Actually... a guy who cooked for me would definitely have me a little starry-eyed.
Also...
* Good manners (to everyone, not just certain people.)
* Good listener, but someone who shares everything on his mind as well.
* Compassionate, but knows when to put his foot down when needed (is understanding but doesn't enable people, including me.)
* Responsible and keeps his word.
* Great sense of humor.
And on a more serious note, loyalty and faithfulness (which I definitely know is required by both people in the relationship.)
But *please* don't tell me that you need me or love me and then go download visuals of naked women. You'll utterly crush my heart. ("Don't break this heart of mine... Just remember: it might not heal this time." -- Toto).
I've had lots of guy friends who struggle with this and I'm more than happy to listen and pray for them as friends, but on a personal level, it's not something I could ever put up with again in another relationship. I don't expect perfection, but if it's a regular, obsessive habit or addiction, I would have to say no to anything more than a friendship.
In fact, this is a major reason why I've been single for so long. I'd rather be alone than have to deal with all that.
It would be nice to find someone who could accept that I'm real--with all the flaws that come with it--and not a fantasy.