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Hi,
Just had a look at the ages of those on here , I'm one of the older ones and yes have many many friends both male and female I don't have issues with I cant have males as friends maybe I'm just old enough to know I would have any male friends wont myself as a partner , so I'm ruled out of having a male wont me any way .
So at 68 I have an advantage , Love it .....
...noeleena...
Just had a look at the ages of those on here , I'm one of the older ones and yes have many many friends both male and female I don't have issues with I cant have males as friends maybe I'm just old enough to know I would have any male friends wont myself as a partner , so I'm ruled out of having a male wont me any way .
So at 68 I have an advantage , Love it .....
...noeleena...
I think it really depends. How did you become friends in the first place. Most of the time, guys have a romantic interest in a woman, and the woman doesn't have those same interests in the guy. so the woman puts the guy in the FRIENDSHIP category. He may act like a good friend, but he's waiting for that chance to get his foot in the door with the female for either a sexual encounter or an all out bf and gf relationship. I personally believe that this is how the majority of men and women become friends.
Now, if the woman AND man never had any sexual or romantic interest in each other I suppose it could be ok. But I really think that is a rare case. Most men and women become friends because the man had a romantic or sexual interest in the woman to begin with. Now in these situations I believe that they can still be friends. But only temporary friends until the woman gets into a relationship. The reason I say this is because for one, I think it is disrespectful to your boyfriend or husband to be hanging out with men that are trying to either get into your pants, or waiting for your bf or husband to mess up so they can get their chance with you. Know what I mean?
And the other reason I say this, is because most women I've encountered don't know how to pick decent male friends. I remember I had a girlfriend that I allowed to have male friends and these male friends caused a lot of problems in the relationship. For one , a guy would get in my girlfriend's ear and try to sabatoge and break up our relationship. He would even tell lies to get this accomplished. Another story I have is too inappropriate for CC.
From my experience a woman's male friends are usually nothing but trouble. Although there are exceptions to the rule. My opinion is that when you get into a relationship, you either drop your male friends, or both of you form a relationship with the guy if he is cool.
I think men and women can be friends but it is rare. Because 9 times out of 10 the guy wants something from the female, and that is how they became friends in the first place.
Ladies, if you disagree with me. Go up to one of your guy friends. Tell him you are starting to feel attracted to him. See how he reacts.
This is why men and women normally can't be friends. How would you like it if your man was hanging with a woman that was waiting for her chance to steal her away from you? Disrespectful? I think so. Now, if he's not attracted to you, most likely he won't try to be your friend. It happens but it is rare. Usually women hang with women and gay men and men hang with men. I know it feels nice and it's a nice ego boost to have men attracted to you vying for your attention. Nothing wrong with that. I just personally don't believe in keeping these guys around after you get into a relationship. But that's just me.
Now this is just my opinion on how the majority of single male and female friendships start. Although it is possible that this isn't the case, I think in reality that is how at least 90 percent of male and female friendships start. You could have a male friend at work or whatever, but do you actually think this guy is going on lunch dates with you, hang out with you all the time, et etc etc if he didn't find you attractive. Most guys will be friends with the woman they aren't attracted to at work or whatever the case may be, but it won't leave the work place unless they are trying to get at you. It may not be politically correct to say this, but I think 9 times out of 10 the guy wants you. He just thinks if he stays friends with you long enough you'll eventually come around. That's my opinion. Does anyone disagree.
Now, if the woman AND man never had any sexual or romantic interest in each other I suppose it could be ok. But I really think that is a rare case. Most men and women become friends because the man had a romantic or sexual interest in the woman to begin with. Now in these situations I believe that they can still be friends. But only temporary friends until the woman gets into a relationship. The reason I say this is because for one, I think it is disrespectful to your boyfriend or husband to be hanging out with men that are trying to either get into your pants, or waiting for your bf or husband to mess up so they can get their chance with you. Know what I mean?
And the other reason I say this, is because most women I've encountered don't know how to pick decent male friends. I remember I had a girlfriend that I allowed to have male friends and these male friends caused a lot of problems in the relationship. For one , a guy would get in my girlfriend's ear and try to sabatoge and break up our relationship. He would even tell lies to get this accomplished. Another story I have is too inappropriate for CC.
