Whats to Be Done For the BDF?

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blue_ladybug

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She's a returning member, Lynn. She was here for quite awhile last time..

Well, according to your profile, you haven't been here long. Should we treat you like that? (And, I'm seeing the trolls as long-term users, not newbies.)
 
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kaylagrl

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Your Church sounds quite fun Kayla.

So a guy beat up his wife, and then the elders gave him a proper licking, outside the main porch, or round the back?
Lol not my church. Thats just my personal way to deal with the situation ;)
 

J7

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I think it is a good way though.

Really there should not be domestic violence in the Church, but there are some funny things that happen behind closed doors.

Also some women batter men. That's ugly too.
 

J7

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Nah, I think he would have to be cast outside the gates for a week
 
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kaylagrl

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I think it is a good way though.

Really there should not be domestic violence in the Church, but there are some funny things that happen behind closed doors.

Also some women batter men. That's ugly too.

Its wrong either way. And I know people will say you dont solve violence with violence,but sometimes people need to understand that hitting hurts since apparently they didnt learn this as children. A hot stove burns and many of us learned that by experience. So if you haul off and slap your spouse,imo,you ought to feel the same sting back. Then you may possibly grow up and act like an adult.
 
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...Thanks! Just wondering, though...how did you get the smiley emoji?
That is done by turning ON your NUMLOCK... then holding down the ALT key while you type 1 on the numeric pad to the right of your keyboard. For it to be the size of mine, highlight the smiley face, and then select the size "7" from the toolbar in the message box.
 
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just gotta toughen up i guess...... this is only internet the key is not to take it so seriously......... i personally like the bible discussion forum
 
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Yes, if I am causing problems. I don't mind correction
People have mostly gotten used to me not being a lady. They've gotten used to me.

BUT, I had a total meltdown a year and a half ago. I wrote a rather long post on what was wrong with God in full I've-had-more-than-enough mode.

If I had been a newbie, I would have been banned at that moment. (I would not be surprised to learn I was reported. Never got any reprimand for it, but I've been told often enough that I'm reported to figure out 90% of those who report me I never learn about. lol)

There are people so angry with God they want others to know about it. And they come on here to tell us. And, honestly? If what they tell of their lives is true, I'd be angry with God myself. (Distinctly, because when we're in full meltdown we don't notice the good God gives us, so that part of what happened doesn't come out.)

Because of that, I don't have problems often with new trolls. I don't think the majority of people who are called trolls are trolls. But we surely have long-term trolls on here. Those are the ones I wish weren't... on here!
 
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just gotta toughen up i guess...... this is only internet the key is not to take it so seriously......... i personally like the bible discussion forum
You know what a toughened up lamb is? Mutton!

We're not called to toughen up. We're called to have God soften our hearts.
 

Seekingfamily

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What I meant by what I stated...To look at their profile, how long they have been saved (Are they babes?)
 

BillG

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That is done by turning ON your NUMLOCK... then holding down the ALT key while you type 1 on the numeric pad to the right of your keyboard. For it to be the size of mine, highlight the smiley face, and then select the size "7" from the toolbar in the message box.
Can you do it on an iPad
 

BillG

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What I meant by what I stated...To look at their profile, how long they have been saved (Are they babes?)
Its interesting you say that.
I think people can have been saved for years but still be babes.
 

Seekingfamily

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True...just like those that got saved, but than something happened in their life (Like false imprisonment where the bible is not available). Or even for the fact of backsliding, which God said would happen (referencing from Hosea)
 
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Miri

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An assumption being made -- that the men doing the bullying are that aggressive all the time. It's usually backhanded, not fisted. Passive-aggressive. They deflect anything a woman says or simply ignore her.

Notice the ratio for men to women specifically on the BDF. It looks like a military base on purpose. We're still in child status there -- "Children should be seen, not heard." But the Christian version of that is called "submitting." What a woman says shouldn't be taken too seriously because they should be submitting, not talking.

So which women are left? The ones who will buy that right after we buy a mansion for a dollar.

The problem is the women who were raised to believe we're supposed to submit to any man, the ones who were abused, and the ones who are new in Christ don't know they're being bullied into that. Which brings even more women stuck into the tar pit while the bullies are in it for a donnybrook.

And it's not just women. Those new in Christ, the young, and the unsure, all see the bullies as "the pillars in the community" simply because they know a lot of verses, they talk a lot and no one says much against what they say, and they're adults. Meanwhile, the intelligent and kind people leave BDF all together so the bullies get exactly what they want -- full control of the donnybrook!

That's the heat. AND it's a good marketing plan, or this site would have folded years ago.
I know what, why don't we all March en mass to the BDF and chain ourselves to the railings. Lol
It worked for the suffragettes. (Women in the UK who fought for the right to vote).


10 surprising facts about the Suffragettes | History Extra
 

BillG

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True...just like those that got saved, but than something happened in their life (Like false imprisonment where the bible is not available). Or even for the fact of backsliding, which God said would happen (referencing from Hosea)
Still in Christ though.
Thsts the amazing thing.