I had long debated on whether or not I should even anything, because 9 1/2 times out of 10 I usually don't.
But in this case, I would like to say something, and I'm guessing, Ugly, that you won't see it anyway because I know that in another thread you blatantly stated that I am one of the 60+ people on your Ignore List.
That doesn't bother me. As I said before, on some days, I consider it to be an honor because they you won't criticize me as much as I've seen you tear into other people.
But what I would like to say is that I always see a trend with your posts. Your biggest concern here often seems to be "keeping people in line". I have seen many people, often those who are new to this site and unfamiliar with its workings, post deeply personal and sometimes painful information, hoping for support. But your answers, almost always, are more concerned with the fact that they posted in the wrong area of the forum, are advertising for a date, or are doing things that are somehow violations (or perceived violations) of the site rules. I have also seen many of your posts in which you tell people that the pain they are suffering is due to their own poor choices, and only they have control over that.
Now, first of all, I agree that keeping order is important--but is that not what we have moderators for? I've often seen people write a post revealing a deep and cutting hurt--with your response pretty much being, "Don't post it here, Stupid! Can't you see it's supposed to be in the ..... Forum instead?"
I have also often then in turn seen you complain about fallouts with others, as well as prayer for yourself and your own physical and medical needs. I understand that you have been through a lot yourself, and I am truly sorry for that.
But the way to reap compassion, prayer, and understanding... is to first begin to sow it yourself.
I understand that sometimes there is a need to "say it like it is"--that's what I'm doing right here.
But if you can't temper and balance that with basic human consideration and a little more compassion on people who are just starting here, why are you so surprised to receive blunt answers that feel devoid of emotion when you present your own problems?