Pregnancy and Worried

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Willie-T said:
Seriously? The excuse the BF is hiding behind right now is $$$. The very last thing they need to do is spend a bunch on the farce of a Church wedding. They are in trouble... BIGGLY! And they need to face facts and learn that they will have next to nothing to spend on anything extra for at least five years. And act like they know it.
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Yeah the child will definitely take all extra money after it is born. They should both accept that and go to the courthouse as soon as possible. I'm just rebelling against the father's threats, but the reality is there will be no money for the wedding after the child is born, and if there is its taking money out of it's mouth.
 
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Tommy379 said:
Look, this is the crap or get off the pot moment. Baby is coming. They either are ready to marry right now, or they really never will be. If they never will be, time to move on.
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If they aren't ready now they never will be? That makes no sense whatsoever.
 
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And, for Pete's sake.... Don't go getting pregnant again as soon as you feel free to go at it again.
 
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Lighthearted said:
I don't coddle anyone btw. I just try to look at Christ's example. He accomplished EVERYTHING calmly, with loving words of wisdom and peace in His heart. I'm betting He even had a small smile on His face when He spoke to people. That's who I want to be.
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He took time to make His own whip before clearing the temple with it :)
 
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Lighthearted said:
I don't coddle anyone btw. I just try to look at Christ's example. He accomplished EVERYTHING calmly, with loving words of wisdom and peace in His heart. I'm betting He even had a small smile on His face when He spoke to people. That's who I want to be.
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Jesus made a lot of people mad, enough so that a many of them wanted Jesus crucified. maybe he didn't present with the demeanor that we would think with our modern understanding of how good and nice people should be.
 
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Many people making many assumptions about her exact situation. Not one of these people are speaking off an ounce of fact, just pulling things out of thin air and declaring themselves correct. Don't listen to them.
 
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And, what is this nonsense that he wants to wait ANOTHER five months after the baby is born to get married????
 
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Ugly said:
If they aren't ready now they never will be? That makes no sense whatsoever.
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Why not? The baby is coming. They either make a family or not.
 
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Willie-T said:
And, what is this nonsense that he wants to wait ANOTHER five months after the baby is born to get married????
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It is nonsense. I really do think the wedding photos of the bride with the baby bump and her daddy holding a shotgun are cute..... I'm not joking.
 
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Tommy379 said:
It is nonsense. I really do think the wedding photos of the bride with the baby bump and her daddy holding a shotgun are cute..... I'm not joking.
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Tommy379 said:
Why not? The baby is coming. They either make a family or not.
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The (false) logic that if they can't now they never can makes sense to you? Obviously her bf has a plan in place and it takes more time. Why does it only work if it's "now", but can't work at a later time?

And her real focus is her father attempting to force her into a situation where she feels she needs to choose which person she loves is going to be in her life. Her question is more aimed at that and how to resolve it. She already knows what she wants and someone is trying to force her to do something else.
Perhaps focus more on helping her resolve that and less on acting like her father and telling her how to run her life. She didn't ask for that.
 
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Ugly said:
The (false) logic that if they can't now they never can makes sense to you? Obviously her bf has a plan in place and it takes more time. Why does it only work if it's "now", but can't work at a later time?

And her real focus is her father attempting to force her into a situation where she feels she needs to choose which person she loves is going to be in her life. Her question is more aimed at that and how to resolve it. She already knows what she wants and someone is trying to force her to do something else.
Perhaps focus more on helping her resolve that and less on acting like her father and telling her how to run her life. She didn't ask for that.
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I'm telling you, 21 year old guys don't have a plan. If he did, she wouldn't be pregnant right now. When real men knock up a gal, he marries her. If she was good enough for the sack, she is good enough for the home. Putting off the marriage is like propping open the exit door.
I know this girl already has this concern, because she came here and posted about it.
 
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I don't coddle anyone btw. I just try to look at Christ's example. He accomplished EVERYTHING calmly, with loving words of wisdom and peace in His heart. I'm betting He even had a small smile on His face when He spoke to people. Save three instances. That's who I want to be like.
 
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Magenta said:
He took time to make His own whip before clearing the temple with it :)
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Yes...that's one of the instances. The other was when He wept. The other was when He was crucified...especially the most painful moment when He was forsaken hanging there for us... to finish it.
 
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Lighthearted said:
Well..lady blue...I wasn't talking to you. What you said to her wasn't harsh but true. This thread reminds me of another not so long ago...I wonder how that young woman is after all the loving advice she got.
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Doing good actually. Her kids got scholarships for a Christian school and she's looking for a job. :)
 
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Magenta said:
I wonder how many people would have married had they not been pressured to do so...
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I think we can all agree, the rightbthing to do is get married. Maybe it's part of the job of the church fellowship, parents, friends, and complete strangers on an internet chat forum, to pressure loved ones to do the right thing. But I'm no expert, I'm a one time loser already.
 
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Lighthearted said:
Yes...that's one of the instances. The other was when He wept. The other was when He was crucified...especially the most painful moment when He was forsaken hanging there for us... to finish it.
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I wonder how loving He felt to call Peter Satan... and how loving did it feel to Peter, to be called such by Jesus? Anyways, I don't think Jesus did everything with a smile on His face. or with absolute calmness. I know people like to portray Him that way, and with blue eyes and blonde hair, too.
 
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Magenta said:
I wonder how many people would have married had they not been pressured to do so...
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I wonder how many people wouldn't have divorced later on after being forced to marry after bearing more children.
 
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