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I used to figure that's what I would do too. Then I got pregnant, and was Terrified of childbirth and people would laugh at me about it and tell me horror stories. I prayed a lot that somehow I just wouldn't feel it or...I dunno, just some way to feel less afraid of actually HAVING a baby.
I ended up having a C-section instead, so it worked out.
Anyway, I'm just saying, I totally sympathize with this.
I ended up having a C-section instead, so it worked out.
Anyway, I'm just saying, I totally sympathize with this.
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If it helps, I've experiened pain at least as bad as (but probably much worse than) childbirth, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
And I'm going to get flamed here, but pain is all relative. There crosses a threshold where it's just more pain on top of pain and it doesn't matter any more.
And I know, I've not had a child, but I had appendicitis for four days thinking it must be the flu since I had just seen the doctor. It was excruciatingly painful and I knew the last three of them I was dying (just not sure what I was dying of). the night it went full hand grenade inside my chest and ruptured. I let out an otherworldly noise that wasn't really a shriek but a call to arms - in this case, call an ambulance, as I was sinking.
My body went numb and I was in danger of falling below the water line in the bathtub (the heat was supposed to give relief). By the time the EMT's got there, I was shaking and could no longer put my boxers back on. They lay me on the floor and took my vitals, and gave my parents an extremely worried look. They said I wasn't doing well and I might not make it (I was still in high school at this time for the record). My buddy who was a volunteer firefighter at the time heard the call over the radio that someone at my address was in dire condition. He pulled an illegal U turn in the middle of downtown traffic and slammed on his lights, he almost made it to my place to pace the ambulance (his car was insanely fast), but they were faster, I was out of the house in less than 5 minutes lights and sirens blaring.
It was a lovely ride over. I kept saying God bless you to the ambulance crew (I had just found Christ in my life shortly before), and the tests afterwards were hot and heavy (with lots of "God bless you's" said to everyone I interacted with). I was really out of it and heard the most beautiful singing (either that was God keeping me calm, or my brain wasn't functioning properly at that point).
A quick CT scan was done, they discovered how much had already spilled out inside me, and immediately moved me to an OR. I went in unconcerned with what might or might not happen to me, and woke up much later with a ton of drains sticking out of my abdomen and gross fluid being drained from me. I was unable to sit up for three days, and fortunately I was on a liquid only diet, or there is no way I'd have been able to deal with going to the bathroom. Many more God bless you's were said to the nursing staff over the next few days.
The pain never stopped being excruciating, and I didn't use the morphine that much. when I did eat solid food, it took an hour to go to the bathroom, and I needed help getting to and from the bed.
I have never heard a pregnancy described as that painful before. For what it's worth, the entire time before and after, it felt like I was getting repeatedly kicked in the nards (there are nerves connecting the abdomen with the nether regions).
If it were even possible, I'd do it again if I were able to somehow not miss work, and if I gained a fraction of the strengh in Christ it gave me.
So flame away, but I don't see having a baby as a horrible thing to be terrified about. You get a shiny new baby at the end of all of it, and a few hours or even a few days of pain makes nearly everyone stronger.
And I'm going to get flamed here, but pain is all relative. There crosses a threshold where it's just more pain on top of pain and it doesn't matter any more.
And I know, I've not had a child, but I had appendicitis for four days thinking it must be the flu since I had just seen the doctor. It was excruciatingly painful and I knew the last three of them I was dying (just not sure what I was dying of). the night it went full hand grenade inside my chest and ruptured. I let out an otherworldly noise that wasn't really a shriek but a call to arms - in this case, call an ambulance, as I was sinking.
My body went numb and I was in danger of falling below the water line in the bathtub (the heat was supposed to give relief). By the time the EMT's got there, I was shaking and could no longer put my boxers back on. They lay me on the floor and took my vitals, and gave my parents an extremely worried look. They said I wasn't doing well and I might not make it (I was still in high school at this time for the record). My buddy who was a volunteer firefighter at the time heard the call over the radio that someone at my address was in dire condition. He pulled an illegal U turn in the middle of downtown traffic and slammed on his lights, he almost made it to my place to pace the ambulance (his car was insanely fast), but they were faster, I was out of the house in less than 5 minutes lights and sirens blaring.
It was a lovely ride over. I kept saying God bless you to the ambulance crew (I had just found Christ in my life shortly before), and the tests afterwards were hot and heavy (with lots of "God bless you's" said to everyone I interacted with). I was really out of it and heard the most beautiful singing (either that was God keeping me calm, or my brain wasn't functioning properly at that point).
A quick CT scan was done, they discovered how much had already spilled out inside me, and immediately moved me to an OR. I went in unconcerned with what might or might not happen to me, and woke up much later with a ton of drains sticking out of my abdomen and gross fluid being drained from me. I was unable to sit up for three days, and fortunately I was on a liquid only diet, or there is no way I'd have been able to deal with going to the bathroom. Many more God bless you's were said to the nursing staff over the next few days.
The pain never stopped being excruciating, and I didn't use the morphine that much. when I did eat solid food, it took an hour to go to the bathroom, and I needed help getting to and from the bed.
I have never heard a pregnancy described as that painful before. For what it's worth, the entire time before and after, it felt like I was getting repeatedly kicked in the nards (there are nerves connecting the abdomen with the nether regions).
If it were even possible, I'd do it again if I were able to somehow not miss work, and if I gained a fraction of the strengh in Christ it gave me.
So flame away, but I don't see having a baby as a horrible thing to be terrified about. You get a shiny new baby at the end of all of it, and a few hours or even a few days of pain makes nearly everyone stronger.
...a 6-8 pound baby coming out of your genitalia, ripping and pushing things on its way, with a chance of death to the mother if things go wrong, doesn't sound terrifying to you?
Yes, yes, you get to hold your child after, you forget the pain. But it's still terrifying. Not that I've had a child, but it's still painful and scary to think about that part.
Yes, yes, you get to hold your child after, you forget the pain. But it's still terrifying. Not that I've had a child, but it's still painful and scary to think about that part.
S
You only quoted the very end of my post. I made a pretty compelling case why childbirth is not the most painful thing imaginable for the average woman in a developed nation. If you thought my story was at all bad, I know people who have endured far worse.
Pregnancy isn't the trump card it used to be with modern medicine. Lots of people live on a daily basis with the same level of pain or more. There is no treatment for them.
Statisically, it's about as likely as dying in a car accident unless you're a high risk mother, and people have accepted that risk every day.
Perhaps I'm way too pragmatic about it, but it doesn't seem all that scary.
Then again, I've spent every year of my life watching my disabled mother struggle to move, breathe, and eat at times. I have a friend who is going to get to experience that within the next few years with his wife.
I'm just saying, if you want to be terrified, be terrified of that.
Pregnancy isn't the trump card it used to be with modern medicine. Lots of people live on a daily basis with the same level of pain or more. There is no treatment for them.
Statisically, it's about as likely as dying in a car accident unless you're a high risk mother, and people have accepted that risk every day.
Perhaps I'm way too pragmatic about it, but it doesn't seem all that scary.
Then again, I've spent every year of my life watching my disabled mother struggle to move, breathe, and eat at times. I have a friend who is going to get to experience that within the next few years with his wife.
I'm just saying, if you want to be terrified, be terrified of that.