From my experience a woman's male friends are usually nothing but trouble. Although there are exceptions to the rule. My opinion is that when you get into a relationship, you either drop your male friends, or both of you form a relationship with the guy if he is cool.
I think men and women can be friends but it is rare. Because 9 times out of 10 the guy wants something from the female, and that is how they became friends in the first place.
Ladies, if you disagree with me. Go up to one of your guy friends. Tell him you are starting to feel attracted to him. See how he reacts.
This is why men and women normally can't be friends. How would you like it if your man was hanging with a woman that was waiting for her chance to steal her away from you? Disrespectful? I think so. Now, if he's not attracted to you, most likely he won't try to be your friend. It happens but it is rare. Usually women hang with women and gay men and men hang with men. I know it feels nice and it's a nice ego boost to have men attracted to you vying for your attention. Nothing wrong with that. I just personally don't believe in keeping these guys around after you get into a relationship. But that's just me.
Now this is just my opinion on how the majority of single male and female friendships start. Although it is possible that this isn't the case, I think in reality that is how at least 90 percent of male and female friendships start. You could have a male friend at work or whatever, but do you actually think this guy is going on lunch dates with you, hang out with you all the time, et etc etc if he didn't find you attractive. Most guys will be friends with the woman they aren't attracted to at work or whatever the case may be, but it won't leave the work place unless they are trying to get at you. It may not be politically correct to say this, but I think 9 times out of 10 the guy wants you. He just thinks if he stays friends with you long enough you'll eventually come around. That's my opinion. Does anyone disagree.
And i have had many female friends at work or at school that I wasn't attracted to. But it did not leave school or work. I don't know why it is that way, but it just seems that that's the way it is. Guys aren't trying to go out on private lunch dates and to events with their female friends that they aren't attracted to. Am I wrong for saying this?
You haven't seen the things I've seen. Well, maybe u have. I see many stunningly beautiful women with no brains, surrounded by a bunch of male suitors that she says are like her brothers, while some alpha male is busy messing her hair up behind closed doors. The male "friends or brothers" treat her like she is the Queen of America, paying for her stuff, telling her about the other woman they saw Mr. Alpha with (because they are so concerned about her well being :saracasm) hoping they can get what mr. Alpha is getting. Mr. Alpha knows ms. pretty is just a jezebel with no brains. The male suitors will do almost anything to get Ms Pretty because she is so pretty. The male suitors will take any kind of disrespect and bull crap from Ms. Pretty under the guise of being a gentleman. Mr. Alpha, unlike the male suitors, lets her know Mr. Alpha ain't yo play toy. Don't get messed up!!!!! The male suitors despise Mr. Alpha. They would give their left leg to get Ms. Pretty. Mr. Alpha doesn't want Ms. Pretty like the shallow male suitors that place too much emphasis on looks. Mr. Alpha knows their is something missing out of the equation. She doesn't seem to have a brain. So Mr. Alpha goes on a dangerous quest to find her brain. But he can't find it. Mr. Alpha gives up and eventually get's tired of Ms. Pretty. He's on to the next woman.
Ms. Pretty ends up getting knocked up by a few Mr. Alpha's out of wedlock. Now, she is not Ms. Pretty. Her name changes to Ms. Baby Momma. The alpha males don't want Ms. Pretty anymore because she has several children by other men. Now, Ms. Pretty must settle for one of her male suitors because The alphas don't want to take care of another man's kids. She remains unmarried for a long time. settles for one of the male suitors because that's the end of the story. One of the male suitors finally got what he always wanted. Ms. Pretty. And they live........................unhappily ever after. They get a divorce.
My personal opinion is brains are more important. When Nicky Minaj and Meek Mill got together the world was acting like he was so LUCKY. The world places too much value on looks. But their is an old saying, "Wherever there is a beautiful woman, there is a man that is tired of her." Of course looks still have value and are important. All I'm saying is when picking a spouse, make sure she has more to bring to the table in a relationship then just a pretty face. Outward beauty is not a measure of inward beauty, but some people are so worried about outward beauty they will wife up anything just because she looks good. I would rather be with a mud duck with a good heart then a jezebel with a pretty face.