God did not sow in your marriage by your actions
God Bless
the problem is not prayer pls just go back to those things you were doing before marriage i bet you everything will be ok you stoped attending fellowship and the enemy came; in the bible says while men slept an enemy came and sowed so is time to root out everying God did not sow in your marriage by your actions
God Bless
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silverdon, I agree and felt a lot of shame that I was not the spiritual leader in the home I was called to be. I commited to going back to church and renew Christian fellowships the week before my wife told me she wanted a divorce. I have gone to church every week since and praise God she has attended with me except for 3 days (various reasons for missing). I pray she continues to go even though she is still pulling away slowly. I believe and have faith God can restore her desire for me and our marriage and continue to pray that He will soften her heart and seek Him and forgive me for not being the husband God called me to be. I will examine the choices made in the last year or two because I believe there are some things that need to be undone. Things that do not bring glory to Him and therefore our marriage.
Thank you,
Thank you,
Amazon.com: The Complete Husband: A Practical Guide to Biblical Husbanding (9781879737358): Lou Priolo: Books
I've just finished reading this book and it really was an eye opener. Both to the husband's role, and how to deal with his shortcomings. How to treat your wife properly as the Bible instructs.
I've just finished reading this book and it really was an eye opener. Both to the husband's role, and how to deal with his shortcomings. How to treat your wife properly as the Bible instructs.
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To update this is the third two day a week leave the boys and I have done in our four week trial period. My wife says it is good for her and is giving her time to think. We have had fewer discussions of divorce but no signs she wants to try to work things out. She does not wear her ring and stays out late with friends I do not know.
I remain even more faithful to prayer and seeking God's will in my life. I know He is there and doing a good work in me. He is showing me things about myself and my marriage that need to be addressed.
We will be going to church again together as a family....Thank you Jesus.
Thank you again to everyone who has prayed and continues to pray for us. I came to this site feeling very desparate and alone. Over the last several weeks with prayer and counsel from you and others I have reconnected to our wonderful Heavenly Father and the body of believers. While I never completely gave up praying to God I did allow my life to interfere with my relationship with Him. This is something we should never allow.
I remain even more faithful to prayer and seeking God's will in my life. I know He is there and doing a good work in me. He is showing me things about myself and my marriage that need to be addressed.
We will be going to church again together as a family....Thank you Jesus.
Thank you again to everyone who has prayed and continues to pray for us. I came to this site feeling very desparate and alone. Over the last several weeks with prayer and counsel from you and others I have reconnected to our wonderful Heavenly Father and the body of believers. While I never completely gave up praying to God I did allow my life to interfere with my relationship with Him. This is something we should never allow.
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Praise God Stephen it sounds like you are moving in the right direction and do not worry about the wife God gave you. She is a Child of Gods and He is in control. I have a couple verses that where given to me this week by some great friends. Revelation 2:9 and Nehemiah 8:10. I found them to be really powerful and the people that gave them to me are just great people and God used them to give me these verses. Stay strong in your faith with the Lord and remember that He is always in control. The Lord is not going to make this decision easy on her. Keep praying
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I would like to thank you for your prayers to brother. Its amazing what God can do with a little prayer. For today is the Day of Lord, therefor do not have sorrow, the joy of the Lord is your strength. that is paraphrasing Nehemiah 8:10 its not exactly right but it might help through out the day brother.
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I have no experience whatsoever......but you sound like a really good husband....... i think it's just hormones..... I know there are times that I get really depressed thinking I have a good reason and later i realize it's all hormones.... so just keep reminding her that you love her, and don't just show her but tell her as well... so that she may know, not think, that you love her..
But yes the devil loves taking advantage of women's hormones... so don't forget to keeep praying...just like all other naturall trends, God is greater than them... so simple chemicals called hormones have no right to give your marriage a hard time...
But yes the devil loves taking advantage of women's hormones... so don't forget to keeep praying...just like all other naturall trends, God is greater than them... so simple chemicals called hormones have no right to give your marriage a hard time...
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Please pray for me that God will continue to show me the things I have done and not done in fulfilling God's requirements of a husband. It's been revealed to me that I lack patience....and in a big way. I know friends have told me I am more patient than ever...but I still need God's help in this matter. I continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Heavenly Father and I trust and love you Jesus.
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yw,,,i've been following along in this thread for some time now but have had nothing different to offer than what has already been said,,,,i've prayed for the right words but never had an answer of yet,,,but i do feel for your plight and i do pray for you,,,i think it sucks what you're going through and i wish it to be all better
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I thought of what to say, but I could not say it better:2Pet 1:4 Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
2Pet 1:5 And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge;
2Pet 1:6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness;
2Pet 1:7 And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
2Pet 1:8 For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
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Father God, I lift up Stephen to your Glory and ask that their be healing and forgiveness for them that ask for you help, restore sound mind to each of them, Lord Jesus, that they may get on their knee's and rebuke the one who destroys marriages and try to lead people away from your mercy and grace. Let them know Lord that you are there with them, station angels all around them to protect them against the principalities of this world..You are the everlasting God you defend the weak when they seek you.. Thank you Lord Jesus. In the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. AMEN!!!