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Trying hard to conceal my hurt today. 
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Trying hard to conceal my hurt today.
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Trying hard to conceal my hurt today.
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
she's probably on some crazy auto-pilot and not really thinking through the gravity of these choices. or maybe she just caved on something and now has too large of a mess to try to rectify it.
it sounds like you've been a wonderful friend, and i hope you're able to have a heart to heart (at some point) and come to a meaningful resolution of those hurt feelings.
in other news... i'm off to hike! have a lovely afternoon. : )
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Trying hard to conceal my hurt today.
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
Today, my best friend is getting married, and as I've said before, I'm her maid of honor. Yesterday I found out that some of my most highly anticipated maid-of-honor duties were passed off to a girl she's only known since May. These are behind the-scenes duties, things that involve one on one intimate moments with the bride...like helping her into her dress. She hasn't even let me see her dress, but I just found out this other girl has seen it multiple times and was brought along to all alteration/fittings appoinents. She gets to help my friend into her dress and ride in the limo with her to the ceremony site. What do I get to do? I and the bridesmaids have been ordered to WALK to the ceremony venue BEFORE the bride even gets into her dress. I don't get to see in her gown until she walks down the aisle. On a practical note, this is disastrous, because I have Been told how heavy the dress is, and I haven't had a chance to practice maneuvering the 12-foot-long train. Even her groom questioned her. "Um, can you practice walking around in the dress with Hallie adjusting the train?" My friend: "oh no it'll be fine. She's leaving before I even put it on". Groom: "shes your maid of honor! What are you thinking?"
I know that in the overall big picture, this doesn't matter. What matters is she's marrying a wonderful man. I'm sure she just got swept up in the insane planning process and wasn't thinking straight..because back when she first asked me to be MOH, we talked about all the stuff I would do and she knew how excited I was.
That said, I'd be lying if i said this didn't hurt. A lot. I feel like a performer instead of a MOH. Looking back at the last 8 months, all I've been asked to do is pay tons of money for things and show up at the ceremony and stand there and look pretty. Put on a costume, play your part, put on a show. I was supposed to walk this journey with her, but instead all of the most precious moments have been shared with this other girl.
And what's worse is that I need to temporarily put my pain aside because I have to give my heartfelt MOH speech at the reception about how great of a friend she is.
I tried to be honest with the bride about how I felt, while trying not to sound whiny. There was no genuine remorse. She brushed off my questions and my feelings as if I had just told her something non-essential. my whole family and my fiancé are telling me to take back my offer to have her as MY maid of honor. :/
*curls up in a ball and tries not to cry*
I still haven't caught up on anything here on CC, but we finally got our internet/wifi today so sometime soon I hope to see what's been happening in the few days I've been gone.
The job is going very well. I like the company values and they seem to really appreciate their employees and be very understandable. I have met a few other Christians, as well. I live SUPER close to the building, from the time I walk out the door, get in my car, drive there, park, walk to the building, and am back where I need to be, it's about 5 minutes or so (depending on traffic). I am thankful for that, because I can go home to eat lunch!
I came in late to training. Three other girls started a week before me, so for 2 days I got one-on-one training to help catch me up. My mind was in information overload and probably will be for the next 7 months or so. It's a long training period, but I am glad that they want us fully prepared before we are on our own.
I have a cubicle. It's not terrible, and we are allowed to decorate it, so I plan on having a super cute cubicle. I have to, or else it will drive me crazy that it's not homey.
I am about 99% unpacked/organized. A few little things here or there but by the end of this weekend, I will be 100% settled. I am doing well. It has been quite a smooth transition for me. I do miss where I was, but it's been a great start here, so far.
The job is going very well. I like the company values and they seem to really appreciate their employees and be very understandable. I have met a few other Christians, as well.
I live SUPER close to the building, from the time I walk out the door, get in my car, drive there, park, walk to the building, and am back where I need to be, it's about 5 minutes or so (depending on traffic). I am thankful for that, because I can go home to eat lunch! I came in late to training. Three other girls started a week before me, so for 2 days I got one-on-one training to help catch me up. My mind was in information overload and probably will be for the next 7 months or so. It's a long training period, but I am glad that they want us fully prepared before we are on our own.
I have a cubicle. It's not terrible, and we are allowed to decorate it, so I plan on having a super cute cubicle. I have to, or else it will drive me crazy that it's not homey.
I am about 99% unpacked/organized. A few little things here or there but by the end of this weekend, I will be 100% settled. I am doing well. It has been quite a smooth transition for me. I do miss where I was, but it's been a great start here, so far.
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Even though she is under a lot of stress, the way she has been treating you is hurtful. I'm sorry to hear that this is happening. I know how hurtful it feels when close friends are insensitive towards you. Do not feel obligated to make her your maid of honor. Choose someone you know who would do it because they love you so. Good luck Love, wipe those tears and smile, I have a feeling that she is the one missing out by shutting you out. <3
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I still haven't caught up on anything here on CC, but we finally got our internet/wifi today so sometime soon I hope to see what's been happening in the few days I've been gone.
The job is going very well. I like the company values and they seem to really appreciate their employees and be very understandable. I have met a few other Christians, as well. I live SUPER close to the building, from the time I walk out the door, get in my car, drive there, park, walk to the building, and am back where I need to be, it's about 5 minutes or so (depending on traffic). I am thankful for that, because I can go home to eat lunch!
I came in late to training. Three other girls started a week before me, so for 2 days I got one-on-one training to help catch me up. My mind was in information overload and probably will be for the next 7 months or so. It's a long training period, but I am glad that they want us fully prepared before we are on our own.
I have a cubicle. It's not terrible, and we are allowed to decorate it, so I plan on having a super cute cubicle. I have to, or else it will drive me crazy that it's not homey.
I am about 99% unpacked/organized. A few little things here or there but by the end of this weekend, I will be 100% settled. I am doing well. It has been quite a smooth transition for me. I do miss where I was, but it's been a great start here, so far.
The job is going very well. I like the company values and they seem to really appreciate their employees and be very understandable. I have met a few other Christians, as well.
I live SUPER close to the building, from the time I walk out the door, get in my car, drive there, park, walk to the building, and am back where I need to be, it's about 5 minutes or so (depending on traffic). I am thankful for that, because I can go home to eat lunch! I came in late to training. Three other girls started a week before me, so for 2 days I got one-on-one training to help catch me up. My mind was in information overload and probably will be for the next 7 months or so. It's a long training period, but I am glad that they want us fully prepared before we are on our own.
I have a cubicle. It's not terrible, and we are allowed to decorate it, so I plan on having a super cute cubicle. I have to, or else it will drive me crazy that it's not homey.
I am about 99% unpacked/organized. A few little things here or there but by the end of this weekend, I will be 100% settled. I am doing well. It has been quite a smooth transition for me. I do miss where I was, but it's been a great start here, so far.
Jullianna is back
Tintin proposed to Arlene
Loveneverfails bought a dress for under $200
MissCris moved upstate somewhere
Lil' dog is on the mend and misses them like crazy
The Return of Donkeyfish
50 shades of grey is a flop
Men are wild beasts that need to be tamed
I really really really want to drink coke but my new meds cause it to taste sour and flat
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*Writes on chalkboard*
I will not make up lies about Tintin and Arlene
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I will not make up lies about Tintin and Arlene
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