Not really . I'm kinda 50/50 . I wasn't expecting the criticism from the question asked. Everyone is entitled to opinions but it that how they respond to the lost as well? I know I'll never bring something like that up again ....
hey, i'm new also, so i feel compelled to speak up a bit.
i don't want you to get the wrong idea about these people and community. i genuinely admire your desire to seek counsel of christian brothers and sisters if you are seeking to do what is right. that is commendable. i also can understand your frustration, as i believe you are earnestly seeking advice.
unfortunately, *laugh* you have asked about a subject that is one of MANY topics in which there is only gray area and so it continues to be widely debated. this subject has been word-studied to death and the subject of (married) oral sex is simply not specifically discussed in the bible, and anyone who tells you differently is taking a great deal of liberty in their interpretation.
it appears both sides have been presented fairly well, and now the ball is really in your court. while i feel ill-qualified to advise you whether this is right or wrong, academically, the answer to this is the same answer that applies to nearly every subject in the bible where we aren't given clear and specific instruction:
if this tugs at your spirit, i would encourage to not ignore that conviction, but follow it up with prayer. and in this case, conversation -- only you and your spouse can ultimately decide for yourselves as to what you both can agree is right for you (as aptly spoke by previous folks).
additionally, the bible also tells us that we are held sometimes to a higher level of accountability or different level of authority on certain topics that what other christians might find completely acceptable or held accountable for. if this is what you believe (or your spouse's) conviction is, then it is wrong for YOU no matter what any other christian tells you that you should do. as a general rule, if you don't have peace about a subject, it is better for you to abstain or wait in any "gray area" such as this, until you have peace in your spirit. somebody suggested talking to a pastor for guidance, and in any of these gray areas, it's a great piece of advice as well.
i want to be very clear, only when the subject is specifically not addressed in scripture do we have that freedom to pray and seek that boundary ourselves. for example the bible says we aren't to kill. there is no gray area, and therefore, God will never give you a level of acceptable authority that contradicts his word. the above is only true when there is no clear and specific instruction.
i really hope you don't judge this community and ALL the people based upon some of the responses. this is a community of all different kinds of people, and my limited experience has led me to conclude that the vast majority of them have proven to be kind and appear quite sincere. if you enjoy discussion with other christians about chrisitan living, i think you will find many people who will be happy to engage with you.