I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through, girl. My heart ached as I read your posts, and I wish I could give you a hug. I know how difficult and painful it must be for you. Have you ever considered talking with a couple counselor? Do you think that's something that might be helpful for you personally? Do you think your husband might consider going with you? I just said a prayer for you and your husband, and I hope that God will give you insight into the ways you may express love with each other and enable you both to serve one another in love. Please know that we all care about you and are here to support you. I know it’s not easy, but stay strong in the Lord. He is able to work mightily in the lives of our loved ones in answer to earnest prayer. Sending hugs & prayers your way!
advice please. I feel like My husband doesn't love me anymore
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I am reading a book called "How to Fight for Your Marriage Without Fighting With Each Other" by Dr. Raymond Force. It is a very insightful (and biblically based) book and full of great information about marriage that hadn't occurred to me in all the years I have been married but make perfect sense...and I have read A LOT of books on marriage. Check it out and see if it may help you and your husband navigate through these difficult waters.
It really sounds as if the two of you have gotten off track. I know how those pictures must have hurt. I am going to pray for both of your hearts. You feel jealous and unappreciated. I understand. I wonder what he is feeling and what is motivating him? It also sounds as if you don't share your relationship to God with each other. Tears, accusations, and roving eyes aren't things that make a marriage strong. They tear it apart. I would like to recommend a book to you. It is The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O'Martian. You can't do anything about your husband's shortcomings. You can only work on yourself. Once God comforts and changes your heart, your husband will respond to that change. Praying Scriptural, wifely, prayers over your husband will help grace and forgiveness to flow through your heart. Ask God to show you what you need to be doing. Read 1 Peter 3:1-9. This will help get you started back to the right path. Notice verse 7. Your husband's prayers can be hindered if he is not treating you in a way that is pleasing to God. If his prayers are hindered or even absent, all kinds of things will be out of wack in his life. He really needs prayer. I will also pray for you both and for you to find strength, comfort, and direction from God during this hard time. God bless you both.
They weren't nude photos. Right? I don't know. It's like, when you watch movies, you're looking at guys and women in them a lot of times. I almost wonder if it's essential for guys to look at multiple women, married or not... A lot. It's unavoidable anyways. And of course I would say women, married or not, should and will look at other guys. One, it's also unavoidable. Two, perhaps married couples isolate themselves too much and too little for whatever reason. I mean, can guys and women even be friends... Lemme tell you, if that's fine, I might want and need to see my friend's face, and outfit, woman or man. How else can you tell if a woman has been struck if you don't see her black eye? How can you tell she is poor and needs financial assistance if you don't see the condition of her clothing and hair?
Once again, don't worry... Perhaps hope for change, but don't worry. Stuff goes through my head about how I've been cheated on and very thoroughly with so many different people. It starts to go through my head how so many things have been kept from me... And it's like, you know what... I do not wish that on anyone. That's why I hope to be soooo single... Or soooo married... But it's almost like not worth it to be married... Because the pain that comes with it. I guess I gotta go not worry some more and do unto others as I would have them do unto me... And I hope at least one person will be that way with you... Or just don't worry. That's like always so almost miraculous...
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If he has always been lacking showing affection then it is likely he still loves you but just doesn't express it very well. Have you actually told him that you would enjoy more attention, just a quite night alone together by the fire or going to a movie or something. In today's world it is very easy to get caught up in everyday life and forget to stop and enjoy things sometimes. Is he really busy at work ? Stressed about his job ? I think you should tell him how you really feel and not keep it locked up inside yourself. Tell him that you love him and want more affection from him. He likely is not happy that you went through his phone. Talk to him and see if you two can forgive anything in the past and start over with God as your guide. I wish you the best.
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sounds like hes seeking a outside source for some stimulation to his desires and the the reason why needs to be brought into the open between you and him. His desire to live or seek carnal desires implies hes gotten weak in his relationship with the Lord and he needs to correct that first really so he can begin to heal, overcome, and be led back to the right way to be a prop saint and husband.
Be willing to self evaluate and be honest of any negative things you may have been doing to contribute to the problems.
Do you pray together?
It is recommended.
Consider fasting for healing and restoration.
Pray daily, dig into the word.
If necessary yes counseling could be very helpful.
God bless
Be willing to self evaluate and be honest of any negative things you may have been doing to contribute to the problems.
Do you pray together?
It is recommended.
Consider fasting for healing and restoration.
Pray daily, dig into the word.
If necessary yes counseling could be very helpful.
God bless
Iam so sorry you going through this all i never marrried all i can do is praying for you. Stay calm n be patience sis, ask our Jesus to come to your family n healing your family and maybe you can try to speak to your husband n try to hear each others. Quality time together n reminding each others if you married coz of love.
No marriage without love.
Blessing amen
No marriage without love.
Blessing amen
Amen yes i aggree with this in angry n bitterness we better be silent so we wont hurt others heart. N right dont let the mad survive long in your family, try to communicate it slowly n pray in heart to open yout both hearts so you both can sits together n listening each other with cold head.
Blessing amen
Blessing amen
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I read this from a Chicken Soup Book or online submission at least...off the CS website. It's not written like that, of course. I did paraphrase a great deal.
The gist is it takes work and sometimes a lot of tongue in cheek compliments to make it work. A lot of forgiveness and a lot of communication. That's what I"ve gleaned from reading, I'm sorry to say not experience here on earth.
The gist is it takes work and sometimes a lot of tongue in cheek compliments to make it work. A lot of forgiveness and a lot of communication. That's what I"ve gleaned from reading, I'm sorry to say not experience here on earth.
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God bless amen
The problem is not the internet but rather the inappropriate behavior of your husband. What he does for the church is irrelevant but was important is how he treats you as his wife. You should be his first priority and not his activity in church. As your husband cannot be trusted you should continue to monitor is phone and sites he has gone to on the internet. If nothing has really change you may need to consider taking appropriate action to resolve the issue especially since you believe that he no longer loves you.