No I actually don't do this to other people, but I get the feeling you do, based on what I'm reading. Part of what I do for living is to observe and get a feel for people. Your responses and line of questioning is no different than the people I deal with on a day to day basis. Honestly, if anything, I think someone(s) hurt you. If that's true, I'm sorry that you had to go through it. But it's no excuse to try and accuse all men of playing double standards in regards to what you ask.
Have I been hurt? Yes, on multiple occasions. Do I blame all women for doing it? No, because I know there are good women out there. I just had the rotten luck of being interested and/or dating bad ones that I didn't know were horrible people. Right now, there's a woman that I know who might be dropping hints that she likes me. I like her too, but my hesitance in going out with her is she has been married before and I don't know what happened that caused the divorce. I'm hoping she wasn't the one, but I can't say for sure that's the case. But there are some good signs coming from, such as she's very involved with her kids and her grandkids (she had her first child at 18 y/o, 43 now) and being kind to my brother with autism. Does that seal the deal? No. I need to see where her heart is with God and if she has a good relationship with him.
Either way, in terms of going out on a date, I shouldn't be this hesitant, and there are other men that are the same way. We would prefer women to stay abstinent until marriage. Adultery is a sin. We understand there are certain circumstances where women may not have predicted, but just to go and do it, knowing the consequences, is very different. I argue the same thing about men. Many of us do need to restrain ourselves. The bad ones, typically, set the good ones up to get hurt, with or without knowing it. So, yes, it's annoying to for women (and men) to hear to not have sex before marriage, but it needs said, especially in a secular society we live in today. God's Word and plan for us is far important than what a group of non-believers have to say on the contrary.