Would you or do you share bank accounts with your spouse?

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Tommy379

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It depends on how much I trust her with money. If she has an itchy trigger finger, I have to make sure she doesn't use up all our ammo. ;)
You know, people joke about women spending too much, going shopping and stuff, but check out some data if you have a chance on Google. Men be running up revolving debt like crazy.
 
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Miri

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You know, people joke about women spending too much, going shopping and stuff, but check out some data if you have a chance on Google. Men be running up revolving debt like crazy.

A new handbag and a bit of hair dye, a bit of jewellery, we have modest
needs really.
 

Tommy379

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A new handbag and a bit of hair dye, a bit of jewellery, we have modest
needs really.
My needs are Beef, beer, bacon, and the love of a good woman. Not necessarily in that order.
 

melita916

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before getting married, we talked about finances. we were completely honest with each other about whatever debt we had. we agreed how we wanted to handle da monies.

now that we are married, although he takes care of the bills, i have access to EVERYTHING. i don't check often, but i do look at our account. what we do is working for us. each couple is different.
 
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You know, people joke about women spending too much, going shopping and stuff, but check out some data if you have a chance on Google. Men be running up revolving debt like crazy.
Yea, people are debt crazy now. I know about that. But I was talking about what I would do, not what all guys should do. ;) I am very careful with my moneys..
 

Dino246

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My needs are Beef, beer, bacon, and the love of a good woman. Not necessarily in that order.
I suspect that you will eventually also need boots and boxers. Not necessarily in that order.
 

Dino246

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To the OP Question... When I was married, my ex and I shared a primary bank account and a credit card account. Fortunately, we didn't have problems with money being spent mysteriously, but I would be very cautious about having that arrangement again. It was a pain to undo after the separation.

I would suggest that each have a personal account, and a shared account they both can access. Money for shared bills gets transferred to the joint account and paid from there.
 
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Jennie-Mae

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This might be a bit out of context, but all y’all seem to have access to a lot of fancy reactions to others posts. Me, looks like a big old “like” is the only tool I’ve been equipped with lol. Or do I have too much air between my ears to find those other icons?
 

Lynx

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before getting married, we talked about finances. we were completely honest with each other about whatever debt we had. we agreed how we wanted to handle da monies.

now that we are married, although he takes care of the bills, i have access to EVERYTHING. i don't check often, but i do look at our account. what we do is working for us. each couple is different.
Them last two sentences there at the end, that's the most important and relevant thing anybody has said yet in this whole thread.
 

Lynx

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This might be a bit out of context, but all y’all seem to have access to a lot of fancy reactions to others posts. Me, looks like a big old “like” is the only tool I’ve been equipped with lol. Or do I have too much air between my ears to find those other icons?
If you are on a phone, put your finger on that like icon for a few seconds and you will get a long line of options. Click on the arrow button at the side of those options and you will get more.
 

Lynx

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For some reason this thread reminds me so much of an old Jerry Jordan audio skit.
 
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Jennie-Mae

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If you are on a phone, put your finger on that like icon for a few seconds and you will get a long line of options. Click on the arrow button at the side of those options and you will get more.
I’m much obliged for your assistance:).
 

Deade

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before getting married, we talked about finances. we were completely honest with each other about whatever debt we had. we agreed how we wanted to handle da monies.

now that we are married, although he takes care of the bills, i have access to EVERYTHING. i don't check often, but i do look at our account. what we do is working for us. each couple is different.
Yes Melita, communication in relationships is what it is all about. I was married twice 16 and 20 years respectively. I always expected, and got, joint accounts because I felt it showed trust. My first wife was a spendthrift and couldn't stand to hold on to money. We made very good money so I eventually opened up a savings account in my name only and hid some money there. It didn't hurt us any. When she finally found out, one time when I came up with some needed cash, she was pleasantly surprised. She knew money burned a hole in her pocket so she didn't mind that I would stash a little.

In my second marriage, my wife told me she could never manage a bank account and I would have to do it. I told her I could do it just fine, but being as how she needed the practice, she would do it. I said I would be around to help until she got the hang of it. She was never taught to be independent. Today, she is independent and manages just fine.

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Oncefallen

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#36
My wife and I share bank accounts and we have both started with nothing and have both contributed to what we have now. My wife and I are good about saving money and she is very good at managing our bank account. If you don't trust your spouse or you are afraid they will spend all the money, then it's probably better to not marry them. :giggle:
I fixed it for ya.
 
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This might be a bit out of context, but all y’all seem to have access to a lot of fancy reactions to others posts. Me, looks like a big old “like” is the only tool I’ve been equipped with lol. Or do I have too much air between my ears to find those other icons?
When I'm using CC my phone (which is almost neveer), the thumbs-up symbol is the only one available. On my desktop or laptop there's a bunch of others to choose from.
 

tourist

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#38
All bank accounts are in both names as we trust each other explicitly.
 
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toinena

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When I'm using CC my phone (which is almost neveer), the thumbs-up symbol is the only one available. On my desktop or laptop there's a bunch of others to choose from.
not true. I am on my phone. And I just gave you an agree. You simply hold your thumb a bit longer on the thumb, and you get all the reactions you need.
 

tourist

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This might be a bit out of context, but all y’all seem to have access to a lot of fancy reactions to others posts. Me, looks like a big old “like” is the only tool I’ve been equipped with lol. Or do I have too much air between my ears to find those other icons?
If you are on a PC place the curser over the like symbol and the other symbols will appear. Not sure about smart phones but if the curse hovers over the like symbol the other options will be available.