In my opinion in this case you are talking about dating without commitment."For example, lets say you are a woman, you met a guy, you guys talked a lot over the days or years, none of you ever asked the other out. He meets you one day and proposes."
I would say in that scenario that you dated her casually( you talked,you spent hours weeks months years talking) but no commitment no exclusivity you can still like or talk to other men/women.
Yes it is possible but for me it is not a good idea Marriage is a serious thing. A commitment for life. Jumping into marriage without getting to know each other first will going to be a disaster in my opinion, because even after marriage there are still some things about marriage and about your spouse that you still don't know.
Please can I ask, how long you've been married now? 25 years? 30 years? 40 years? 50 years? If you are with her more than those years I've mentioned I can say that it works for you
I would say in that scenario that you dated her casually( you talked,you spent hours weeks months years talking) but no commitment no exclusivity you can still like or talk to other men/women.
Yes it is possible but for me it is not a good idea Marriage is a serious thing. A commitment for life. Jumping into marriage without getting to know each other first will going to be a disaster in my opinion, because even after marriage there are still some things about marriage and about your spouse that you still don't know.
Please can I ask, how long you've been married now? 25 years? 30 years? 40 years? 50 years? If you are with her more than those years I've mentioned I can say that it works for you
That's all there is to it. What commitment is there in that? Just labeling someone that they are yours before marriage? Whenever they want, they can leave you and no law or anything holds them to any consequences of leaving you, lying to you, not providing for you or even marrying someone else or having sex with another person. Most Guys tell me this, young adult men, "If you want a girl to date you or marry you, even just for the sex, you got to do this to her, say stuff like this to her, but her this and that, when she says this-do that, etc. Then when you propose she'll marry you, and then you won't need to buy her stuff, say that stuff anymore, but she'll still have sex with you and she'll just get over the fact you changed. She'll mature and get over it like everything else. Just don't let her catch you cheating if you are. "
When I hear this all the time, it disgust me, but they won't stop bringing it up to me randomly, even strangers! Women are more often than not used at sex toolsand other things. Women focus on the way they are treated, so if a guy can convince them he cares so much then she marries him, then he won't have to put in that effort anymore because he's already got what he wants. He won his prize. Now he can stop the sweet stuff if he wants. Not all guys completely stop, bit it often waters down a whole lot more because he never cared much truly in the first place. It's not only men who are like this either, it's just that I see it more often men are that way. I'm pretty sure it's quite natural. But it's terrible you don't find more men waiting to save the kisses, sex, sweet romantic talk for marriage. You don't need that stuff to love or get to know someone if you want to marry them. Talking isn't everything, but to simply know a man or woman is godly things can work out. Some people in my family married without sex and kissing or anything romantic before marriage, and they've been married over 30 years. They dated, but see, all that was just talking at work and eating or talking about what you believe, what goals you have, how many kids you want, etc. There was no need for them to buy gifts, sweet talk, call each other sexy names or kiss and make out. They spoke about who they were, what they want, how they feel about each other and why they think they would be good for marriage. Their marriage is wonderful, especially compared to most people's. So the dating was just talking pretty much. But I can do all that and not date, and I did. But when guys saw I didn't dare my wife, they tried to tell me she isn't going to marry me if I don't ask her out, because she'll think I don't want her. But instead of listening to them, I know if it's God's will and if she truly wants me, she will end up marrying me and she will keep holding on to be with me, plus I let her know I liked her a lot. The was no need to date. She wanted me, so she waited for me to propose. I did. That simple. There is no need for commitment before marriage. A man simply takes a look at the will of God, his life, the women around him and who God wants him to be with or even in his own opinion who he wants to be with, when he decides he can let the woman know he wants to marry her. She can do the same and decide if she wants to, if she needs to know more first or if she understands the man enough to know she wants to marry him or not. They can get to know each other more or marry or just decide it will never happen. Marriage is commitment, giving up yourself to be for someone else and no longer yourself, you are giving yourself to them. That isn't needed or even a part of dating except to imagine it without being held under any consequences of they cheat or do anything, they can just say "yeah, I cheated, but what are you going to do about it? I'm not your husband or wife." many guys say they will never marry, but they will be dating forever. Why? For sex with many different girls, bragging about who had sex with more girls and how they are all different in bed or if his buddy can have her next week end when he gets bored with this girlfriend. Some guys want romance and love, yes, it's not always just about sex. But some guys don't want to go through the thought of the ever possibly being a divorce, because many of us know the woman usually takes the kids,house, and he ends up almost losing all his money the next countless paychecks going to child support and such. They try to get the love and everything they want from the woman without marrying so they won't likely suffer possible financial consequences. There are some other reasons too.
I don't see why dating would have any reality to commitment. You can both think there is, but in reality you can do whatever you want and not be held off have any biblical comeback to say they are wrong from breaking a commitment. But you can do that in marriage.
