Hey everyone,
I was flipping through a magazine while waiting for an appointment, and I happened to glance over an interview with a famous pop singer and actress. During the interview, it was noted that each of these performers rarely gave interviews and even when they did, they would seldom share anything more than their thoughts on their current project or on the industry itself.
When asked why, both celebrities answered that they felt it was necessary to keep an aura of "mystery" around themselves in order to keep the public wanting more.
I have often wondered if this is what people prefer when dating as well.
I'm not sure if this is true for men (?), but I know I have read several articles before that advise women to "maintain a little mystery" in order to "keep a man's interest."
First of all, anyone familiar with my posts knows that I'm about as opposite from the term "mysterious" as one could get. If someone is sincere, asks good questions, is willing to share of themselves and seems trustworthy, it won't take me long to spill pretty much my entire life history (don't worry... it takes less than 10 minutes!
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And because communication is something I personally gravitate towards, I would just naturally feel more comfortable with someone who has a more open personality. A guy who was trying to be "mysterious" would make me think he was playing hard to get, and if he was extremely resistant to sharing anything about his life, I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't be the right one for him, because I am always trying to get people to talk about their lives and thoughts.
And here's where it gets a little tricky: I've met some people who weren't trying to be mysterious at all--they were just shy, or had never had anyone show an interest in THEIR interests--so once they were asked about their hobbies or life experiences, they were more than happy to share when given an opportunity.
On the flip side, I've also met some people who, bless their hearts, are being honest--and I totally respect that--but they might also share a wee bit much too soon (hint: please don't tell me about your personal life with your ex-wife on the first date.)
But, all of this might just be me.
Instead, I'd like to know what YOU think:
* Do you consider yourself to be pretty open, or do you like to stay more reserved and "mysterious"? Why or why not?
* When looking for a significant other, do you prefer THEM to be very open, or more held back, and why?
* Where are the boundaries? When is someone too open, and when are they being so "mysterious" that they come across as detached or distant?
* What if both people are the "mysterious" types... Would that hinder communication? And what if one is a sharer and the other holds back--would they still be able to work out a good line of communication?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
I was flipping through a magazine while waiting for an appointment, and I happened to glance over an interview with a famous pop singer and actress. During the interview, it was noted that each of these performers rarely gave interviews and even when they did, they would seldom share anything more than their thoughts on their current project or on the industry itself.
When asked why, both celebrities answered that they felt it was necessary to keep an aura of "mystery" around themselves in order to keep the public wanting more.
I have often wondered if this is what people prefer when dating as well.
I'm not sure if this is true for men (?), but I know I have read several articles before that advise women to "maintain a little mystery" in order to "keep a man's interest."
First of all, anyone familiar with my posts knows that I'm about as opposite from the term "mysterious" as one could get. If someone is sincere, asks good questions, is willing to share of themselves and seems trustworthy, it won't take me long to spill pretty much my entire life history (don't worry... it takes less than 10 minutes!
) And because communication is something I personally gravitate towards, I would just naturally feel more comfortable with someone who has a more open personality. A guy who was trying to be "mysterious" would make me think he was playing hard to get, and if he was extremely resistant to sharing anything about his life, I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't be the right one for him, because I am always trying to get people to talk about their lives and thoughts.
And here's where it gets a little tricky: I've met some people who weren't trying to be mysterious at all--they were just shy, or had never had anyone show an interest in THEIR interests--so once they were asked about their hobbies or life experiences, they were more than happy to share when given an opportunity.
On the flip side, I've also met some people who, bless their hearts, are being honest--and I totally respect that--but they might also share a wee bit much too soon (hint: please don't tell me about your personal life with your ex-wife on the first date.)
But, all of this might just be me.
Instead, I'd like to know what YOU think:
* Do you consider yourself to be pretty open, or do you like to stay more reserved and "mysterious"? Why or why not?
* When looking for a significant other, do you prefer THEM to be very open, or more held back, and why?
* Where are the boundaries? When is someone too open, and when are they being so "mysterious" that they come across as detached or distant?
* What if both people are the "mysterious" types... Would that hinder communication? And what if one is a sharer and the other holds back--would they still be able to work out a good line of communication?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
